Fake orgasm

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A fake orgasm is the result of a person who pretended to have an orgasm without actually experiencing one. It usually means simulating or acting out behaviors, such as body movements, vocal sounds, and sequences of apparent intensification followed by apparent release, typically associated with orgasm. It can also include giving verbal indications that orgasm occurred.

Faking orgasm and gender[edit]

Contrary to popular beliefs, women are not the only gender to fake orgasms. A random-sample telephone poll of 1,501 Americans has shown that 48% of women and 11% of men faked orgasm.[1] Faking orgasms in men becomes easier while using condoms, since ejaculation usually accompanies orgasm in males.[2]

Reasons for faking an orgasm[edit]

Reasons for faking orgasm based on ABC News 2004 "The American Sex Survey" poll.[1]

Orgasm is not always achieved easily during sexual activity. In both sexes, the condition of being unable to orgasm during sex is called anorgasmia; it can be caused by a variety of factors, including factors in one's life such as stress, anxiety, depression, or fatigue, as well as factors related to the sex itself, including worry, guilt, fear of painful intercourse, fear of pregnancy, the undesirability of a partner and the undesirability of a setting. It can also be caused by drug use, including alcohol and other drugs, or side effects from prescription drugs.[3]

People can fake orgasms for number of reasons, such as when their partner wants them to orgasm but they are unable, or when they desire to stop having sex but are not comfortable telling their partner directly, avoiding negative consequences, or for pleasing their partner.[4]

That women should fake an orgasm was recommended by the Roman poet Ovid in his famous book Ars Amatoria

For women in a heterosexual relationship, faking orgasm is often based on deference to the man, need for his approval, or feelings of shame or sexual inadequacy.[6] People can also fake orgasms for reasons of display or presentation, such as during phone sex or in pornography.

Women tend to achieve orgasm during sex less readily than men, and thus faking an orgasm is more common among women. Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris, thus making orgasms difficult to achieve for women during sex.

Feminists have pointed to women faking orgasm as a sign of male-centered sexuality; in a society that celebrates only male sexual pleasure, women may feel pressured to engage in acts that bring their male partners to orgasm but that do not provide them physical pleasure. Women in a discussion group in 1967 analyzed their motivations for faking orgasms and decided that faking was a response to pressures placed upon them by men. As such, the urge to fake an orgasm often sits in a broader context of other problems with sexual repression or male-centered sexuality. Many of these women also experienced feelings such as sexual rejection by their partners, or on the other hand, unwanted sexual attention; some were afraid to tell their partners what they wanted, and others said their partners resented being told what they wanted.[7]

Hugo M. Mialon developed a game theoretical analysis of faking orgasms as a signaling game. Only some of the predictions of his model were consistent with survey data used to check the validity of the model. Among other things, the survey data suggested that both women and men who would be more concerned if their partner were faking are less likely to fake themselves, and that older women and men are more likely to fake than younger ones.[8]

One study of orgasm found that women who fake orgasms were more likely to neglect their partners and flirt with other men at social gatherings; the authors of this study speculated that women who fake orgasms may be more likely to engage in sexual intercourse with men other than their partner, although they recommended caution at interpreting their findings due to a small data set and a large number of variables being studied.[9]

In therapy or counseling, women are more likely to inaccurately portray their sexual behavior (such as by claiming to orgasm when they do not) to a male therapist than to a female one, although women may still withhold the same information from female therapists.[6]

References in popular culture[edit]

  • The 1989 American film When Harry Met Sally... is well known for a scene in which the character Sally, played by Meg Ryan, fakes an orgasm while sitting in a crowded deli in order to demonstrate how persuasive a fake orgasm can be.
  • In "The Mango" episode of the American television program Seinfeld, the main characters Elaine and Kramer admit to faking orgasms, and another main character, George, becomes paranoid that his own girlfriend has been faking orgasms based on Elaine's admission that she faked orgasms "all the time" while with Jerry, and the main character Jerry becomes slightly desperate with having another go with Elaine in order to "save the friendship."

See also[edit]


  1. ^ a b "The American Sex Survey" (PDF). ABC News. 2004. 
  2. ^ Sohn, A. (16 February 2004). "Snow Job". New York Magazine. 
  3. ^ Definition of Anorgasmia: medterms.org/medicinenet.com
  4. ^ Grohol, J.M. (14 Sep 2009). "Why Women (and Men!) Fake Orgasm". World of Psychology.  (The actual study is not printed yet, until then there's no other resource on that.)
  5. ^ Ars Amatoria, Ovid circa 1 AD. Part III. p. 180.
  6. ^ a b [1] Person, E.S. (1983). "Women in Therapy: Therapist Gender as a Variable." Int. R. Psycho-Anal., 10:193-204.
  7. ^ [2] Alix Kates Shulman, "Sex and Power: Sexual Bases of Radical Feminism", Signs, Vol. 5, No. 4, Women: Sex and Sexuality. (Summer, 1980), pp. 590-604.
  8. ^ [3] Hugo M. Mialon, "The Economics of Faking Ecstasy", July 16, 2007
  9. ^ [4] Randy Thornhill,Steven W. Gangestad, Randall Comer, "Human female orgasm and mate fluctuating asymmetry", Animal Behaviour, Volume 50, Issue 6, 1995, Pages 1601-1615.