Gay Shame is a movement from within the LGBT and queer communities described as a radical alternative to gay mainstreaming and directly posits an alternative view of traditional "gay pride" events and activities which have become increasingly commercialized with corporate sponsors and "safer" agendas to avoid offending supporters and sponsors. The Gay Shame movement has grown to embrace radical expression, counter-culture ideologies and avant-garde arts and artists.
Background and history
Gay shame was created as a protest of (and named in opposition to) the overcommercialization of the "gay pride" events. Members attack "queer assimilation" in what they perceive as oppressive and conservative societal structures—as such its members disagree with the legalization of same-sex marriage. Gay Shame began in 1998 as an annual event in Brooklyn, New York. Held for a number of years at DUMBA, an artists' run collective center, bands such as Three Dollar Bill and Kiki and Herb and speakers such as Eileen Myles, Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore and Penny Arcade appeared at the first event, and the evening was documented by Scott Berry and released as the film Gay Shame 98. Swallow Your Pride was a zine published by the people involved in planning Gay Shame in New York. Three issues were released. The movement later spread to San Francisco, Toronto, and Sweden.
A site pushing for Queer Insurrection put such a protest in context. They wrote that the "origins of the LGBTQ movement are revolutionary...Now, some of the same people who participated in those fabulous outpourings of anti-establishment rage tripped over each other on the way to City Hall to have their love blessed by Gavin Newsom, successor to Dan White and Dianne Feinstein, darling of the developers, persecutor of the homeless, and cause of Gay Shame getting beaten and busted by the cops on more than one occasion."
- "A relatively new phenomenon that sprang up on both coasts in recent years, Gay Shame is an outgrowth of a younger generation's disgust with over-commercialized pride celebrations that are more about corporate sponsorships, celebrity grand marshals, and consumerism than they are about the radicalism that gave birth to our post-Stonewall gay-liberation movement, and radicalism such as that displayed by the Cockettes. Every movement undergoes changes in three decades, but pride, especially in Los Angeles, San Francisco and New York, transformed a street protest into a multi-million dollar extravaganza that has no political through line...thousands stand along the sidelines and cheer every corporate contingent that passes despite the fact that many of them, while good on gay rights, have policies and practices that oppress other groups...Organizers of the San Francisco Gay Shame Awards, held this year for the first time, want no part in this amnesia...The Gay Shame Awards took place in the heart of the Castro on a warm Saturday afternoon amid a festive atmosphere with many of the organizers in outlandish outfits. Awards were given in absentia to deserving individuals and organizations...Many in my generation will find gay shame a hard pill to swallow, not unlike the word queer. I understand that. I helped organize the first Philadelphia queer march in 1972...But I like Gay Shame. It challenges us to ask important questions about what we've become as a community. Not everything we did was wrong; obviously, queers are an important part of the fabric of this country, thanks to the efforts of those who gave their lives to make it easier for all of us to live outside the closet. But no one back in the 70s could have imagined what a market niche we would become...This mass appeal and corporate sponsorship of our pride has been accompanied by a de-emphasis on politics. As more and more of corporate America gravitated toward pride, the "gay pride march" changed to a "parade" (or "celebration")...The Gay Shame folks will most certainly be dismissed as PC leftists who want to knock everything. Such a characterization will not make their criticisms go away. Others have raised the same issues, certainly not with the same theatricality and outrageousness as the Gay Shame Awards."
- "Does today’s mainstream LGBT movement make you feel like you’re lost in an alternate reality? Perhaps even another dimension? Do the things groups like the HRC fight for cause you to feel as if you’re going the wrong way backwards through time? Does the thought of straight ally Gavin Newsom’s ascendancy to governor give you vertigo? GAY SHAME has uncovered shocking new truths! Upon studying the blueprints to the San Francisco LGBT Community Center, GAY SHAME has gathered evidence that it is in fact a portal to the 8th dimension. Cleverly disguised as a community center, familiar evil mega-corporate donors (ranging from Lennar to PG&E to Bechtel) and the San Francisco power elite, have been using their office park portal to suck away all our time, energy and passion...30 years after the White Night Riots and 40 years after Stonewall, radicals from splintering time periods and multiple movements without number shall join forces...This will be a high-concept anachronistic interpretive dance-off to determine the fate of radical queer politics!"
