Tease and denial

Tease and denial (also called "orgasm denial" or "T&D") is a general term used to describe any technique that involves the sexual stimulation of a person to cause intense arousal without climax. It is usually practiced for the express purpose of creating powerful feelings of sexual frustration and pleasure in the person being stimulated by singly or repeatedly bringing the subject to the brink of orgasm without actually causing orgasm.

Bringing someone to the "edge" (or brink) of orgasm is called "edging". Edging in addition to prolonged sexual excitement or stimulation will frequently produce pre-ejaculate or "precum", which is often used as lube during the edging process. This can be seen as a sign that effective teasing of the male has been applied. Blue balls is another signal that teasing and effective denying has taken place.

A series of T&D sessions can sometimes lead to a ruined orgasm. This can be extremely effective in causing sexual frustration in that the person is led to believe that they are about to have the orgasm that he has been consistently denied. Ruining the orgasm only deflates the orgasmic euphoria and it places the person back in the submissive, controlled position in respect to their partner.

How long the tease lasts, the number of sessions until orgasm (if any) and the methods used vary from couple to couple. This practice is associated with BDSM, but can also be used to augment vanilla sex relationships as well.

In recent years, Teasing & Denial has become commonly referred to as "Edging" and has become a common element of BDSM play, particularly among Gay men, since it has the elements of teasing/denial and control by the dominant (or "top") person, yet has a infectious risk only equal to mutual masturbation.

Men with a strong libido can be "Edged" many times within a BDSM scene. All of the chemicals normally released during intercourse or masturbation are released numerous times over the period of Edging play, but very little Refractory Period occurs because ejaculation does not take place.

The small amounts of leakage during "Edging" tend to calm-down the person being denied orgasm experiences a great deal of arousal along with small amounts of semen leakage as tiny orgasms are experienced. This provides enough satisfaction to keep the submissive interested in ongoing sexual play, while denying him a full orgasm. A male can be "Edged" over a period of many hours or even a couple of days. The skill of the Top is what makes the difference since they must know how to recognize the signs of impending ejaculation and stop stimulation immediately to avoid orgasm, the end of the Edging scene.