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External links[edit]

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Hello, Masculinity, and welcome to Wikipedia! I hope you like the place and decide to stay. Here are some pages you might find helpful:

I hope you enjoy editing here and being a Wikipedian! Please sign your name on talk pages using four tildes (~~~~); this will automatically produce your name and the date. If you need help, please see our help pages, and if you can't find what you are looking for there, please feel free to leave me a message or place {{helpme}} on your talk page and someone will drop by to help. SatyrTN (talk / contribs) 15:02, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Thank you Satyr. I will take your help as and when needed.(Masculinity (talk) 05:02, 17 February 2008 (UTC))

UNESCO document on masculinity[edit]

Thanks for the note you left me on my talk page. It's always better to discuss potentially problematic links than to edit war. Let's discuss the merit of the link you inserted on the discussion page for the Gay article, so that others can join the discussion as well.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 15:19, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Sexual Orienation is a western concept and should not be seen as universal[edit]

The entire idea that people, especially men, can be divided on the basis of their 'proclaimed' sexuality is a concept peculiar to the modern west, and to discuss the concept as a universal phenomena, and to judge or study sexuality, men and masculinities in other cultures or in other times on the basis of these concepts not only distorts and misrepresents their reality, but is also seen as oppressive by people on whom the west enforces these identities, often through the one-sided process of globalisation.

Wikipedia, should take into account this fact when discussing modern western concepts such as 'sexual orientation', 'homosexuality', 'heterosexuality', 'gay' and 'straight', etc., and it should clearly mention this fact, because, although it is an English site, it is meant for the entire world, and not only for the western world.

Only that will make it a truly relevant and global site.

Personally, I completely agree with you. The Fat Man has traveled throughout the Orient; it would seem that the gap between the constructs of male sexuality in, say, South India and the United States are miles (or kilometers) apart. That being said, Wikipedia was not created for you and I to discuss our personal views. So here's what I would suggest: find some statements or sections of articles that seem unduly biased toward Western notions of sexuality. Discuss those sections on the articles' talk pages, and try your hand at rewriting these sections citing reliable sources--for example, the UNESCO publication we discussed earlier.
Creating citations and footnotes is fun, and it improves the quality of the article. I can help you create citations, if you show me which sources you'd like to use (be specific).--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 15:49, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Well, thank you. I'll try my best. (Masculinity (talk) 16:07, 15 February 2008 (UTC))


<<find some statements or sections of articles that seem unduly biased toward Western notions of sexuality. Discuss those sections on the articles' talk pages, and try your hand at rewriting these sections citing reliable sources--for example, the UNESCO publication we discussed earlier.>>

Eventhough, I'm going to follow this advice in articles on wikipedia related to such topics, in this particular case, the problem seems to not to be what the article says, but rather what it does not say. It describes the social construction of human, especially male sexuality, as it is formally and popularly seen in the west ... assuming it to be universally applicable. As far as the article is concerned, the only difference is between people who are open about their 'gay' identities and those men who relate with sexually wtih other men but do not call themselves gay, who are described as 'closeted' (or bicurious or so). A person from the orient finds the entire notion of isolation on the basis of so-called 'sexual orientation' problematic. When almost everyman is involved in some sexual way with another man, you don't really feel different for liking men.

How do you explain this dichotomy in the article? The term 'Gay' carries with it all the negative baggages of the 'heterosexualised' society, where the pressures on men to disown their same-sex needs is so extreme, that only very few men think of indulging in male-to-male sexuality by acknowledging it. The rest either keep away totally and deny their feelings, or indulge in male-eroticism without acknowledging their own interest. The term 'gay' is based on the lots of assumptions which are invalid in a non-western, non-heterosexualised world. E.g., the very concept of their being 'gay' assumes that most men do not feel sexuality towards other men. Then, who is defined as the 'same-sex'. The western culture only considers the outer sex of an individual when deciding their sex-identity, but in most non-western cultures, the sex-identity also involves, compulsorily the Gender or the inner sex of an individual. Thus a Hijra may have a penis, but he will be a different 'sex' or rather 'gender' than 'Men', because s(he) is a woman inside a man. A man and Hijra having sex is not seen as 'same-sex' in non-western countries. Of course, the west doesn't recognise 'Gender' as a valid human phenomena, and ascribes it to a mental aberration. Then of course, there is a whole lot of conspiracies behind the very concept of 'gay' or 'sexual orientation' -- revolving around men and manhood, which is relevant both in the west and the east, but men in western countries do not have a space to address these issues, and also that their cultural mindset makes them incapable to comprehend the exact parameters of these issues. (Masculinity (talk) 17:17, 15 February 2008 (UTC))

Wikiproject:LGBT Studies[edit]

Perhaps you would be interested in joining WP:LGBT? It sounds like you could be an asset to the project, helping to fill in a gap in our expertise, as we are, without question, dominantly western. I invite you to take a look at the project, and join if you care to do so. Aleta (Sing) 16:08, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Thank you, I will love to join.