That same year there was an event of London's chapter of Gay Shame, which they had a so-called "indoor playground of interactive art and alternative ideas...[which was in a] club [that] shares a similar non-commercial, anti-consumerist angle...[and there were] thirty-five sideshows, 100 performance artists and 3,000 revellers."
A book titled Gay Shame was reviewed on Lambda Literary in 2010. The reviewers noted that the book looks at the origins of Gay Shame, the question of gay pride and challenges readers to "question and explore the possibility that the modern LGBT rights movement’s push for acceptance, assimilation, and—they would argue—pride, results in a loss of something importantly queer as it attempts to eradicate shame...[by] exploring the ways in which pride and shame connected with race, gender and sexuality."
In 2011, Mattilda was interviewed by an online publication called We Who Feel Differently. Carlos Motta, the interviewer asked about how to open up spaces, and in an response, Mattilda described her work with Gay Shame:
- "I was also involved with Gay Shame, a group that emerged in New York in 1998. Originally what we wanted to do was to create a radical alternative to “Gay Pride.” Instead of having an endless gated procession of corporate floats, we thought we would just invite people for free into a space to share skills and strategies for resistance. We had bands, music, dancing and also people talking about welfare reform, trans liberation, or gentrification in New York. We thought we could make culture on our own terms...When I moved to San Francisco we started Gay Shame there along similar lines, it was a “direct action extravaganza”; we were committed to challenging the hypocrisy, not just of mainstream gay people but also of all hypocrites. We would throw together these very elaborate events like the “Gay Shame Awards” where we awarded the most hypocritical gay people for their service to the community. We had categories like “helping right wingers cope,” “exploiting our youth,” an “award for celebrities who should never have come out in the first place,” etc. The award was a burning rainbow flag. What was really interesting about Gay Shame’s actions, was that we wanted to create a spectacle. We wanted to create something that used the militancy of Act Up, but fused it with spectacle, to focus on reclaiming the streets in an anti-capitalist, extravagant way, so that people would be drawn in."
Gay Shame was also mentioned on Mission Local, the Bay Area Reporter, writer Toshio Meronek on the Huffington Post, a radical magazine titled Slingshot, SF Weekly, Sarah Jaffe on Alternet, in a 7-page article in the Quarterly Journal of Speech and many others.
Fizzling out and the aftermath
The San Francisco Gay Shame became a non-hierarchical direct-action and radical queer collective that continued from until early 2013 when it petered out. It was also "primarily responsible for the protests, mobilizations, and guerrilla tactics that shut down the city of San Francisco in response to the declaration of war on Iraq" An interview posted on the Mission Local website noted that the group began organizing in 2001, doing radical direct action with ideas like the "Goth Cry-In" which they described as a "space for basking in our sadness around the current state of LGBT politics and the horrors of the larger world." The group also said that "the current state of LGBT politics is a scramble for straight privilege" and that "things like health care...should be available to us all...[but that] a queer identity is about challenging institutions of domination, like marriage and the military, not becoming part of them [because]...we would be working against traditional institutions and building connections with people that make us feel love, joy, freedom and safety — which in many cases, as we know, is the exact opposite of marriage...[since] Gay Shame supports gender self-determination in all its manifestations."
Their website described themselves as committed to "a queer extravaganza that brings direct action to astounding levels of theatricality [that rejects a] commercialized gay identity that denies the intrinsic links between queer struggle and challenging power...counter[ing] the self-serving “values” of gay consumerism and... fighting the rabid assimilationist monster with a devastating mobilization of queer brilliance." Despite this, in 2012, according to writer Toshio Meronek, a criticism of the "corporatization of Pride events has officially gone viral...[and] that Pride actually started as a day of political action called Christopher Street Liberation Day." At one point, after Don't Ask Don't Tell was repealed, Gay Shame put out a flier declaring: "No Gays in the Military! We need you on the streets. Keeping the status quo in check and on fire."
