Scott Haltzman

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Scott Haltzman
Scott Haltzman relationship counselor and author.jpg
Haltzman in 2015
Born 1960
Allentown, Pennsylvania
Nationality American
Education Brown University, Brown Medical School
Occupation psychiatrist, relationship counselor, author
Known for Author and researcher
Medical career
Research relationship patterns of husbands and wives

Dr. Scott David Haltzman (born in 1960 in Allentown, Pennsylvania) is an American psychiatrist, relationship counselor, and author. He is known for his work in support of marriage and husbands.

Haltzman is the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever (2006), The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less (2008), The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment (2009), and The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity (2013).

Haltzman’s interest in the nature of the married relationship grows from observations made over years of his providing individual and couple’s therapy. His research focuses on seeking out data to better help understand the relationship patterns of husbands and wives, and the techniques individuals use to advance the institution of marriage.

Early life[edit]

Haltzman is the son of Jay Haltzman, the President of the Paint-n-Paper stores in Allentown, Pennsylvania, and the late Delores ("Dolly") Haltzman, the former President and Artistic Director of the Repertory Dance Theater and the Dolly Haltzman School of Dance in Allentown.[1] He has two brothers (Mark, a trial attorney,[2] and Jonathan) and a sister (Jennifer, the current President of the Repertory Dance Theater and Dolly Haltzman School of Dance). Haltzman's inquisitive mind was in evidence at an early age.[3]


Haltzman graduated from Emmaus High School in Emmaus, Pennsylvania and received his Bachelor's Degree in English and Biology from Brown University in 1982.[4] He received his M.D. degree from Brown Medical School in 1985. He completed his chief residency and was a Fellow in Psychiatry at the Yale-New Haven Hospital.[5][6]

Haltzman is board certified in psychiatry, and is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association.[7]


Haltzman is the Medical Director of Northern Rhode Island Community Services, a mental health and substance-abuse treatment center in Woonsocket, Rhode Island, and a Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry & Human Behavior at Brown Medical School.[8][9] He also has an active private practice, with a focus on marriage counseling for individuals and couples. In addition, he is a presenter at the annual Smart Marriages Conference. Haltzman also spends one day of his week working with clients for SSTAR, a Drug and Alcohol / Mental Health Facility in Fall River MA.


Haltzman is the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever, Jossey-Bass/John Wiley & Sons, 2006,.[10] The book is a marriage guide for men. In it he emphases the biological differences between men and women, arguing that traditional approaches to relationship counseling can devalue men and ignore immutable male qualities. Evolutionary biology, along with explanations of the limbic system governing emotions, provide the foundation for Haltzman's argument that much psychological dogma is possibly wrong, buoying married men by suggesting that it might be healthy "to keep your feelings to yourself," or that getting in touch with feelings is not a panacea for a better marriage. Then Haltzman launches his eight strategies. The strategies are commonsensical — make marriage your job, learn to listen, know your wife, aim to please. Publishers Weekly reviewed the book and wrote that the suggestions "will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage." Psychology Today wrote: "Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman's insights." And Library Journal commented: "Haltzman writes guy to guy, with anecdotes and humor. While it may be a challenge to get men to check out this book, it is highly recommended for all libraries."[7] On Valentine's Day 2006, columnist John Tierney wrote a New York Times editorial echoing advice from Haltzman's book. After Tierney's editorial, The Secrets of Happily Married Men rose to's list of top 100 sellers in books.[11] The book was also chosen by Time Magazine as one of the "Six Books for a Better You in 2006."[12][13]

In January 2008 Haltzman came out with The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less, Jossey-Bass/John Wiley & Sons, which he co-authored with Theresa Foy DiGeronimo.[14] The book focuses on what happily married women know that the others don’t. Haltzman, using real-life examples of actual couples that he counseled, concludes that there are seven key features that compile a man’s way of viewing the world, and that once a woman understands these "secrets" she can vastly improve the happiness of her marriage. Ladies First, reviewing the book, wrote "this delightful ... humorous and entertaining book is a must-read for savvy brides-to-be."[15]

