Lee's first husband was Scott Atkins, a former bandmate. Later, she was married to James Kottak, drummer for the heavy metal band Scorpions and fellow bandmember of Kottak. They had three children together: Tobi (a girl) born 1991, Miles born in 1992 and Matthew in 1997, but have since divorced. Athena was voted for Best Female Drummer and won at the "Rock City - Rockies".. In the 7th Annual L.A. Music Awards, Athena was nominated for "BEST DRUMMER" (Males and Females) category. She was the first female ever nominated in the history of the L.A. Music Awards. Athena had a battle with breast cancer, but since 1999, has been in remission.
As of 2011 she is still playing drums with various artists and is endorsed by Rockett Drumworks which is owned by longtime friend Rikki Rockett of the band Poison. Her first book, titled "Coming in Second", came out in October 2011. Since 2012, she has been a cast member of the Fuse reality TV series Ex-Wives of Rock.