Judith Martin in 2005
September 13, 1938 |
Washington, DC, U.S.
|Alma mater||Wellesley College|
Judith Martin (née Perlman, born September 13, 1938), better known by the pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist, author, and etiquette authority. Martin's uncle was economist and labor historian Selig Perlman.
Early life and career
Martin was born and spent a significant part of her childhood in Washington, D.C., where she still lives and works, graduating from Georgetown Day School. She lived in various foreign capitals as a child, as her father, a United Nations economist, was frequently transferred. She is a graduate of Wellesley College with a degree in English. Before she began the advice column, she was a journalist, covering social events at the White House and embassies; she then became a theater and film critic. Martin is known among Star Wars fans for her less-than-adulatory review of Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back, which she referred to as a “good junk movie” with “no plot structure, no character ... development, no ... original vision of the future”.
Since 1978, she has written an advice column, which is distributed three times a week by Universal Uclick and carried in more than 200 newspapers worldwide. In the column, she answers etiquette questions contributed by her readers and writes short essays on problems of manners, or clarifies the essential qualities of politeness.
Judith Martin writes about the ideas and intentions underpinning seemingly simple rules, providing a complex and advanced perspective, which she refers to as “heavy etiquette theory”. Her columns, noted for their admonishing tone and sarcasm as well as their broad knowledge of history and customs and their applications to the problems of today, have been collected in a number of books. In her writings, Martin refers to herself in the third person (e.g., “Miss Manners hopes...”).
In a 1995 interview by Virginia Shea, Miss Manners said,
“You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you're trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you...There are plenty of people who say, 'We don't care about etiquette, but we can't stand the way so-and-so behaves, and we don't want him around!' Etiquette doesn't have the great sanctions that the law has. But the main sanction we do have is in not dealing with these people and isolating them because their behavior is unbearable.”
Martin identifies “blatant greed” as the most serious etiquette problem in America. The most frequently asked question she receives is how to politely demand cash from potential gift-givers (there is no polite way to do this), and the second most common question is how much potential guests must spend on a gift (determined by what the giver can afford, not by the event, relationship, related expenses or other factors).
Starting August 29, 2013, Martin's children shared credit for some of her columns. Her son, Nicholas Ivor Martin, helped write some columns, and her daughter, Jacobina Martin worked on others.
Martin was the recipient of a 2005 National Humanities Medal from President George W. Bush. On March 23, 2006, she was a special guest correspondent on The Colbert Report, giving her analysis of the manners with which the White House Press Corps spoke to the President.
- The Name on the White House Floor
- Style and Substance
- Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior
- Miss Manners Rescues Civilization: From Sexual Harassment, Frivolous Lawsuits, Dissing and Other Lapses in Civility
- Miss Manners on Weddings
- Miss Manners on Painfully Proper Weddings
- Common Courtesy: In Which Miss Manners Solves the Problem That Baffled Mr. Jefferson
- Miss Manners' Guide for the Turn-of-the-Millennium
- Miss Manners' Basic Training: Communication
- Miss Manners' Basic Training: The Right Thing To Say
- Miss Manners' Basic Training: Eating
- Miss Manners' Guide to Rearing Perfect Children
- Star-Spangled Manners
- Miss Manners' Guide to Domestic Tranquility: The Authoritative Manual for Every Civilized Household, However Harried
- Miss Manners: A Citizen's Guide to Civility
- No Vulgar Hotel: The Desire and Pursuit of Venice
- Sam G. Riley (1995). Biographical dictionary of American newspaper columnists. Greenwood Publishing Group. p. 198. ISBN 978-0-313-29192-0.
- No Vulgar Hotel, p. 18.
- "The Empire Strikes Back". The Washington Post. 1980-05-23. Retrieved 2010-05-07.
- Childs, Arcynta Ali (July–August 2011). "Q and A with Miss Manners". Smithsonian Magazine. Retrieved 1 January 2013.
- Miss Manners (28 September 2012). "There are worthier causes than underwriting others’ weddings". The Washington Post. Retrieved 1 January 2013.
- Miss Manners (29 August 2013). "Workplace gripes are often a play for sympathy". St. Louis Post-Dispatch.
- Argento excerpt
- Martin, Judith. "No-Hassle Nuptials: How to Have a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding". wowOwow. Retrieved 4 August 2011.
- Briefly reviewed in The New Yorker (14 January 1985) : 119.
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- Letters to "Miss Manners," 1978-1998. Schlesinger Library, Radcliffe Institute, Harvard University.