Enmeshment is a state of cross-generational bonding within a family, whereby a child (normally of the opposite sex) becomes a surrogate spouse for their mother or father.
Salvador Minuchin introduced the concept of enmeshment to describe families where personal boundaries were diffuse, sub-systems undifferentiated, and over-concern for others led to a loss of autonomous development. Enmeshed in parental needs, trapped in a discrepant role function, a child may lose its capacity for self-direction;, its own distinctiveness, under the weight of psychic incest; and, if family pressures increase, may end up becoming the identified patient or family scapegoat.
- John Bradshaw, Reclaiming Virtue (2009) p. 390
- Bradshaw, p. 272
- R. Abell, Own Your Own Life (1977) p. 119-22
- H. & L. Goldberg, Family Therapy: An Overview (2008) p. 244 and p. 467
- Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking (1983) p. 167
- R. C. Schwartz, Internal Family Systems Therapy (1997) p. 162
- Robert Bly, Iron John (1991) p. 170 and p. 185-7
- Goldberg, p. 239
- Terence Real, I Don't Want to Talk About It (1997) p. 206 and p. 360
- R. Skynner/J. Cleese, Families and how to survive them (1993) p. 93 and p. 213
- Goldenberg, p. 410
- Skynner, p. 93
- D. Sedgwick, Jung and Searles (1993) p. 113
Robin Skynner, One Flesh, Separate Persons (London 1976)