If Only You Were Lonely is the second album by American rock band Hawthorne Heights. The album was released on February 28, 2006 through Victory Records. It is the second and final album to feature Casey Calvert before his death on November 24, 2007. According to Nielsen SoundScan, the album has sold 435,913 copies in the United States. Its title is taken from a Replacements B-side of the same name.
The Legion of Doom remixed the song "Where Can I Stab Myself in the Ears?" (and re-titled the remix "Where Do I Stab Myself in the Ears"), and it appeared on the Underworld: Evolution Original Motion Picture Soundtrack. The name for the track, "Where Can I Stab Myself in the Ears?", is derived from a post on a forum that was an announcement for Hawthorne Heights' release on the popular music news website, AbsolutePunk. Music videos were made for all three singles on the album. If Only You Were Lonely debuted at #3 on the Billboard 200 and #1 on the Top Independent Albums chart, spending a total of 17 weeks on the former.
Music videos were made for three tracks from the album. The video for "This Is Who We Are" was filmed at the Minneapolis stop of the Black Clouds Tour on April 14, 2006. The band later filmed a music video for "Pens and Needles" in Miami. The video was directed by Dale "Rage" Resteghini.
If Only You Were Lonely is a concept album following the long-distance relationship between a young couple who were unwillingly taken apart because of the boy's family moving (hence the line in the opening track, "I know it seems like we're never coming back"). Throughout the album, the couple keep their relationship going while talking on the phone and look back on the pain they went through due to their separation. This is especially evident in "Pens and Needles" and "Saying Sorry". In the album's final track, "Decembers", the boy remembers all the times he had with his girlfriend and wishes he could have her back. Their relationship is also shown in the cover for both the original and alternate version of the album, as you can see a man sleeping by himself in the original and a woman sleeping by herself in the alternate version.