Sexuality of Abraham Lincoln
The sexuality of Abraham Lincoln (1809–1865), the 16th President of the United States, has been a topic of historical debate and scholarship. Although Lincoln was married to Mary Todd from November 4, 1842, until his death on April 15, 1865, and fathered four children with her, psychologist C. A. Tripp has observed that Lincoln's problematic and distant relationship with women stood in contrast to his warmer relations with a number of men in his life and that two of those relationships had possible homoerotic overtones. Some Lincoln biographers, including David Herbert Donald, have strongly contested claims that Lincoln was homosexual or bisexual. In opposing these claims, Donald cites Lincoln's letters, in which he frequently refers to acquaintances, even political enemies, as "my personal friend".
Historical scholarship and debate 
Commentary on Abraham Lincoln's sexuality has existed for some time but re-entered the public light in 2005 with the posthumous publication of C. A. Tripp's book The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln.
In his 1926 biography of Lincoln, Carl Sandburg made an allusion to the early relationship of Lincoln and his friend Joshua Fry Speed as having "a streak of lavender, and spots soft as May violets". "Streak of lavender" was slang in the period for an effeminate man, and later connoted homosexuality. Sandburg did not elaborate on this comment.
Lincoln wrote a poem that described a marriage-like relation between two men, which included the lines:
|“||For Reuben and Charles have married two girls,
But Billy has married a boy.
The girls he had tried on every side,
But none he could get to agree;
All was in vain, he went home again,
And since that he's married to Natty.
This poem was included in the first edition of Herndon's Life of Lincoln, but was expurgated from subsequent editions until 1942, when the editor Paul Angle restored it. This is an example of what Mark Blechner calls "the closeting of history" in which evidence that suggests a degree of homosexuality or bisexuality in a major historical figure is suppressed or hidden.
C. A. Tripp, who was gay and died in 2003, was a sex researcher, and protégé of Alfred Kinsey. He began writing The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln with Philip Nobile until a falling out between them. The New York Times quoted Nobile saying "Tripp's book is a fraud", noting that Nobile "declined to say what was fraudulent, however, because he said he was writing his own article about it". Nobile went on to write a critical review of Tripp's book in the Weekly Standard, in which he accused the Tripp book of plagiarizing his own work, of relying heavily on Charles Shiveley without proper attribution and of distortion. Nobile's book on Lincoln has never appeared, but he did go on to meet further controversy of his own, involving allegedly wrongful accusations by Nobile of his superiors' involvement in a cheating scheme.
Tripp's book includes an afterword by historian and Lincoln biographer Michael Burlingame titled "A Respectful Dissent", in which he states:
|“||Since it is virtually impossible to prove a negative, Dr. Tripp's thesis cannot be rejected outright. But given the paucity of hard information adduced by him, and given the abundance of contrary evidence indicating that Lincoln was drawn romantically and sexually to some women, a reasonable conclusion, it seems to me, would be that it is possible but highly unlikely that Abraham Lincoln was "predominantly homosexual."||”|
In a second afterword to the book titled "An Enthusiastic Endorsement", historian Michael B. Chesson makes the argument for the historical significance of the work:
|“||Tripp, for all his research, sophistication, and insight, has not proved his case conclusively. … But any open-minded reader who has reached this point may well have a reasonable doubt about the nature of Lincoln’s sexuality. The "Tall Sucker" was a very strange man, one of the strangest in American history, and certainly the oddest to reach a position of national prominence, let alone the presidency. If Lincoln was a homosexual, or primarily so inclined, then suddenly our image of this mysterious man gains some clarity. Not everything falls into place. But many things do, including some important, even essential, elements of who Lincoln was, why he acted in the way he did, and a possible reason for his sadness, loneliness, and secretive nature.||”|
Time magazine also addressed the book as part of a cover article by Joshua Wolf Shenk, author of Lincoln's Melancholy: How Depression Challenged a President and Fueled His Greatness. Shenk dismissed Tripp's conclusions, stating that arguments on Lincoln's homosexuality were "based on a tortured misreading of conventional 19th century sleeping arrangements". Charles Morris has critically analyzed the academic and popular responses to Tripp's book, arguing that much of the negative response by the Lincoln Establishment reveals itself to be equally guilty of rhetorical and political partisanship as that of Tripp's defenders. In an earlier essay, Morris argues that in the wake of Larry Kramer's "outing" of Lincoln, the Lincoln Establishment engaged in "mnemonicide", or the assassination of a threatening counter-memory, including the methodologically flawed but widely appropriated case against the "gay Lincoln thesis" by David Herbert Donald in his book We Are Lincoln Men.