After the end of the last chapter of Gay Shame, there were some reflections on the movement as a whole. One of the main organizers, Matrilida Bernstein Sycamore of this group told the San Francisco Bay Guardian that:
- “this activist group that meant so much to me, that challenged and inspired me in so many ways…ultimately failed me…There is so much self-congratulatory rhetoric in San Francisco, especially in radical-identified queer spaces, and we’re never going to get to something beyond a cooler marketing niche unless we can examine the ways that so often in radical queer spaces people treat one another just as horribly as in dominant straight culture or mainstream gay culture, and it hurts so much more when this kind of viciousness comes from people you actually believe in.”
In June 2013, an article on White Rose Reader added to this, noting that: "Starting in 1998, these “Gay Shame” events promoted counter-cultural ideologies and radical expression...some have picked up on this: a blog popped up recently to demand Gay Shame, started by a 48-year old queer male DJ."
Seemingly in September 2013, Gay Shame SF or San Francisco Gay Shame, re-emerged as noted in a Twitter search of the #GayShame hashtag. On their website, the group said that in their weekly meetings, they started the meeting to plan certain protest actions, while also holding "smaller meetings throughout the week to plan specific actions and activities." In the past the Modern Times Bookstore Collective has noted events of past meetings, such as one in September 2013. On their about page, they repeat what seems to be their slogan, that they are a 'Virus in the System' and they further describe themselves as "committed to a queer extravaganza that brings direct action to astounding levels of theatricality. We will not be satisfied with a commercialized gay identity...We seek nothing less than a new queer activism...to counter the self-serving “values” of gay consumerism and the increasingly hypocritical left." This page continues, noting that all meetings of Gay Shame SF are consensus based, meaning everyone has agree on decisions before they proceed and that they will make sure everyone is fully informed on the actions that are going to occur. When any member of the group speaks to the press, they will identify as 'Mary' so no one is seen as a leader, incorrectly identified and so anonymity can be preserved.
On the site of SF Queer, there is a calendar of upcoming events in the week Gay Shame SF is listed. The specific entry gives a description of their organization, which the same on their webpage, and the specifics of where the meeting is being held. On the sidebar of the website, it says that "for current Gay Shame activities, visit gayshamesf.org." Additionally, Gay Shame has a Facebook profile as well, which likes topics ranging from Jessie Evans, Queers For Economic Justice, to ACT UP/San Francisco.
Additionally, other chapters have emerged as well. In around May 2013, Gay Shame San Diego emerged, describing itself on a Facebook page as being "created as a protest to the overcommercialization of pride events and opposes queer assimilation. Gay Shame was started in 1998 in Brooklyn, NY, and was active at DUMBA, the artists' collective that the movie Short Bus was based on." This Facebook page has covered topics ranging from same-sex marriage, Lou Reed, gay pride, and much more. Around the same time, a tumblr of the organization popped up as well repeating the same description on their Facebook page  and it has been around ever since. Their tumblr currently has reposted stuff written by Gay Shame SF, criticized capitalism, spoke about queer and trans liberation, and much more.
Due to the opposition to mainstream LGBTQ culture, some have criticized Gay Shame. One blogger named Dyneslines who argued that "In pondering this strange phenomenon, it is hard not to detect disturbing elements of willful abjection and internalized homophobia...There is some evidence that the gay-shame trend is subsiding. That outcome is certainly to be hoped for." Another criticism, from a queer perspective, while praising the group in certain ways, commented: "...it is difficult for the group to wholly remove themselves from the overarching structure as their ideology demands... By removing individual names, and by extent, individual identities within the group, Gay Shame conforms to the very commercialization it seeks to fight against."