You're welcome! You'll notice that the bottom section of WP:LGBT is where you can sign up for the project. Aleta (Sing) 16:22, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Hi, I joined the WP:LGBT, but I have no idea how to get involved and share my concerns. Can you help me?

I'm putting the official welcome to the project below. It has several links you can use to get started. Of particular note is the talk page for the project, at WT:LGBT. Aleta (Sing) 17:26, 15 February 2008 (UTC)
I too appreciate your comments on "homosexuality" that Aleta copied to WT:LGBT, and if you need me I'd be glad to help out with getting your concerns properly referenced and added to the appropriate main pages. (BTW: it'd probably help if you put some introduction about yourself on your user page. See WP:USER) Welcome! William P. Coleman (talk) 18:32, 16 February 2008 (UTC)

Thank you William. I'll need all the help I can get. Its late at night at my end, so I'll go to sleep now. Tomorrow have an exam. Probably, will get to the computer tommorrow night. (Masculinity (talk) 19:53, 16 February 2008 (UTC))

Notice that when you sign your name to a post it appears in red, whereas Aleta's and the others' appear in blue. Just click on "Masculinity" in your signature and you'll be taken to a blank user page where you can create whatever you want. William P. Coleman (talk) 21:03, 17 February 2008 (UTC)

Welcome[edit]

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Hi, Masculinity, welcome to WikiProject LGBT Studies!

We are a growing community of Wikipedia editors dedicated to identifying, categorizing, and improving articles regarding lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) and intersex people. LGBT Studies covers people, culture, history, and related subjects concerning sexual identity and gender identity - this covers a lot of ground and your help is appreciated! Some points that may be helpful:

  • Our main aim is to help improve articles, so if someone seeks help, please try to assist if you are able. Likewise feel free to ask for help, advice or clarification.
  • Many important discussions take place on the project's main discussion page; it is highly recommended that you watchlist it.
  • If you have another language besides English, please consider adding yourself to our translation section, to help us improve our foreign LGBT topics.
  • The project has several ongoing and developing activities, such as article quality assessment, peer review and a project-wide article collaboration, all of which you are welcome to take part in. We also have a unique program to improve our lower quality articles, Jumpaclass, so please consider signing up there.
  • If you're going to stay awhile, please create a square in our project quilt! You can put anything you want in it.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask on the talk page, and we will be happy to help you.

And once again - Welcome!

Aleta (Sing) 17:26, 15 February 2008 (UTC)

Using references, sandbox[edit]

Hi Masculinity, I notice you recently made additions to Homosexuality that have been reverted as original research. I suggest you read through WP:NOR thoroughly. I appreciate the perspective you are trying to bring, but it is absolutely imperative that you cite any additions to articles with reliable sources. If you don't, people will revert your changes. All material should be cited, but material that is likely to be controversial, as yours is, especially has to be well cited. I know you have at least one source for some of it, but you need to find some more before trying to add it to articles, and include the references when you make the additions. I noticed there was a placeholder saying "insert footnote here" in your previous edits. If you are working on something, but don't yet have all the reference material handy, you might want to build your work in your sandbox, which you can create by clicking on User:Masculinity/sandbox. Then, when your edits are actually referenced and ready to go in an article, you can transfer them there. Aleta (Sing) 00:26, 19 February 2008 (UTC)

Hello Aleta,

I have three references, as of now. And I wanted to add them. But I was not being permitted to add it, for some reason. That is what I want help on.

Also, don't you think that even if there is one valid source -- and too as important one as UNESCO, it shoudl be enough at least to mention that there is a divergence of view.

regards (Masculinity (talk) 17:52, 19 February 2008 (UTC))

Hi Masculinity, I'm not sure what you mean. You obviously have been able to edit the article, because you did edit it. There is not a separate references page. The references should be incorporated right within the text you create. There's nothing else I can think of where you'd have been prevented from adding a reference. Take a look at WP:CITE#HOW and WP:FOOT for specifics on how to cite references in your text. If you still have questions then, let me know! Aleta (Sing) 21:01, 20 February 2008 (UTC)

Aleta, thanx ... I think I was doing it all wrong. I clicked the edit button of the reference section to put in text, and there were no references there. I think in a previous article I had done it that way.