Since about 1981, author and gay activist Larry Kramer has been researching and writing a manuscript called The American People: A History, an ambitious historical work that begins in the Stone Age and continues into the present. In 1999 Kramer claimed that he had uncovered new primary sources which shed fresh light on Lincoln's sexuality. The sources included a hitherto unknown Joshua Speed diary and letters in which Speed writes explicitly about his relationship with Lincoln. These items were supposedly discovered hidden beneath the floorboards of the old store where the two men lived, and are said to reside in a private collection in Davenport, Iowa. Historian Gabor Boritt, referring to Kramer's documents, wrote, "Almost certainly this is a hoax ...". Tripp also expressed skepticism over Kramer’s discovery, writing, "Seeing is believing, should that diary ever show up; the passages claimed for it have not the slightest Lincolnian ring." Publisher Farrar, Straus and Giroux announced in September 2010 that it had acquired worldwide rights to the book and planned to publish it in two volumes beginning in 2012.
Critics of the hypothesis that Lincoln was homosexually inclined note that Lincoln married and had four children. Scholar Douglas Wilson claims that Lincoln as a young man displayed heterosexual behavior, including telling stories to his friends of his interactions with women.
Tripp notes that Lincoln's awareness of homosexuality and openness in penning this "bawdy poem" "was unique for the time period." Donald, however, notes that Lincoln would have needed to look no further than the Bible to realize "that men did sometimes have sex with each other", and historian William Lee Miller, among others, has acknowledged that Lincoln was reading the Bible well before his twentieth birthday.
Lincoln's stepmother, Sarah Bush Lincoln, commented that he "never took much interest in the girls". However some accounts of Lincoln's contemporaries suggest a strong but controlled passion for women. Lincoln was devastated over the 1835 death of Ann Rutledge. While some historians have questioned whether there was in fact a romantic relationship between her and Lincoln, historian John Y. Simon reviewed the historiography of the subject and concluded, "Available evidence overwhelmingly indicates that Lincoln so loved Ann that her death plunged him into severe depression. More than a century and a half after her death, when significant new evidence cannot be expected, she should take her proper place in Lincoln biography." Herndon, Lincoln's law partner, in his biography of Lincoln, attests to the depth of Lincoln's love for Miss Rutledge. An anonymous poem about suicide published locally exactly three years after her death is widely attributed to Lincoln. His courting of Mary Owens was diffident. In 1837, he wrote to her from Springfield to give her an opportunity to break off their relationship. Lincoln wrote to a friend in 1838: "I knew she was oversize, but now she appeared a fair match for Falstaff".
In 2012, Sylvia Rhue, a filmmaker and activist, interviewed Reverend Cindi Love about her family history and research. Love, a descendant of William Herndon, noted that family history held that Herndon was gay and the lover of Lincoln.
In her book Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln, Doris Kearns Goodwin points out the flaw of asserting Lincoln's sexuality as homosexual simply on the basis for his attachment to the young Speed:
"Their intimacy is more an index to an era when close male friendships, accompanied by open expressions of affection and passion, were familiar and socially acceptable. Nor can sharing a bed be considered evidence for an erotic involvement. It was a common practice in an era when private quarters were a rare luxury...The attorneys of the Eighth circuit in Illinois where Lincoln would travel regularly shared beds" (58).
Furthermore, Goodwin reiterates what historian Donald Yacovone has stated in the past: "the preoccupation with elemental sex" reveals more about the later centuries "than about the nineteenth"(58).
As noted above, in 19th century America, men commonly bunked with other men. For example, when lawyers and judges traveled "the circuit" with Lincoln, the lawyers often slept "two in a bed and eight in a room". William H. Herndon recalled, "I have slept with 20 men in the same room".
A tabulation of historical sources shows that Lincoln slept in the same bed as at least 11 boys and men during his youth and adulthood. There are no known instances in which Lincoln tried to suppress knowledge or discussion of such arrangements, and in some conversations, raised the subject himself. Tripp discusses three of them at length: Joshua Speed, William Greene, and Charles Derickson.