An academic conference at the University of Michigan Ann Arbor occurred in March, 2003. Supposedly, during that weekend, there was friction between the activists and the academics, growing out of different strategies, and the activists' claim that the academics didn't do enough to acknowledge their power and class privilege, and to share more of that with the activists. A professor from the University of Texas adds to this account, reviewing a book called Gay Shame:
- "In 2003 the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor hosted a generative yet controversial conference titled Gay Shame. Seven years later, conference organizers David M. Halperin and Valerie Traub have compiled essays, spoken-word texts, art works, interviews, short documentary films, video performances, and images that were either inspired by, inspiration for, or a product of the conference proceedings in the anthology and accompanying DVD also titled Gay Shame. Most all of the diverse collection of contributions to the anthology and DVD were provided by the distinguished community of scholars, activists, and artists who attended the conference not only as presenters but also as active participants in the conversations it facilitated. Reflective of the vast scope of this book, the contributions are divided into six categories: “Gay Shame,” which offers an introduction to both the conference and the volume; “Performing Shame,” which examines shame as an affect produced and reflected through performance; “Spectacles of Shame,” which considers imagery, both popular and erotic, that induces shame; “Disabled Shame,” which explores shame in the lives of those living with disabilities; “Histories of Shame,” which concerns shame in LGBTQ histories; and lastly “Communities of Shame,” which examines shame and its relationship to identity politics."
There have also been annual themed events titled "Gay Shame and Lesbian Weakness" in London, England associated with the club night Duckie run by Simon Casson and Amy Lame. Although documentation about when the first event happened is hard to come by, the event was occurring annually by 1998, if not earlier. The 2004 event was billed as "Now in its 9th great year." The event includes performance art and queer-bash make-overs and is also referred to as 'The Annual Festival of Homosexual Misery'. The 2009 event has been announced as the last. But, since Gay Shame SF has re-emerged, new events are likely to happen as well.
Duckie Gay Shame Themes
- 2004 Homosexual Misery. It's a nightclub. It's a theatre event. It's a rip-off.
- 2005 Homosexual Misery. London’s inverted underbelly prove that Gay ain’t nothing to be proud of.
- 2006 Euroshame for EuroPride, the booths and shows themed as different European countries.
- 2007 Cancelled due to Arts Council England funding diverted to the Olympics.
- 2008 Masculinity, betting, boxing, trucker fun.
- 2009 Femininity.
- Bash Back
- LGBT social movements
- Queer nationalism
- Straight pride
- Gay Pride
- Gay Liberation
- Gay Liberation Front
- Against Equality
- Gay Shame. David M. Halperin (editor)
- Feeling Backward: Loss and the Politics of Queer History by Heather Love
- Marriage Is Still the Opiate of the Queers
- Gay Shame
- Gay Shame Protest: "De-Center The Center"
- De-Center The Center event on June 29th, 2009
- Gay Shame 2009 Gay Shame serves up a 'festival of femininity' at the Brixton Academy
- ‘Gay Shame’ edited by David M. Halperin & Valerie Traub
- An Interview with Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
- TAKE FIVE: Gay Shame
- Bucking the mainstream nothing new for Gay Shame
- The Year Queers Fought the De-Politicization of Pride
- Gay Shame - A Radical Alternative
- Gay Shame in San Francisco -- Mary Wants You!
- Gay Shame: A Challenge to Gay Pride
- Gay Pride and Its Queer Discontents: ACT UP and the Political Deployment of Affect
- That's Revolting!
- TAKE FIVE: Gay Shame
- Archived SF Gay Shame website
- How Gay Shame Really Feels About Corporate Pride
- Gays In The Military - Flyer From SF Radical Queer Group 'Gay Shame'
- Boom life: Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore talks about 'The End of San Francisco'
- Episode 47: Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore on Gay Shame and Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?
- Episode 47: Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore on Gay Shame
- The Commercialization of "Gay Pride"
- Results for #GayShame
- Gay Shame: A Celebration of Resistance
- GAY SHAME Meeting
- Gay Shame: about
- Gay Shame Meeting at Modern Times Bookstore
- SF Queer
- Gay Shame Facebook profile
- Gay "Shame" San Diego Facebook page
- Gay Shame San Diego link
- Gay pride versus gay shame
- Gay Shame—Removed From Neoliberalism?
- Gay Shame Conference 2003
- Gay Shame Redux
- Stephen Low on "Gay Shame"
- UK Gay-lesbian-bisexual Google Group
- Hello dUCKiE!
- current Gay Shame website