But I think now I can do it. But before that I'll put my text and the references up for others to see at the discussion page. (Masculinity (talk) 15:00, 21 February 2008 (UTC))

You're welcome! Putting everything on the talk page first sounds like a very good idea. :) Aleta (Sing) 22:26, 21 February 2008 (UTC)

March 2008[edit]

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Your recent edits[edit]

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oops! I usually sign it, but sometimes, when I'm in a hurry, I do forget. (Masculinity (talk) 05:06, 6 March 2008 (UTC))

Nuvola apps important.svg You currently appear to be engaged in an edit war according to the reverts you have made on Gay. Note that the three-revert rule prohibits making more than three reversions in a content dispute within a 24 hour period. Additionally, users who perform a large number of reversions in content disputes may be blocked for edit warring, even if they do not technically violate the three-revert rule. If you continue, you may be blocked from editing. Please do not repeatedly revert edits, but use the talk page to work towards wording and content that gains a consensus among editors. If necessary, pursue dispute resolution. NeilN talkcontribs 16:15, 6 March 2008 (UTC)

Click the history tab up top at the Gay article or click here [1]. By the way, the removal was not sabotage. Edit summaries were provided and reasons were provided on the talk page. --NeilN talkcontribs 16:28, 6 March 2008 (UTC)

You will usually receive a notice on your talk page if your edit was reverted because it was against wikipedia policies or guidelines. If your edit was undone for other reasons you should check the edit summary or the talk page. Do you want some links to guidelines on how wikipedia works? --NeilN talkcontribs 16:43, 6 March 2008 (UTC)

Regarding original research, you were given a link to wikipedia policy above. Do you have any questions? --NeilN talkcontribs 16:48, 6 March 2008 (UTC)

Civility[edit]

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Discussing with other editors[edit]

Hi Masculinity, I realize you have frustrations with some of the reception your contributions have been receiving. I'd just like to suggest, however, that tossing around terms like "strong gay lobby" and accusing editors with whom you have a disagreement of bias is not a very productive strategy for building consensus. Even if they are biased (and I am not saying that - you won't get me to address that either way), those sorts of comments tend to alienate people and make them less likely to work constructively with you. It also either violates, or at least comes close to violating the no personal attacks policy. Aleta Sing 00:26, 15 March 2008 (UTC)

As for whether anyone can go and edit the article without asking your permission, yes, they can do that. You may be the original or main author of an article, but you don't own it. It is, of course, a good idea and polite for people to discuss major changes, but adding tags doesn't generally come under that heading. Aleta Sing 00:26, 15 March 2008 (UTC)

This advice is meant to be friendly and constructive. I hope that's how you take it. :) If you have any questions, I'll try to help. Aleta Sing 00:26, 15 March 2008 (UTC)

Another editor (I don't recall whom at the moment) suggested filing a request for comment as a way of getting additional opinions about the article from a wider spectrum of editors. I think this is a good idea, and I encourage you to pursue it. Aleta Sing 00:26, 15 March 2008 (UTC)

Proper formatting of talk page contribution[edit]

Given that you are having several protracted discussions with other editors on various talk pages, I think that it would be valuable for you to learn how to properly format your contributions for maximum readability. The two most important things: (1) you should stop putting extra spaces between your paragraphs (one carriage return is adequate to mark a new paragraph); (2) when you are replying to a previous comment, make sure to use an indentation (a colon (:) preceding each paragraph). Add extra colons for extra indentations as needed. Consult WP:Talk page#Formatting for your reference. Also, please stop using ALL CAPS to make important points. It comes across as WP:Uncivil. Thanks.--Agnaramasi (talk) 19:01, 15 March 2008 (UTC)

new message[edit]

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Aleta Sing 18:20, 20 March 2008 (UTC)

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And again. P.S. Please indent your messages on talk pages using colons. Aleta Sing 19:00, 20 March 2008 (UTC)

Slow down![edit]

Hey Masculinity, I think it would be a good idea to slow down adding information on the same topic to different articles. At least wait a bit and see how the RFC goes at Talk:Gay, and discuss proposed changes that are likely to be controversial on talk pages. OK? Aleta Sing 03:07, 21 March 2008 (UTC)

