Relationship breakup

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A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup, is the termination of a usually intimate relationship by any means other than bereavement. The act is commonly termed a dump in slang when it is initiated by one partner.

Contents 1 Rationale 2 Recovery 3 See also 4 References 5 Further reading

[edit] Rationale

In psychology, several models have been proposed to explain the process of a relationship breakup. One theory, by L. Lee,^[1] proposes that there are five stages leading ultimately up to a breakup.

1. Dissatisfaction — One or both partners grow dissatisfied with the relationship.
2. Exposure — Both partners mutually become aware of the problems in the relationship.
3. Negotiation — Both partners attempt to negotiate a solution to said problems.
4. 'Resolution and transformation — Both partners apply the yield of their negotiation.
5. Termination — Proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied.

Then again, there are other reasons. Another example of the 'five stages' of a breakup is this;

1. Partner 1 in the relationship is sexually attracted to another person other than partner 2. 2. Partner 1 decides to start having sexual relationships with this other person, while partner 2 of course, is unaware. 3. Partner 2 finds out. 4. Partner 1 finds some lame ecxuse and thinks theyre gonna get away with it. 5. Partner 2 has other ideas....

Harsh, right?

[edit] Recovery

According to John Fetto,^[2] a survey conducted by eNation found that nearly one-third of Americans have experienced a breakup in the past ten years. He also found that the younger the person, the more likely they are to have experienced more than one breakup in the last decade. It is believed that this is because young people are more actively dating than older generations, though this may be changing with the growing divorce rate, and thus adults are breaking up more frequently as well. This makes breakups one of the more common emotional experiences in modern society.

Healing from heartache, depending on the emotional attachment, can be a long process with multiple stages, of which may include: sanctioning adequate time to recover, improving intrapersonal relationships and, ultimately, finding the motivation necessary to dismiss the breakup itself.

Laurie Helgoe,^[3] believes that, “By releasing the past, you can approach new relationships with a fresh perspective and clearer vision”. Releasing the relationship and person physically from one’s life will help to keep both from constantly resurfacing in everyday life. Releasing the relationship and person from the mind and daily thoughts allocates more space to think about other important things including future relationships.

[edit] See also

• Divorce
• Bonding

[edit] References

[edit] Further reading

• McGraw, Phil. (2008) - Relationships/Sex: Healing a Broken Heart Retrieved January 25, 2008
• Steadman, Lisa. (2007). It's a Breakup Not a Breakdown. Avon, MA: Polka Dot Press.