Rape fantasy
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A rape fantasy or a ravishment is a sexual fantasy in which a person imagines themselves being coerced, raped, or otherwise forced into a sex act. Some people enjoy the feeling of sexual submission, while others like imagining themselves as so irresistible and unattainable that their attacker cannot keep their animal instincts in check. It can be feeling of domination or submission also, as someone fantasizes of forcing someone, or being forced, to have sex.[citation needed]
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[edit] Fantasy
45.8% of men in a 1980 study reported fantasizing during heterosexual intercourse about "a scene where [they had] the impression of being raped by a woman" (3.2% often and 42.6% sometimes); 44.7% of scenes where a seduced woman "pretends resisting;" and 33% of raping a woman.[1]
[edit] Male fantasy
There are two main types of male rape fantasies, which usually involve a woman. In the first type, the woman objects then comes to like it, eventually participating in the sex. In the second type, the woman doesn't like it, and the fantasy's arousal is based on hurting the woman.[2]
[edit] Female fantasy
Women engage in sexual fantasies about rape or coercion with apparent frequency. In one study of college-age women, over half had engaged in such fantasies. Some claim that force fantasies in women are a way of handling sexual guilt – of expressing sexual desire without responsibility – but others claim that rape fantasies are simply a variation within a normal range of approaches to female sexuality. [3] Accounts of women exploring the fantasy of raping men are usually confined to feminist literature or fetish communities.[citation needed]
[edit] Roleplay
One form of sexual roleplaying is the rape fantasy, also called ravishment or forced sex roleplay. Ravishment has become a more preferred term in BDSM circles, as it makes a distinction between consensual roleplay and nonconsensual assault.[4] Though consensuality is an important component of sexual roleplay, the illusion of non-consensuality (ie. rape) is important to maintaining the fantasy. Crossing the line may constitute an assault.
Since the illusion of non-consensuality is important to the fantasy, one or more safewords are typically employed. This way, a participant can protest without stopping the scene, unless the safeword is used. Often a variation on the "stop-light" system is used, with different colors designating different messages: "red" to stop everything, "yellow" to slow down or take it easy, and so forth. For scenes where there is an element of surprise, the top or "ravisher" may use a "startword" or other identifying signal.[4]
In healthy ravishment scenes, all participants carefully negotiate what will transpire beforehand. Limits are respected and made very clear, to maintain safe, sane and consensual play. Such negotiation would also include discussion of emotional issues for both partners, especially if there has been a prior history of actual sexual abuse or assault.[4]
[edit] See also
[edit] Notes
- ^ Crépault C, Couture M (1980). "Men's erotic fantasies". Arch Sex Behav 9 (6): 565–81. doi:. PMID 7458662.
- ^ Bader, Dr, Michael J. (2003). Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies. Macmillan Publishers. p. 126. ISBN 0312302428.
- ^ Strassberg, Donald (1998). Force in Women's Sexual Fantasies. 0004-0002 (Print) 1573-2800 (Online): Springer Netherlands. pp. 403–414.
- ^ a b c Ravenstone, Desmond. Ravishment: The Dark Side of Erotic Fantasy (2005) ISBN 1-4116-5547-8
[edit] References
- Desmond Ravenstone (2005). Ravishment: The Dark Side of Erotic Fantasy. ISBN 1-4116-5547-8.
- Desmond Ravenstone, "Ravishment 101"
- Sex... And Cultural Taboo
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