Aleta, I have observed that at each article I have to fight it out with a different set of people to get the information included. At each article, they refuse to go by the discussion of what was arrived at discussion at another talk page, and want me to take up the discussion afresh. It is becasue of this that I decided to carry on several parallel discussions at the sametime. Since, they seem to be independant of each other.
What do you think?(Masculinity (talk) 03:49, 21 March 2008 (UTC))
Well, they are separate, but inter-related. You do need to have a conversation at each article's talk page. Aleta Sing 04:12, 21 March 2008 (UTC)
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Space for discussion[edit]

Here is a place you can ask questions, tell us we're part of "a segment of the LGBT community, the chauvinists who don't want the non-Western voice to be heard", suggest changes to all of the articles you want, etc. Your back-and-forth loooooong debates where you insert quotes and references makes the pages hard to read. Talking on the discussion pages is fine, but for the very long references and quotes, try adding them here first and ask people to take a look by linking to this talk page. I'm not going to let you drag me into another pointless argument on these talk pages because I don't know if that's your goal on Wikipedia, to argue, but most of us are here for more than just these articles that you're concentrating on. AgnosticPreachersKid (talk) 15:17, 22 March 2008 (UTC)

Thanks for your suggestion. But here we are talking about changes to a specific section, in this case the article on Gay, and I don't think how discussing things on my talk page would help people reach a consensus on what is to be included in that article. (Masculinity (talk) 15:27, 22 March 2008 (UTC))
I give up on you. AgnosticPreachersKid (talk) 15:32, 22 March 2008 (UTC)

Hi Masculinity. I agree with some of the proposed changes but I do wish that you were a bit more patient. When you are forceful people are quick to be offended. Also, don't allow them to take you off topic, as when the discussion morphed to the femininized male in western society. That's an argument you won't win and it waters down the more important points. It gives your critics something to bite at. Otherwise, I think you'd be wise to clean up the "Non-western masculity" page you created. Add the new information you've been gathering... with lots of great examples. Add that information about Japan... And then see if you can get it added to the See Also section at the bottom of the gay page. A lot of people seem to have been fighting a fight for so long they forget that theirs isn't the only way to see things. I also desperately wish that they would broaden their thinking, but it's a Utopian idea that needs to be massaged, not forced. It will happen sooner than you think. I think you managed well to get what you've gotten on there right now. Given someone doesn't come along and delete it all again! DEZnCHRIS (talk) 21:55, 24 March 2008 (UTC)

Your recent edits[edit]

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my RFA[edit]

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Thank you for your support in my RFA. The passed with a final count of (73/3/1), so I am now an administrator. Please let me know if at any stage you need help, or if you have comments on how I am doing as an admin. Have a nice day! :) Aleta Sing 19:29, 22 March 2008 (UTC)

Hello, masculinity. I am kenvbk, you know me already. You are certainly posting up a storm here on wikipedia. I only hope that you do no alienate people and end up getting banned. That would be a shame. Feel free to add more comments on my page. —Preceding unsigned comment added by Taeda (talkcontribs) 19:46, 24 March 2008 (UTC)

So, since they are bent on tearing apart the UNESCO resource... what else do you have? You seem to have been quoting various other things over the last while. Can you just pass me the sources for those and I'll investigate a bit, too. Thanks. DEZnCHRIS (talk) 18:03, 25 March 2008 (UTC)

I will do what I can. What are the main thrusts of the project right now? Taeda (talk) 20:41, 28 March 2008 (UTC)Taeda

which page needs a RFC?[edit]

Which page needs to link to the "non-western" page?? gay? Taeda (talk) 22:58, 31 March 2008 (UTC)Taeda

LGBT WikiProject Newsletter[edit]

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LGBT WikiProject Newsletter (July 2008)[edit]

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Avoid soapboxing[edit]

Hello.

You've been adding, repeatedly and despite warnings not to do so, inappropriate external links to articles such as sexual orientation and gay. They way you're going about this makes it appear as though you are grandstanding for a particular point of view— something which is very much inappropriate in an encyclopedia. You need to gather consensus for changes on the articles' talk pages if you feel that they are not properly neutral, or show systemic bias (that is, are centered on a specific culture and not adequately representing a universal outlook).

