|Olive Eleanor Custance|
Olive Custance in 1902
7 February 1874|
London, England, UK
|Died||12 February 1944(aged 70)|
|Spouse||Lord Alfred Douglas (1902-1944)|
Olive Eleanor Custance (7 February 1874 – 12 February 1944) was a British poet and wife of Lord Alfred Douglas. She was part of the aesthetic movement of the 1890s, and a contributor to The Yellow Book.
She was born at 12 John Street, Berkeley Square, Mayfair, in London, the only daughter and heiress of Colonel Frederick Hambleton Custance, who was a wealthy and distinguished soldier in the British army.
Custance joined the London literary circle around such figures as Oscar Wilde, Aubrey Beardsley, Ernest Dowson and John Gray in about 1890 when she was only 16. At this time she became infatuated with the poet John Gray and wrote some of her first poetry about him. Heavily influenced by French poets such as Verlaine and Rimbaud and by the decadent mood of that period, she quickly rose to prominence as a poet. In 1901 she became involved in a relationship with the overtly lesbian writer Natalie Clifford Barney in Paris, which Barney later included in her memoirs. Barney, and a friend of hers, Renée Vivien, were keen to win Custance as a partner, and indeed Custance remained on close terms with Barney for years. However, despite claims that Custance had a lesbian affair with one or both of these two women, there is a lack of real evidence to support it. There is certainly an effusive admiration in several poems written by Custance to Barney at this time, but nothing to equal the sincerity and ardor of what she wrote at the same time to Lord Alfred Douglas  with whom, surprisingly, Custance had begun a courtship; one which she herself instigated by writing to him admiringly in June 1901, six months after the death of Oscar Wilde.
However in late 1901, in an odd turn of events, Custance became engaged to George Montagu, who had been at school with Douglas. It was a short engagement because when Douglas returned from a trip to the USA (where, as he had written to her teasingly, he was looking for a rich heiress to marry) the two of them ran away and married each other on 4 March 1902. Custance's father did not approve of Douglas. They had one child, Raymond Wilfred Sholto Douglas, born on 17 November 1902. The marriage was stormy after Douglas became a Roman Catholic in 1911. They began to live apart in 1913, after the couple lost a custody battle for their only child to Custance's father.
In 1913 Douglas was charged with libelling his father-in-law who had always disapproved of him and seems to have been a major reason for strain on their marriage. They couple again lived together for a time in the 1920s after Olive also converted to Catholicism.
Their only child, Raymond, showed signs of instability in his youth. For a time he served in the army, but was confined to mental institutions for long periods. This placed further strain on the marriage, so that by the end of the 1920s they had separated again and Custance had given up her Catholicism. However, they did not divorce, and in 1932, she followed Douglas to Hove, taking a house near his. In the final 12 years of her life, they saw each other almost every day. In 1931 Douglas had already written that their marriage held firm despite "the welter of mud and stones" hurled at it by their enemies.
Custance continued to write and publish poems in local newspapers and journals, often of a patriotic nature (during the Second World War) but these have not been collected. She died on 12 February 1944 holding Lord Alfred Douglas' hand; Douglas himself died the next year, on 20 March 1945. Their son Raymond survived to the age of 61; after several lengthy episodes of mental instability throughout his lifetime, he died unmarried on 10 October 1965.
- Opals (1897)
- Rainbows (1902)
- The Blue Bird (1905)
- The Inn of Dreams (1911)
- The Selected Poems of Olive Custance (1995); edited by Brocard Sewell
- Olive Custance, I Desire the Moon: The Diary of Lady Alfred Douglas (Olive Custance) 1905-1910, ed. C. Wintermans (Avalon Press, 2005)
- Freeman, William, The Life of Lord Alfred Douglas: Spoilt Child of Genius, 1948, esp. Pp. 159-167.
- Bosie (1963) Rupert Croft-Cooke, pp. 194-196.
- Douglas, Lord Alfred, The Autobiography, London, 1931, esp. Pp. 188-189, 193-219, 251-54, 259-64.
- Olive Custance: Her Life and Work (1975) Brocard Sewell
- The Autobiography (1931) Lord Alfred Douglas
- Bosie (1963) Rupert Croft-Cooke