Breeder is a derogatory term for people who have children, particularly for parents who purportedly overfocus on their children and (allegedly) abandon their previous friends and lifestyle; or to women who give birth to many children, often with the derisive implication that they have "too many" offspring. The phrases "breeder, not parent" (BNP) or "parent, not breeder" (PNB) are used by some childfree individuals to differentiate between what they regard as positive and negative parenting.
The use of "breeder" in this way is not new. It appears, for example, in Jonathan Swift's A Modest Proposal, widely acknowledged as the preeminent English satirical essay, in which Swift repeatedly uses the term.
|“||The number of souls in this kingdom being usually reckoned one million and a half, of these I calculate there may be about two hundred thousand couple whose wives are breeders; from which number I subtract thirty thousand couples who are able to maintain their own children, although I apprehend there cannot be so many, under the present distresses of the kingdom; but this being granted, there will remain an hundred and seventy thousand breeders. [Note that the "modest proposal", involves breeding children for the epicurean enjoyment of the privileged classes.]||”|
Some parents resent being referred to as "breeders", and feel that the word unduly reduces the process of child-raising to animal husbandry.
The term was part of a 2006 controversy in the heavily gay resort town of Provincetown, Massachusetts, when petitioners against same-sex marriage whose identity was published complained of having been called "breeders". SFGate described the term as "a joking or derogatory slur used by gays to describe heterosexuals".
Similarly, the term "welfare breeder" is colloquially and pejoratively used to refer to a person who is suspected of having children in order to obtain government resources, similar to the term welfare queen.
- Yoffe, Emily (2006-06-14). "My Mommy War". Slate magazine. Retrieved 2007-03-21.
- Ling Liu (2006-07-26). "Provincetown Straights Complain". SFGate.com. Archived from the original on 2007-03-04. Retrieved 2007-03-21.