If you continue to make unilateral additions to articles, no matter what your ultimate intention is, you will be viewed as disruptive and might end up being blocked. Please take the time to read and understand the policies and resources I've provided you. — Coren (talk) 22:21, 8 August 2008 (UTC)

To back up what Coren has said above: please note that links to blogs are not considered appropriate as external links except when they are the official documents of the subject of an article. Obviously, abstract concepts don't write blogs; thus those links are not allowed on Wikipedia. Please review carefully WP:EL. Aleta Sing 03:55, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

Heterosexualization[edit]

I predict someone will delete or try to delete this article. Why don't you draft in in your user space first--and make sure it has references and reflects a neutral point of view; that way, it will be much more difficult for an admin to delete it. It's easy to create a subpage for this purpose. Let me know if you need help.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 16:17, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

Well, I did nominate it for deletion. If you want to work on it in your userspace though to try to get it into shape as The Fat Man suggests, I have no objection whatsoever. Aleta Sing 16:49, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

the replies below were copied from User talk:The Fat Man Who Never Came Back--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 16:50, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

Yes, I would like your help. I was expecting this... but nevertheless, its always worth it to try. :-) (Masculinity (talk) 16:36, 9 August 2008 (UTC))

How can i create a 'rough' page and put it up for discussion? (Masculinity (talk) 16:38, 9 August 2008 (UTC))

I'm checking with others if we can literally move the article from the mainspace of the encyclopedia, to your more personal userspace, where you can work on it (with others, if you like) until it is ready to be moved back into the main article area of Wikipedia.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 16:42, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
Just give your consent here, or on the AfD page, and we can move it for you.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 16:44, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
Before i agree, are you sure we cannot work upon it where it is, without it being deleted summarily... I mean can't it stay there with all those "warnings" (that it is unsubstantiated and all), while a discussion upon it goes on on its discussion page.
if this is not possible then by all means go ahead and do it.
Well, it can stay while the deletion discussion is going on - maybe a few days. Once that is concluded, it will either be kept (where it is) or deleted (from mainspace, but we could put it in your userspace). Aleta Sing 16:59, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
Well, in that case, please let it stay here, this way a lot many people can give their feedback, before a decision is taken. Meanwhile, hopefully someone will come and make an encyclopedia article out of it that is accordingl to the Wikipedia policies.
An AfD discussion usually lasts several days, especially if there are signs the article-creator is taking steps to improve the article. However, since as Andy points out here[4], the Heterosexualization article violates a multitude of fundamental Wikipedia guidelines. If we move the article to your userspace now, you can address these concerns at your own pace. If you leave it where it is, it will almost certainly be deleted, unless you completely overhaul the article and rewrite it from a neutral point of view.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 17:05, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
Well im open to it being totally rewritten, but i may not be able to do it myself, so i'd appreciate if someone else takes the pains to do it.(Masculinity (talk) 17:09, 9 August 2008 (UTC))
I won't rewrite it myself (and doubt anyone else will either) but can give you a few general suggestions on how to make the article more encyclopedic. It's your essay, so you're the best candidate to rewrite it.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 17:12, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
The Fat Man is right; it doesn't seem likely that anyone else will rewrite it. If you want this to be a viable article, you're going to have to make it so. I'll help you if you like, but I'm not going to rewrite it for you, and - like TFM, I doubt anyone else will either. Aleta Sing 17:18, 9 August 2008 (UTC)
Ok, then help me rewrite it. Though, i still feel, someone may come forward in the coming few days and offer to do a better job of it.
Meanwhile, i had a look at the heteronormative article, and i don't think i am talking about the same thing. I am talking about a specific process about which there has been a little attempt at documentation, whereby traditional spaces are 'heterosexualised'. This goes against the basic presumptions of heterosexualised societies. However, heteronormativity is a concept that doesn't necessarily question the basic assumptions of heterosexual spaces. While heteronormativity talks from the point of view of 'gay' people, heterosexualisation talks about what the west terms 'straight' people and their heterosexualisation. So, please keep them different, and see if it is possible to rework them.
... and your suggestions please!

AfD nomination of Heterosexualization[edit]

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I have nominated Heterosexualization, an article you created, for deletion. I do not feel that this article satisfies Wikipedia's criteria for inclusion, and have explained why at Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Heterosexualization. Your opinions on the matter are welcome at that same discussion page; also, you are welcome to edit the article to address these concerns. Thank you for your time. Do you want to opt out of receiving this notice? Aleta Sing 16:30, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

Heteronormativity[edit]

Hi Masculinity, check out the Heteronormativity article (not our best article, but at least it makes some attempt to follow wiki-guidelines). Consider contributing to that article instead--it overlaps very closely with the concepts you discuss in your Heterosexualization article. If I were you, I might add a section to that article (with inline references!) that talks about how Heteronormativity is especially prevalent in Western societies.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 17:20, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

User:Masculinity/Heterosexualization[edit]

