I'd like to see the ebridalshower.com link deleted because, regardless of who puts it up, it still fails the external link guidelines. It's a commercial site, not a particularly reliable source, very POV. It also doesn't really add anything to the article. --SiobhanHansa 21:25, 10 September 2006 (UTC)
- Since no one has responded defending the link I'm going to remove it again. If you'd like to see it back, please post how it adds encylopedic value to the article. Thanks -Siobhan Hansa 16:48, 27 September 2006 (UTC)
I disagree. The site ebridalshower.com expands in detail the main purpose and function of a bridal shower. The site offers free information written by a reputable Bridal Shower consultant and does not sell any products. Therefore, the only “commercial” occurrence is the top-level domain name. - MelanieD 29 September 2006
- How do you know the author is a reputable consultant? And how can a bridal shower consultant be expected to provide NPOV information, especially in a non-reviewed context like a self published website? Although the site does not sell goods, it is a commercial site. This in itself is not a good reason for getting rid of the link if it provides encyclopedic information. But since it's not a reliable, or even authoritative, source, I don't see how it does that. Finally I notice that the site's author and presumably the recipient of the revenue from those google ads is Melanie Doetsch. That wouldn't happen to be you would it, MelanieD? --Siobhan Hansa
Bridal, or wedding shower?
married now and need to throw one of these, i'm trying to find the correct definition, so what do you think? Are they the same thing or different?
Netherlands or Holland?
"A frequently quoted legend traces the origin of this practice to sixteenth or seventeenth century Holland. However there are also parallels with many dowry practices and the US Colonial or hope chest (trousseau) custom."
Is it really meant to be Holland, or should it be the Netherlands? The book says 'Holland', but on the same page, the writer quotes 'Wedding lore has it that the bridal shower dates back over 300 years, when a young Dutch maiden fell in love with a poor miller...'.
Who throws a shower?
My only experience with the concept of a bridal shower is reading about them online (since they don't exist in the UK) and one thing that seems consistent is a 'rule' that they should never be thrown by a family member, definately not a close one. I've even encountered entire pages on certain wedding sites devoted to 'shock' stories about showers thrown by family members (apparently it's seen as a blatant attempt to swindle extra gifts/cash from potential wedding guests). Yet this page states that a shower is usually thrown by the brides mother. I realise it may be a regional thing, but outside of Wikipedia things seem fairly consistent. Anyone got any ideas on which is correct/most common? Danikat (talk) 14:29, 1 April 2010 (UTC)
Yes, it is traditionally considered poor manners for family to throw a shower for the bride or couple. Sadly, many people are ignoring this guideline today. —Preceding unsigned comment added by ANDREWB0SE (talk • contribs) 14:15, 8 May 2010 (UTC)
My aunt threw a bridal shower for my cousin - I thought that was quite normal. It was for female family members, I'm sure my cousin's friends also threw her one (she lives in a town away from most of the family). Bridal showers are really not, in my experience equivalent with giving wedding gifts. When my other cousin got married, her sister hosted it, and it was a mix of family and friends. They are small family and friends affairs, with a nice lunch and some gifts for the bride, and lots of laughter and story telling. Sometimes everyone brings a favourite recipe, or tells a story about the bride, or in one case we all contributed a fabric square and made her a quilt. The one's I've been to have all been at someone's home (though I missed one that was at the beach), and they really are not something particularly consumeristic.