Relationship with Joshua Speed 
Lincoln met Joshua Fry Speed in Springfield, Illinois, in 1837. They lived together for four years, during which time they occupied the same bed during the night (some sources specify a large double bed) and developed a friendship that would last until their deaths. According to some sources, William Herndon and a fourth man also slept in the same room. Historians such as Donald point out it was not unusual at that time for two men to share even a small bed due to financial or other circumstances, without anything sexual being implied. Putting the issue in historical perspective, Jonathan Ned Katz wrote of the bed sharing:
|“||At the start of the twenty-first century it may even be difficult to imagine a man, especially a bachelor, offering another a place in his bed without some conscious fear or desire that the proposition will be understood as a come-on.
In the nineteenth century, Speed was probably not conscious of any such erotic possibility. His immediate, casual offer, and his later report of it, suggests that men's bed sharing was not then often explicitly understood as conducive to forbidden sexual experiments.
Katz does indicate that such sleeping arrangements "did provide an important site (probably the major site) of erotic opportunity". Katz notes that referring to present day concepts of "homo, hetero, and bi distort our present understanding of Lincoln and Speed's experiences" and that rather than there being "an unchanging essence of homosexuality and heterosexuality" people throughout history "continually reconfigure their affectionate and erotic feelings and acts". He suggests that the Lincoln-Speed relationship fell within the 19th century category of intense, even romantic man-to-man friendships with erotic overtones that may have been "a world apart in that era's consciousness from the sensual universe of mutual masturbation and the legal universe of 'sodomy,' 'buggery,' and 'the crime against nature'".
Possibly, correspondence of the period, such as that between Thomas Jefferson Withers and James Henry Hammond, provides clear evidence of a sexual dimension to some same-sex bed sharing. The fact that Lincoln was open about sharing a bed with Speed is seen by some historians as an indication that their relationship was not romantic. None of Lincoln's enemies hinted at any homosexual implication.
Joshua Speed married Fanny Hennings on February 15, 1842, and the two men seem to have consulted each other about married life. Despite having some political differences over slavery, they corresponded for the rest of their lives and Lincoln appointed Joshua's brother, James Speed, to his cabinet as Attorney General.
Relationship with Mary Todd Lincoln 
Lincoln and Mary Todd met in Springfield in 1839 and became engaged in 1840. In what historian Allen Guelzo calls "one of the murkiest episodes in Lincoln’s life", Lincoln called off his engagement to Mary Todd at the same time that the legislative program he had supported for years collapsed, his best friend Joshua Speed left Springfield, and John Stuart, Lincoln’s law partner, proposed ending their law practice. Lincoln is believed to have suffered something approaching clinical depression. Lincoln's Preparation for Greatness: The Illinois Legislative Years by Paul Simon has a chapter covering the period that Lincoln later referred to as "The Fatal First", which was January 1, 1841. That was "the date on which Lincoln asked to be released from his engagement to Mary Todd". Simon explains that the various reasons the engagement was broken contradict one another and it was not fully documented, but he did become unusually depressed, which showed in his appearance, and that "it was traceable to Mary Todd". During this time, he avoided seeing Mary, causing her to comment that he "deems me unworthy of notice".
Jean H. Baker, historian and biographer of Mary Todd Lincoln, describes the relationship between Lincoln and his wife as "bound together by three strong bonds – sex, parenting and politics". In addition to the anti-Mary Todd bias of many historians engendered by William Herndon’s (Lincoln's law partner and early biographer) personal hatred of Mrs. Lincoln, Baker discounts the criticism of the marriage as both a basic misunderstanding of the changing nature of marriage and courtship in the mid-19th century and attempts to judge the Lincoln marriage by modern standards.
Baker notes that "most observers of the Lincoln marriage have been impressed with their sexuality". Some "male historians" claim that the Lincolns’ sex life ended either in 1853 after their son Tad’s difficult birth or in 1856 when they moved into a bigger house, but have no actual evidence for their speculations. In fact, there are "almost no gynecological conditions resulting from childbirth "other than a prolapsed uterus (which would have produced other noticeable effects on Mrs. Lincoln) that would have prevented intercourse, and in the 1850s "many middle-class couples slept in separate bedrooms".