That's where you can now find the article and clean it up at your leisure. You should get some other opinions about whether or not it's ready before you put it back in mainspace again. Aleta Sing 17:38, 9 August 2008 (UTC)

How are other people going to find me here in order to help me? Also, what about your help. You said you would give suggestions to make it wiki appropriate. (Masculinity (talk) 07:56, 10 August 2008 (UTC))

A couple suggestions to start out:

  • Firstly, is Heterosexualization even a word, or is it a phrase you personally coined? Try a Google books and a Google Scholar search. If no reputable scholars or published sources have used the word, you will need to pick another title for your article.
  • Statements like "Heterosexualisation is an oppressive, particularly anti-man process" are so far removed from our concept of neutral point of view that they will have to be completely written. If you said, "according to scholars such as XYZ and ABC, Heterosexualization is..." that would be an improvement.
  • You placed a link to the UNESCO document at the bottom of your article, but this is not enough. Try to include specific citations (including page numbers, etc.) for as many specific claims in your article as you can. I can help you with footnote formatting, if you like.

In short, this article will only be allowed back into the mainspace if you can demonstrate that Heterosexualization is a previously identified and studied phenomenon and not a new construct that you have identified yourself.--The Fat Man Who Never Came Back (talk) 20:38, 10 August 2008 (UTC)

Proposed deletion of Voices against the Western concept of Sexual Orientation[edit]

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I have taken care to put the references from which I have taken the material for this article. Have you even gone through the references? Although I am still working on the article and have lots of further references to give.
Can you please tell me, which parts do you find constitute original Research or POV, so that I can immediately work on it? (Masculinity (talk) 11:11, 16 September 2008 (UTC))
  • The policies at WP:OR and WP:NPOV are pretty clear. But for starters, note the statement in WP:OR that articles should not contain "any unpublished analysis or synthesis of published material that serves to advance a position" - in particular see WP:SYN. andy (talk) 12:44, 16 September 2008 (UTC)
Are you saying in other words that its ok to advance the position of the dominant western viewpoint but not the others? Have you gone through the list of published references that I have provided from which I have quoted?
I'd appreciate if you could give me specific portions from my article that you think is not supported by published references. Or are you saying that I must use exactly the same words as in the published material? Surely, I don't see that for other articles.
Are you going to just accuse me of having original research, without even reading the stuff or without bothering to tell me where you think is original research?(Masculinity (talk) 18:37, 16 September 2008 (UTC))

Proposed deletion of Differences on the Concept of Sexual Orientation[edit]

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AfD of Heterosexualization[edit]

Hi Masculinity, another user has nominated that article for deletion. You can comment in the deletion discussion at Wikipedia:Articles for deletion/Heterosexualization (2nd nomination). Aleta Sing 02:55, 8 October 2008 (UTC)

Non-westernized concepts of male sexuality[edit]

You seem to be struggling somewhat with your editing of this article, in particular, your use of sources and images. It would be very useful, if you can go away and study the problems that you are having with your editing before filling the edit history of this article with non-constructive edits and thus burying counting changes for other editors. You should also be making use of the preview function before editing an article and making yet another mistake. I hope you take this well, as most of your problems span from a lack of technical understanding when it comes to MediaWiki. It appears that your intentions are good, but action has been and continues to be taken against editors who are seen to be disruptive.

Your starting point should be the welcome message posted t the top of this page. Good luck. forestPIG(grunt) 18:45, 10 October 2008 (UTC)

Point well taken. And thanks for the advice. I was really struggling to upload pics.(Masculinity (talk) 19:10, 10 October 2008 (UTC))


Copyright problems[edit]

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Proposed deletion of Men's spaces[edit]

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Vandalism on you talk page[edit]

I reverted this hateful personal attack on you talk page. I assume this to be ok. Good job on the LGBT articles, btw --Adam in MO Talk 09:50, 20 December 2008 (UTC)

I was wrong about this.--Adam in MO Talk 17:43, 25 December 2008 (UTC)

Re: Men's spaces (20 December 2008)[edit]

Hi, the Men's spaces article was recently prodded as noted above. I removed the prod in objection (though it may go through a AFD/Articles for Deletion nomination if nominated at a later date) and did some minor cleanup (minor edits and tags). This article (and the Non-westernized concepts of male sexuality one) have interesting concepts (speaking as a westerner) and it would be great if they could be salvaged (and expanded and clarified, etc), but if they don't make more progress toward a WP:NPOV tone (more neutral-reading language, balanced opinions, more fact less opinion, etc) they may end up deleted in the future. It would also be very helpful if you would list actual cultures/societies in examples instead of stating that the entire non-western world is such and such way. Thanks, Outsider80 (talk) 22:01, 20 December 2008 (UTC)

