U-Haul lesbian
U-Haul lesbian or U-Haul syndrome is an LGBT slang term used to describe a stereotype of lesbian relationships.[1] The term originated from the punch line of a joke that lesbians tended to move in together on the second date. It suggests an extreme inclination toward monogamy or committed relationships. It is considered both complimentary and pejorative.[2][3]
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[edit] Origin
A joke which references U-Haul (a brand of rental "move it yourself" trucks and trailers) became well-known in North American lesbian culture.[4]
Question: What does a lesbian bring on a second date? Answer: A U-Haul.
Often attributed to comic Lea DeLaria,[5][6] the joke suggests that lesbians move in together after only a short period of time. The reference to a "U-Haul" later became a stereotype of sexual identity in the gay community. The joke is considered a staple of lesbian humor,[7] but also is popular outside the LGBT community.[8] It is sometimes followed or preceded by a standard joke about gay men:
Question: What does a gay man bring on a second date? Answer: What second date?[8]
[edit] "U-Haul" lesbians and relationships
Psychologists note that the U-Haul joke epitomizes the perceived phenomenon of lesbians to form intense emotional connections, referred to in gay slang as an urge to merge.[9] Critics of this alleged tendency suggest that it is used by lesbians to avoid the risks involved with dating.[10] In their view, an aversion to the risks of dating is linked to a stunted development of intimate relationships during the teenage years when most gays and lesbians are in the closet. With the freedom of adulthood, lesbians become drawn to the "U-Haul" relationships, appreciating their intensity and intimacy.[11]
Despite the U-haul concept's positive suggestion that lesbians do not have difficulties committing to relationships, some psychologists also believe that this behavior can be unhealthy.[12] They argue that the short dating span bypasses serious discussion on many relationship issues prior to moving in (such as sexual compatibility or future expectations) and this can manifest itself in various problems later on.[13]
[edit] Criticisms
A common criticism of the "U-Haul" joke is the negative impression that it gives of lesbians' coupling on literally the second date, when for the majority of relationships, that step normally happens several months or years after meeting, if ever.[14]
[edit] See also
[edit] References
- ^ Eliason, Michele J. (26 October 2010). "A New Classification System for Lesbians: The Dyke Diagnostic Manual". Journal of Lesbian Studies (14.4).
- ^ Gordon, Liahna E. (April 2006). "Bringing the U-Haul: Embracing and Resisting Sexual Stereotypes in a Lesbian Community". Sexualities (vol. 9 no. 2): 171–192.
- ^ Alexander, Christopher (September 1996). Gay and Lesbian Mental Health: A Sourcebook for Practitioners. Routledge. p. 98. ISBN 9781560238799.
- ^ Queen, Robin (2005). "How Many Lesbians Does It Take …". Journal of Linguistic Anthropology 15 (2): 239–257.
- ^ Kelleher, Kathleen (January 31, 2000). "Couple's Emotional Bonding Can Take the Steam Out of Intimacy". LA Times. http://articles.latimes.com/2000/jan/31/news/cl-59476.
- ^ Brown-Scott, Jo Ann (July 2007). Epiphany and Her Friends: Intuitive Realizations That Have Changed Women's Lives. BookSurge. p. 339.
- ^ Bing, Janet; Heller, Dana (2003). "How many lesbians does it take to screw in a light bulb?". International Journal of Humor Research 16 (2): 157–182. doi:10.1515/humr.2003.009. ISSN 1613-3722. http://www.reference-global.com/doi/abs/10.1515/humr.2003.009.
- ^ a b Denizet-Lewis, Benoit (2008-04-27). "Young Gay Rites". The New York Times Magazine. http://www.nytimes.com/2008/04/27/magazine/27young-t.html. Retrieved 2008-04-28.
- ^ Alexander Title=Gay and Lesbian Mental Health: A Sourcebook for Practitioners, Christopher J. (1996). Haworth Press. p. 96. ISBN 1560238798.
- ^ Munro, Kali (1999). "Lesbian Dating: Life Before the U-Haul". Siren Magazine (April/May). http://www.kalimunro.com/article_uhaul.html.
- ^ Hardin, K.; Hall, M.; Berzon, B. (2001). Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression. New Harbinger Publications. p. 31. ISBN 1572242442.
- ^ Shapiro (June 23, 2004). "Till Death Do Thay Part?". Seattle Weekly. http://www.seattleweekly.com/news/0425/040623_diversions_ninashapiro.php.
- ^ Stevens, Tracey; Wunder, Katherine (2003). How to be a Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide. Amazing Dreams Publishing. p. 49. ISBN 0971962804.
- ^ E. Marcus Together Forever: Gay and Lesbian Marriage pg 119 Anchor Publishing 1999 ISBN 0385488769
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