Far from abstaining from sex, Baker suggests that in fact the Lincolns were part of a new development in America that saw the birth rate declining from seven births to a family in 1800 to around 4 per family by 1850. As Americans separated sexuality from child bearing, forms of birth control such as coitus interruptus, long-term breast feeding, and crude forms of condoms and womb veils, available through mail order, were available and used. The spacing of the Lincoln children (Robert in 1843, Eddie in 1846, Willie in 1850, and Tad in 1853) is consistent with some type of planning and would have required "an intimacy about sexual relations that for aspiring couples meant shared companionate power over reproduction".
Relationship with David Derickson 
Captain David Derickson was Lincoln's bodyguard and companion between September 1862 and April 1863. They shared a bed during the absences of Lincoln's wife, until Derickson was promoted in 1863. Derickson was twice married and fathered ten children, but whatever the exact level of intimacy of the relationship, it was the subject of gossip. Elizabeth Woodbury Fox, the wife of Lincoln's naval aide, wrote in her diary for November 16, 1862, "Tish says, 'Oh, there is a Bucktail soldier here devoted to the president, drives with him, and when Mrs. L. is not home, sleeps with him.' What stuff!" This sleeping arrangement was also recorded by a fellow officer in Derickson's regiment, Thomas Chamberlin, in the book History of the One Hundred and Fiftieth Regiment Pennsylvania Volunteers, Second Regiment, Bucktail Brigade. Historian Martin P. Johnson notes that the strong similarity in style and content of the Fox and Chamberlin accounts suggests that rather than being two independent accounts of the same events as Tripp claims, both were in fact based on the same report from a single source. David Donald and Johnson both dispute Tripp's interpretation of Fox's comment, saying instead that the exclamation of "What stuff!" was, in that day, an exclamation over the absurdity of the suggestion rather than the gossip value of it.
- Cathy Young Co-opting Lincoln's sexuality Boston Globe Jan 31, 2005
- Richard Brookhiser Was Lincoln Gay? New York Times Jan 9, 2005
- D. H. Donald We are Lincoln Men pg 141-143 Simon & Schuster 2003 ISBN 0-7432-5468-6
- (15 December 2003). A Review by Gregory M. Lamb at www.powells.com of "We Are Lincoln Men": Abraham Lincoln and His Friends" D. H. Donald
- A. J. Pollock, "Underworld Speaks"(1935) p 115/2, cited in Oxford English Dictionary.
- Philip Nobile "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Don’t Publish: Homophobia in Lincoln Studies?"GMU History News Network June 2001
- Herndon, W. H., Herndon's Lincoln: The True Story of a Great Life. Scituate, MA: Digital Scanning, 2000.
- Blechner, M. J. (2009) 'Sex Changes: Transformations in Society and Psychoanalysis.' New York and London: Taylor & Francis.
- Smith, Dinitia Finding Homosexual Threads in Lincoln's Legend, December 16, 2004, New York Times
- Nobile, Philip Honest, Abe?, Jan 17, 2005, Weekly Standard, Vol 10, Issue 17]
- name=New Report Clears School of Cheating
- Michael Burlingame Afterword: The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln pg 226-238 Free Press 2005 ISBN 0-7432-6639-0
- Michael B. Chesson Afterword: The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln pg 245 Free Press 2005 ISBN 0-7432-6639-0
- "The True Lincoln". Time. June 26, 2005. Retrieved May 23, 2010.
- Charles E. Morris III, "Hard Evidence: The Vexations of Lincoln's Queer Corpus", in Rhetoric, Materiality, Politics, ed. Barbara Biesecker and John Louis Lucaites (New York: Peter Lang, 2009): 185-213; "My Old Kentucky Homo: Abraham Lincoln, Larry Kramer, and the Politics of Queer Memory", Queering Public Address: Sexualities and American Historical Discourse, ed. Charles E. Morris III (Columbia: University of South Carolina Press, 2007): 93-120.
- Kramer, Larry. "Nuremberg Trials for AIDS". The Gay & Lesbian Review Worldwide. September–October 2006.
- Carol Lloyd Was Lincoln Gay? Salon Ivory Tower May 3, 1999
- Gabor Boritt, The Lincoln Enigma: The Changing Faces of an American Icon, Oxford University Press, 2001, p.xiv.