Hello Outsider, and thank you (a) for appreciating the articles as well as to have done your bit to salvage the article on Men's spaces. I appreciate. And I could definitely do with your support on Wikipedia to salvage my contributions from being sabotaged by a powerful section of the LGBT editors on Wikipedia.
As far as the article on "Non-Westernized concepts of male sexuality" are concerned, I think I should update you as to what has gone on about the page since the last one and a half years. In the beginning, I wanted to make some changes to the pages on 'gay', 'homosexuality' and 'sexual orientation' to bring in non-western viewpoint, but met with severe opposition from some very aggressive LGBT editors. Then I decided to create another page for this viewpoint. They again made it almost impossible for me to put up this page, inspite of giving several references, and in the end, in exasperation, I left wikipedia.
When I returned after six months, I found to my pleasant surprise that some western editors had not only resurrected the page but had improved it tremendously, apparently, these people were as powerful as the LGBT editors who just went beyond the Wiki rules to sabotage the page because the information did not gel well with the powerful LGBT lobby.
What you're seeing here is the page that has been vastly improved and 'wikified'. In fact, one of the prominent members of Wikipedia seems to have given his support to the page, and that is why it is still there, otherwise the LGBT lobby will just not let me be.
Therefore, may I kindly request you to remove the objections and tags that you've placed. If you have particular concerns we can discuss them openly under the discussion page and make changes accordingly.
I hope to get your support in future as well. I am going to need it very much.
regards. (Masculinity (talk) 11:35, 27 December 2008 (UTC))
Hi, Masculinity, I hope you continue to contribute in these areas — having multiple viewpoints and different perspectives being brought to the table helps Wikipedia. Would like to touch on 2 things you brought up:
(a) the cleanup tags are part of Wikipedia, and are intended as positive constructive requests, and not negativity. Having specific cleanup tags about specific issues can help various people contributing to an article improve it past being a candidate for PROD/deletion nominations. person A might not know how to fix a certain problem (or what a previous editor meant by something), but the next editor to come along to the page might be able to fix the issue. (in summary, the tags are not to "piss on your parade" (to use a crude expression lol), but to facilitate improvement to the article.)
(b) Not all editors who are LGBT share the same viewpoints and opinions (just like with any other demographic group of editors). I strongly recomend checking out WP:SPIRIT (especially the first part) if you are having issues with editors of other viewpoints. Even if you believe that other editors are not acting in good faith, it is in your best interests to continue to "AGF" (assume good faith) or at least carry on as if you were assuming good faith. Taking an adversarial/defensive posture actually is counterproductive to contributing information you are passionate about and knowledgable about to Wikipedia (whatever the topic is). Some people have likened Wikipedia to a massive online multi-user role-playing game (even though it is not a game, per se) - some aspects of that analogy actually are true. It helps if you "play the game" instead of taking on a me against the world stance. (which just results in the world seeing you in a combative posture and themselves becoming defensive.) This advice is not intended as condescending or attacking, just something I have learned myself (and read) as well, in my experience here at Wikipedia. Hope you stick around, more viewpoints and perspectives are a good thing. Outsider80 (talk) 17:55, 27 December 2008 (UTC)

Speedy deletion nomination of Queer heterosexual

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Proposed deletion of Queer heterosexual[edit]

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Just so you know, I have done some work on trying to improve this page with the limited knowledge at my disposal. I suggest that you revisit the page and flesh out some more. Mish (talk) 10:46, 27 May 2009 (UTC)
You've done a wonderful job Mish. Thanks. Right now, I do not have any further information on the subject to add. But, I'll keep adding it as and when I get them. Meanwhile, can you add this page to the various portals, and the template on Gender/ sexual identities? (Masculinity (talk) 08:24, 29 May 2009 (UTC))

WikiProject LGBT studies Newsletter (June 2009)[edit]

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Your contribution to the Homosexuality page[edit]

I thought the material you brought in was very important and would fill a major gap in that article. I would encourage you to find a couple of sources to back it up and to return it to the article. Let me know if you need a hand with the final editing. Haiduc (talk) 11:24, 5 October 2009 (UTC)

