John Stoltenberg

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John Stoltenberg
Born c. 1944 (age 69–70)
California, United States
Nationality American
Occupation Writer
Known for Radical feminism, anti-pornography activism
Spouse(s) Andrea Dworkin

John Stoltenberg (born c. 1944, California)[1] is an American radical feminist activist, scholar, author, and magazine editor.[2] He is the former managing editor of AARP The Magazine, a bimonthly publication of the United States-based advocacy group AARP, a position he held from 2004 until 2012.

Stoltenberg was life partner to Andrea Dworkin for thirty-one years (eventually marrying), although he considers himself gay.[3]


Stoltenberg holds a degree in fine arts and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. He is well known as a feminist activist and author. He has written a series of books and articles criticizing traditional concepts of manhood or maleness, such as Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice, "Why I Stopped Trying to be a Real Man," [4] and The End of Manhood: A Book for Men of Conscience.

Stoltenberg created "The Pose Workshop," which entailed men adopting the poses that women strike in pornographic shots (intended partly for men attending Christian retreats), a version of which was broadcast on BBC television.

He was Andrea Dworkin's life partner for thirty-one years. They began living together in 1974; in 1998 they married (see Andrea Dworkin's relationship with John Stoltenberg).

Stoltenberg is a founder of the group 'Men Can Stop Rape'[5] and developed the group's 'My Strength' campaign[6] which aims to educate young men on sexual relationships, consent and rape. He also creative-directs the group's 'My Duty'[7] sexual-assault-prevention media campaign, which is licensed to the United States Department of Defense's Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office.[8]

Stoltenberg is credited with the quote: "Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men."[9]

Stoltenberg has described how, as a feminist male, he has had to reevaluate and even discontinue relationships with some of his male friends.[10]

Selected bibliography[edit]


  • Stoltenberg, John (1978). Disarmament and masculinity: An outline guide and bibliography for studying the connection between sexual violence and war. Palo Alto, California: Frog in the Well. OCLC 6185444. 
  • Stoltenberg, John (1989). Refusing to be a man: essays on sex and justice. Portland, Oregon: Breitenbush Books. ISBN 9780932576736.  Reprinted as: Stoltenberg, John (2000). Refusing to be a man essays on sex and justice. London New York: UCL Press. ISBN 9781841420417. 
  • Stoltenberg, John (1994). The end of manhood: a book for men of conscience (1st ed.). New York, New York, U.S.A: Plume. ISBN 9780452273047. 
  • Stoltenberg, John (1994). What makes pornography "sexy. Minneapolis, MN: Milkweed Editions. ISBN 9781571312013. 
  • Stoltenberg, John (1998). The end of manhood: a book for men of conscience (2nd ed.). Bridgewater, New Jersey: Replica Books. ISBN 9780735100404.  Revised edition printed as: Stoltenberg, John (2000). The end of manhood: parables on sex and selfhood. London Bristol, Pa: UCL Press. ISBN 9781857283259. 

Chapters in books[edit]



  • "Of Microbes and Manhood — Sexual risk-taking among young men in the U.S. increases the likelihood of their contracting and spreading a sexually transmitted infection. Everything is gendered when it comes to education, prevention, and treatment," published in Ms. 10, no. 5, (2000): 60[11]

See also[edit]


  1. ^ "Stoltenberg, John". Library of Congress. Retrieved 1 August 2014. "CIP t.p. (John Stoltenberg) pref. (formerly a playwright) data sheet (b. ca. 1944)" 
  2. ^ Stoltenberg, The End of Manhood, p. 313.
  3. ^ Stoltenberg, John. Living With Andrea Dworkin. Lambda Book Report, May/June 1994.
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  9. ^ From the essay "The Forbidden Language of Sex" in his book Refusing to Be a Man.
  10. ^ Kudos & Awards
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