Haltzman followed that with the July 2009 release of The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment, Jossey-Bass/John Wiley & Sons.[16] Using the format of his prior two books, Haltzman published the findings of a survey of 1,266 individuals and determined the factors that led to families being happy. Library Journal's review stated: "An authoritative book on a timely subject for mental-health professionals and parents looking to strengthen familial bonds."[17]

He is also the author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, Johns Hopkins University Press, 2013.[18][19][20] Publishers Weekly, in reviewing it, wrote: "While keyed specifically to meet the needs of couples coping with the shock and pain of an affair, this vital guide from marriage and infidelity expert Haltzman ... contains cogent advice for anyone in a troubled relationship... Haltzman guides readers toward an understanding of why people resort to infidelity, explaining to transgressors how to end an affair in four steps, understand why they cheated, control impulses, make an appropriate apology, and rebuild trust. On the other hand, he helps the innocent parties take stock of their emotions, let go of anger, and decide if and when they’re ready to repair the relationship.”[21]

Haltzman also founded the websites and

Media appearances[edit]

Haltzman has appeared on the Today Show, Good Morning America, 20/20, and Tucker, and has been cited in media on a number of occasions.[12][22][23][24][25][26]


In 2007 Haltzman was honored by the Women's Resource Center of Newport & Bristol Counties (Rhode Island) as one of 19 "Men who Make a Difference."[27]


Haltzman married Susan (née Reynolds Hayum) Haltzman in 1988.[5] They reside in Naples, Florida. Their son is a trial attorney in Wyoming[1] and their daughter is a graduate student at Boston College.


  1. ^ "Susan Reynolds Hayum Weds Dr. Scott Haltzman," The New York Times, 3/20/88, accessed 7/19/09]
  2. ^ [2]
  3. ^ "How do fingernails grow?: Scott Haltzman, age 10, of Allentown, Pennsylvania, for his question," You Ask Andy, 1970, accessed 7/19/09
  4. ^ "Scott Haltzman, M.D. – Redbook". Red Book Magazine. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  5. ^ a b "Susan Reynolds Hayum Weds Dr. Scott Haltzman". The New York Times. March 20, 1988. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  6. ^ "Scott Haltzman, M.D.". Red Book Magazine. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  7. ^ a b "Books by Dr. Scott Haltzman". January 1, 2006. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  8. ^ Tim Britton. "-". The Providence Journal. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  9. ^ "Department of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University – faculty". Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  10. ^ "The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever – Scott Haltzman". Wiley. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  11. ^ Rockland, Ari (February 27, 2006). "Med School prof speaks out on relationships". Brown Daily Herald. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  12. ^ a b [3]
  13. ^ Sachs, Andrea (December 27, 2005). "6 Books for a Better You". TIME. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  14. ^ Deborah Kotz (February 8, 2008). "Secrets of Happily Married Women – On Women". Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  15. ^ [4]
  16. ^ "The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment – Scott Haltzman". Wiley. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  17. ^ Berry, John N. "—". Library Journal. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  18. ^ "The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity". The Johns Hopkins University Press. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  19. ^ "Can Infidelity Make A Relationship Better?". NPR. June 25, 2013. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  20. ^ "Surviving infidelity: psychiatrist offers 3-step plan". Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  21. ^ "Nonfiction Review: The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity by Scott D. Haltzman, M.D. Johns Hopkins Univ.". Publishers Weekly. March 29, 2013. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  22. ^ Sarah Jio (August 5, 2008). "No kids, no jobs for growing number of wives". CNN. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  23. ^ Emily Brandon (February 4, 2008). "7 Tips for Retiring With Your Spouse". US News and World Report. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  24. ^ Rosemary Black. "Experts: Lindsay Lohan may be sexually confused". NY Daily News. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  25. ^ Elias, Marilyn (July 23, 2008). "Economy's stuck, but business is booming at therapists' offices". USA Today. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  26. ^ Daniel B. Wood. "Backstory: Manly man? Girly man? Oh, man!". Christian Science Monitor. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 
  27. ^ "Biography: Dr. Scott Haltzman | hitched". Hitched Magazine. April 12, 2007. Retrieved August 1, 2013. 

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