Thank you, however I've had a pretty negative experience with this page. Almost anything I add, with all the relevant sources are just struck down. I am reduced to a minority that cannot do anything. But, I'll try.(Masculinity (talk) 20:40, 6 October 2009 (UTC))
It's not the what, it's the how. Your last edit, for example, was well intentioned but perhaps not on point. You tried to insert your argument into a paragraph that talks about about closeted people. I do not think that you can talk about people without a homosexual orientation being closeted. On the other hand, you can talk about people hiding their same-sex flings. Two separate things. Still, you have to bring some sources to back all this up. Haiduc (talk) 23:41, 6 October 2009 (UTC)
Hello Haiduc. It seems I was too occupied to carry on this conversation, and then I just forgot about it. I would like to continue it now. The problem is, 'sexual orientation' is a very modern, Westernized concept which only works if men in general are heterosexualized. In the entire non-West, there is no such thing as a sexual orientation, and men can form deep relationships with women as well as men. Although, the social system is such that men marry women, but their more meaningful relations are only with men. "Sexual Orientation" doesn't make sense in this scenario. So, you can only talk about being closeted in a Westernized context, where the sexual orientation concept is valid. Also, its only in the West that there are immense pressures on men to be heterosexual. In the non-West, the pressures exist only to get married. So, again, men need not be "into closet," and men often in some ways acknowledge that they like men in men's spaces (even if they don't acknowledge that in formal spaces, which gives teeth to the false propaganda of there being a 'sexual orientation' and men being divided into hetero-homo). I'm telling you out of personal and work experiences. The Wikipedia page on homosexuality negates all that and presumes that 'sexual orientation' as seen and defined in the West is universal, and thus even biological, which is problematic. Even in the West, lots of people have been protesting against the society's validation of 'sexual orientation,' even though they're helpless. Of course I agree that whatever is given should be cited.(Masculinity (talk) 04:30, 30 April 2010 (UTC))

Your recent changes to the lead of the Gender article[edit]

Hello, Masculinity. I remember you. You most likely do not remember me, because we did not converse for too long, but it was at the Homosexuality article (back in 2008). Anyway, I reverted your recent changes to the lead of the Gender article. The reasons why are stated there. I would be more than willing to work out the design of the lead with you. Flyer22 (talk) 18:12, 12 May 2010 (UTC)

The same goes for the Gender role article. Flyer22 (talk) 18:21, 12 May 2010 (UTC)

wholesale repetitions within an article and other edits[edit]

Since you're the editor whose work I just substantially edited and you may find the reasons useful, please see Talk:Sexual_orientation#editing_on_indigenous_and_non-Western_concept. Thanks and best wishes. Nick Levinson (talk) 20:24, 16 May 2010 (UTC)

Human male sexuality[edit]

Hi Masculinity. I reverted your unreferenced edit to Human male sexuality, but regretted this and put most of it back in. However, it really needs a reference! Please put it in, so it won't be removed again... Lova Falk talk 11:43, 5 June 2010 (UTC)

Introductions and sources[edit]

Masculinity, if you're going to make such big changes, then you must provide sources for your information. If the concept of gender is understood differently on a West/non-West basis, then it would be right and proper for the gender article to provide this information. However, you must provide sources, such as articles written by or quoting expert philosophers or social scientists who hold this view.

I figure that you believe that your concept of gender is right and you want to get accurate information out to the readers, but you're going to have to do it with reliable sources or your contributions aren't going to stay visible very long. Using sources will also make your contribs look more credible, which could have a bigger effect on more readers in the long run.

The other problem is that your changes were in the wrong place. The introduction of the article should cover what the concept is long before getting into how the concept is understood differently in different parts of the world. Unlike, say, orientalism, the way cultures differ from each other isn't central to the concept of gender. You might want to take a look at WP: LEAD for more information on what a Wikipedia introduction should look like. Darkfrog24 (talk) 13:48, 20 August 2010 (UTC)

Did you write this article?[edit]

http://men-masculinity.newsvine.com/_news/2008/10/06/1957783-heterosexualization-of-men-and-their-spaces

It seems very similar to the early edits of men's spaces. It would be a copyright violation if it is not your original work, and even if it is your work, we generally discourage direct copying and aside from the other issues this article has it would be good to re-write it. Soap 22:55, 17 September 2010 (UTC)
All I can say is this newsvine article has been copied from the Wikipedia, and not the other way round. As about the other issues, plz go ahead and rewrite it.(Masculinity (talk) 10:56, 19 September 2010 (UTC))

Proposed deletion of Men's spaces[edit]

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Men's spaces[edit]

Hi, I hate to bother you, but can you fix this article's many serious issues? Please fix the issues tagged in the article. If you need assistance, please contact me. Bearian (talk) 22:49, 20 November 2012 (UTC)