Talk:Etiquette

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Attention from an Expert - Tag added[edit]

blahh — Preceding unsigned comment added by 75.117.151.194 (talk) 14:04, 9 January 2014 (UTC)

This tag has been added because the Etiquette page seems a bit vague and limited, and because several other articles exist for synonyms to etiquette, which theoretically could be merged to create an excellent and informative article.

Specifically, "manners," "table manners," "Politeness," "social graces," and "deportment" each have dedicated articles, when in fact, they're exactly the same topic. I'd like to add "good form" to the list. In fact, perhaps there's a list to make as well. —Preceding unsigned comment added by Wipfeln (talkcontribs) 03:59, 7 September 2009 (UTC)

Australian Example[edit]

I have never heard of the last woman to take a piece of food being called a "spinster". I've lived in Victoria, and New South Wales, in Australia, for 25 years.

Louis XIV[edit]

Louis XIV did not write a book on etiquette. I rewrote the Louis XIV sentence. Wetman 18:11, 23 Jun 2004 (UTC)

Etiquette category[edit]

I have created an Etiquette category and added all pages on wikipedia with Etiquette in their title to it. I am not sure if the link should be displayed at the top of the article. Should all of the articles at the bottom be in the etiquette category? Ravedave 05:35, 15 July 2005 (UTC)

"Common Norms of Ettiquette" Section[edit]

I submit that the "Common Norms of Ettiquette" section be removed. It doesn't further the interests of this article, and it flies in the face of what the introduction establishes, promoting a particular view of a particular type of ettiquette rather than observing the plurality of ettiquettes. Or perhaps it could be cited to a particular text and author and presented as simply the viewpoint of a particular authority on one culture's ettiquette. As it is now I'd argue that it does more harm to the integrity of this article than help.

            --Techgeist 07:38, 4 April 2006 (UTC)


I agree. I also know several cultures where the examples don't fit. (-T) 62.241.251.115 15:45, 13 April 2006 (UTC)


After seeing no arguments against or objections to my previous suggestion, I am taking it upon myself to delete said section, which I feel harms the integrity of this wikipedia page. I'm going to paste the removed text here so it can be referenced for future discussions. Techgeist 02:01, 23 May 2006 (UTC)

Removed Text: Though etiquette depends on culture, some expectations are widely shared.

Say "please" when you need something from someone else, even if this person is your subordinate.

Say "thank you" to people who help you, even if this person is your subordinate. Often, writing a note of thanks gains you significant emotional capital.

Say "I'm sorry" when you have injured someone inadvertently, or when you have injured someone intentionally and need to reconcile.

When someone has injured you, but says "I'm sorry," try to forgive the person. You can do this by saying, "I forgive you," or "Thanks for apologizing."

Use insulting humour very sparingly. While common in entertainment, many people find insulting humour to be offensive and hurtful. Often, you can use your same skills at creating insults to create teasing compliments, which makes everyone feel good rather than bad.

Do not abuse other people, especially those weak or disadvantaged.

Manners And Etiquette[edit]

They are the same thing, no?--GorillazFan Adam 23:53, 22 June 2006 (UTC)

They are two different elements. Etiquette are a set of rules established to determine appropriate behaviors. "Manners" describe someone utilizing proper etiquette. www.passportforsuccess.com

I suggest to merge 'manners' into this article since 'manners' has fewer content and it is just a habit of 'etiquette'. --Octra Bond (talk) 19:53, 10 May 2012 (UTC)

imo, manner(s) means habits. when one uses prescribed or common social conventions, etiquette, habitually, they become one's manner. when we do not employ 'proper' etiquette, we are asked to 'mind our manners'. phrases such as "Where are your manners?" are simply idiomatic (as in that it was probably the subject's obnoxious mannerisms on display that prompted the phrase). perhaps put "good manners => etiquette" and "bad manners => faux pas" at the top of the 'manners' page, or similar. i might go mention that there.203.213.90.41 (talk) 11:57, 12 November 2012 (UTC)

Authority on Etiquette[edit]

(Näively, ) What constitutes a reliable source or authority on (popular) etiquette? JetheroTalk 03:38, 22 April 2007 (UTC)

Specifically, if an article claims a particular action is part of a common etiquette, and there is a dispute, what type of sources should be employed to resolve the dispute? JetheroTalk 03:40, 22 April 2007 (UTC)

Keep in mind that etiquette, (business, social, wedding, technology, international, etc.) is contextual, and although there are core elements that have endured over history, it is important to understand the context of the situation when initiating the best course of action to be taken. www.passportforsuccess.com

Took out the Australian/spinster garbage. Not true at all.

"As noted above, across the world, Debrett's is considered by many to be the arbiter of etiquette; its guides to manners and form have long been and continue to be the last word among polite society[citation needed]" - this seems like a plug: the 'debretts' links to a similarly named website, and i'm not sure what is meant by 'as noted above', i can't see any other reference, besides those added under 'further reading' and 'external links'... so i'm gonna take it out. i'm pretty sure straight up plugs are against the rules - i'll leave the lower links fsr... ah 4got to leave a comment sry
PS there is a debretts page but it barely rates above a plug itself, though it does claim the firm is 250 years old. 203.213.90.41 (talk) 10:55, 12 November 2012 (UTC)

Manners Section[edit]

The manners section contains a paragraph about American attitudes towards Etiquette

Many of the comments about etiquette probably are general attitudes towards etiquette rather than specifically American (certainly disparaging attitudes towards it exist in the UK too). Suggest this is rewritten to discuss various attitudes towards etiquette rather than making it specifically American.

