Self-marriage

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Self-marriage is marriage by a person to himself or herself, also known as Sologamy.[1][2] Self-Marriage is a commitment to radically honor, value, and practice self-love and self-compassion in order to live a better life and help minimize the collective suffering of the world, one human experience at a time. It is a social movement and a daily practice acknowledging that we are in a relationship with ourselves, first and foremost. It is based on the question "if you were in a relationship with someone who treated you the way you treat yourself, would you choose to stay in this relationship?"[3]

Self-Marriage has four components:[3]

  1. Becoming your own lover, best friend, and parent / child
  2. Connecting with and committing to your deeper purpose
  3. Uniting all the contradictory and conflicting aspects of yourself
  4. Harmonizing your external relationships and circumstances

Linda Baker is the first to marry herself. On Dec.1993. Made news before the internet. Her story was first covered by reporter Erica Zeitlin of the Outlook and she was interviewed on television, radio globally.

Other sources of Self-Marriage[edit]

The idea of such a ceremony is also described in the book Quirkyalone: a manifesto for uncompromising romantics by Sasha Cagen. It can also refer to a self-uniting marriage, that is a marriage without an officiant.[4]

Citing societal pressure to get married, Ms Chen Wei-yih, 30, of Taiwan announced in late 2010 that she would be marrying herself.[5][6] In an interview, she said that, “When I look back at my wedding, at the self-commitment now, I feel it is a thing to remind me that I should not betray myself in any way and any time." [7]

In popular culture[edit]

In Chris Morris's television series Jam a middle-aged man marries himself.[8] In Glee Sue Sylvester not only married herself to herself, but also officiated the ceremony because she determined that she was the perfect partner for herself. Carrie of Sex and The City marries herself after she is "shoe-shamed". Bradshaw, Carrie (Main Character) (August 17, 2003). "A Woman's Right to Shoes". Sex and The City. Season 6. HBO. http://www.hbo.com/sex-and-the-city/episodes/6/83-a-womans-right-to-shoes/synopsis.html.

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References[edit]

  1. ^ Cooper, Desiree. "Finding yourself in self-marriage." Detroit Free Press.
  2. ^ McMillan, Mike. "Self-Marriage". Archived from the original on 2009-10-25. [unreliable source?]
  3. ^ a b "About Self-Marriage". Self Marriage Ceremonies. Retrieved 2013-08-01. 
  4. ^ "GENERAL AND DETAILED INSTRUCTIONS FOR THE BRIDE, GROOM AND OFFICANT FOR COMPLETING THE MARRIAGE LICENSE APPLICATION AND ORIGINAL CERTIFICATE OF MARRIAGE". 
  5. ^ "Congratulations, you may now kiss yourself". Reuters. 2010-10-22. 
  6. ^ "Woman marrying herself; Taiwan 'bride' sending message about society's pressures". Slurge (Newser). 2010-10-22. 
  7. ^ "Self-marriage, for you?". HLNtv. 2012-05-31. 
  8. ^ Peretti, Jacques (March 24, 2000). "Electric dreams". The Guardian. Retrieved 2008-06-24.