- C.A. Tripp The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln pg xxx Free Press 2005 ISBN 0-7432-6639-0
- More to the Story: A History of Gay America
- Douglas Wilson Honor's Voice: The Transformation of Abraham Lincoln Vintage Publishing 1999 ISBN 0-375-70396-9
- William Lee Miller Lincoln's Virtues: An Ethical Biography(2002) ISBN 0-375-70173-7 pg 49. Miller states of the young Lincoln, "...there cannot be much doubt that he read and reread and came to know a good deal of the Bible."
- Jonathan Ned Katz, Love Stories: Sex Between Men Before Homosexuality (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2001). On Lincoln and Speed see chapter 1, "No Two Men Were Ever More Intimate", pages 3-25. For more on Lincoln and sexuality see the notes to this chapter.
- Abraham Lincoln and Ann Rutledge, John Y. Simon
- The New Yorker, Eureka Dept., Jun 14, 2004 The Suicide Poem
- Library of Congress:Collection Guides (online), Lincoln as Poet
- "Letter, Abraham Lincoln to Mary S. Owens reflecting the frustration of courtship, 16 August 1837". Library of Congress. (Abraham Lincoln Papers)
- Rhue, Sylvia (November 26, 2012). "A Family History Provides More Evidence That Lincoln Was Gay". Huffington Post. Retrieved January 13, 2013.
- Randall, Ruth Painter. Mary Lincoln: Biography of a Marriage. Boston: Little, Brown, 1953. pp 70-71.
- Donald DH. Lincoln’s Herndon. New York: A.A. Knopf, 1948, page 46.
- Sotos, JG (2008). The Physical Lincoln Sourcebook. Mount Vernon, VA: Mt. Vernon Book Systems.
- Excerpt from D. H. Donald's We are Lincoln Men Simon & Schuster 2003 ISBN 0-7432-5468-6
- Sandburg 1:244
- Abraham Lincoln: The Prairie Years (1926) 1:244; Roundup: Talking About History, by Richard Brookhiser, NYT Book Review (Jan 9, 2005) of C.A. Tripp's Gay Lincoln Biography online at the History News Network; David H. Donald's We are Lincoln Men, op.cit.
- Martin Duberman, "Writhing Bedfellows: 1826 Two Young Men from Antebellum South Carolina’s Ruling Elite Share 'Extravagant Delight'", in Salvatore Licata and Robert Petersen, eds., Historical Perspectives on Homosexuality (New York: Haworth Press & Stein & Day, 1981), pages 85-99.
- Allen C. Guelzo, Abraham Lincoln: Redeemer President, (1999) pg. 97-98.
- Jean H. Baker, "Mary and Abraham: A Marriage" in "The Lincoln Enigma" edited by Gabor Boritt pg. 55
- Tripp, C.A. : Intimate World, Ibid.
- Martin P. Johnson, Did Abraham Lincoln Sleep with His Bodyguard? Another Look at the Evidence Journal of the Abraham Lincoln Association Vol 27 No 2 (Summer 2006)
Further reading 
- Hay, John; Nicolay, John George (1890). Abraham Lincoln: a History.
- Michael F. Bishop, "All the President's Men", Washington Post February 13, 2005; Page BW03 online
- Book Questions Abraham Lincoln's Sexuality - Discovery Channel
- "The sexual life of Abraham Lincoln" by Andrew O'Hehir, Salon.com, Jan. 12, 2005 (requires subscription or viewing an ad before reading)
- The Lincoln Bedroom: A Critical Symposium Claremont Review of Books, Summer 2005
- Exploring Lincoln's Loves Scott Simon in conversation with Lincoln scholars Michael Chesson and Michael Burlingame. National Public Radio, February 12, 2005
- We Are Lincoln Men Margaret Warner speaks with Pulitzer Prize-winning author David Herbert Donald about his book, We Are Lincoln Men: Abraham Lincoln and His Friends. Public Broadcasting Service, November 26, 2003
- Jay Hatheway. American Historical Review 111#2 (April 2006) - An Edgewood College history professor's book review of C.A. Tripp's The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln online
- Mr. Lincoln and Friends: Joshua F. Speed