Also to finish with the sentence

More advanced countries such as those of the EU have made such discrimination illegal and refusal of admission based on clothing or demeanour is a criminal offence.

hints that countries in the EU are more advanced than the US. This is a rather loaded comment that surely doesn't belong. Also which countries have this as a law? (Citation). And why does this make them more advanced?

Neilljones (talk) 15:13, 18 October 2008 (UTC)

ESSAY —Preceding unsigned comment added by 114.143.48.13 (talk) 09:59, 13 May 2010 (UTC)

Proposed merge with Respect[edit]

The following discussion is closed. Please do not modify it. Subsequent comments should be made in a new section.

The majority of this article is about etiquette that is used to convey respect, not about respect itself. Other topics here are already covered by Self-esteem and various sociological articles. Ibadibam (talk) 19:31, 12 August 2013 (UTC)

The fact that etiquette sometimes conveys respect, isn't a basis for a merge, they're entirely different concepts. Are you really a native English speaker? It's especially odd that it is being suggested that the larger and broader concept of Respect be merged into the narrow one of Etiquette. The reverse would make some sense as would a merge of synonyms if any like Manners or Politeness, asking for a merge of Respect into Etiquette is just odd, whence my query if you are native speaker of English. I think you are trying to make some kind of radical point, such as that Etiquette and Respect are non-functional elements of human culture that might be better dispensed with. I tend somewhat to agree with this but it's wholly inappropriate to try this here and violates a bunch of rules of the site. Removed tagging on both articles for these reasons. Lycurgus (talk) 12:13, 31 August 2013 (UTC)
The basis for this proposal is given above. This is not a semantic question regarding respect, etiquette, and any equivalence of the two concepts. This is about the quality of the Respect article, which in its current state discusses etiquette far more than it discusses respect. Were the article trimmed of original research, unsourced assertions and content duplicating other articles, it wouldn't be much more than a dictionary definition. If you have any ideas to save this article, please present them. Ibadibam (talk) 18:12, 31 August 2013 (UTC)
I'll let others weigh in. Your opinion may carry due to a general lack of interest, if I'm unable to come back to this after an appropriate amount of time, which is kind of funny. I wouldn't put a lot of work into it though since it would likely be reversed. At this point you have your suggestion and my naysaying of it, it would be imprudent to proceed without someone seconding your opinion. 76.180.168.166 (talk) 22:21, 31 August 2013 (UTC)
Noting I'm not in fact going to work this. 76.180.168.166 (talk) 13:48, 15 September 2013 (UTC)
  • Oppose It is one thing to move material dealing more with etiquette than respect from one article to the other, but the concepts are entirely different, so merge is not the appropriate action here. 78.26 (I'm no IP, talk to me!) 14:46, 19 September 2013 (UTC)
    • I see your point that the proposal is the wrong type. My suspicion is that, once content is moved to the correct articles, there will be little left in this article and it will be AfDed, so I proposed it as a merge to encompass that entire process. I guess I'll just move the out-of-place content and see what we can do to save this page. Ibadibam (talk) 18:44, 19 September 2013 (UTC)
The lead section isn't too bad, and the "Respect for others" is not horrible either, although it is extremely unbalanced, as there is a lot more to the subject than sexual harassment. The "Signs of Respect" is a good section to keep, but it shouldn't be overly detailed. Having an entire section on Chinese culture, as opposed to others, also seems unbalanced. However, there are cultural aspects to "respect" that are central to many Eastern cultures that are not contemplated in Western cultures. Perhaps this needs to be brought out more, rather than deleting what is there. Ibadibam is making some very good points, because as written seems to be more about etiquitte to a Western reader. My take is that it isn't so much about what needs to be removed, as what needs to be added to bring the article into balance. 78.26 (I'm no IP, talk to me!) 19:55, 19 September 2013 (UTC)
The second paragraph of the lead section is pretty unencyclopedic and subjective, and reads like an essay. The "Respect for others" section doesn't really discuss respect itself: the first paragraph is about etiquette, the second about sexual harassment and workplace sexism. The "Signs of respect" section is entirely about etiquette and can be moved there. What does that leave us with? Ibadibam (talk) 20:35, 19 September 2013 (UTC)
  • Oppose Per 78.26. Etiquette does not necessarily indicate respect, and vice versa. Wwwhatsup (talk) 17:47, 19 September 2013 (UTC)
  • Strong oppose. Completely distinct concepts. If the content of the current articles are felt to overlap too strongly, fix them (possibly including a merge of content to the appropriate article), but a merge of the namespaces should be out of the question. — LlywelynII 04:32, 5 November 2013 (UTC)
  • Oppose Some habits in etiquette stem not from respect but from safety issues. Examples of this found in seating patterns at the table: the main guest to the right and a woman to the left, making backstabbing difficult. The Banner talk 23:19, 17 November 2013 (UTC)

The above discussion is preserved as an archive. Please do not modify it. Subsequent comments should be made in a new section.


Dcsh== shock!! ==

I had loan out a $500 dollar wedding dress to an acquaintance, because she was unable to purchase a wedding dress of her own.She returned the dress back to me with a large stain and in a plastic garbage bag. I thought on a hanger and a mention of the stain would have been appropriate upon the return of my dress.. your opinion on this manner please..

shock!![edit]

I had loan out a $500 dollar wedding dress to an acquaintance, because she was unable to purchase a wedding dress of her own.She returned the dress back to me with a larger stain in a plastic garbage bag. I thought a hanger and a mention of the stain would have been appropriate upon the return of my dress.. your opinion on this manner please.. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 2602:306:802E:DA30:80F3:10A4:D879:C93 (talk) 13:36, 6 July 2014 (UTC)