There are various reasons why people crash weddings.
In real life
Some of the most common reasons for crashing a wedding in real life are:
- To see a person they know, such as a relative, friend, or possibly their ex get married, even if they are not invited
- To come with another person who is invited whom they wish to accompany
- For something that is offered at the event, such as free catered food or alcoholic beverages. Crashing for this reason is not always cost-effective. With the high cost of the clothes required for a fancy wedding, this may out-do that of the food, which often can be obtained for less from a restaurant.
- To steal money or gifts from the bride, groom, or guests
- For the thrill of deviating from mores and etiquette or for the social prestige within a peer group of defying the broader culture
- At celebrity weddings, crashing may occur from those who wish to mingle with the celebrities or catch paparazzi photo shots.
- There have also been reports of celebrities crashing the weddings of strangers they encounter.
Ways in which an event is crashed
Most weddings are low profile family-oriented events, and security is low, so it is not checked whether or not a person who enters belongs. With the large number of people in attendance, coupled with the fact that not everyone knows each other or the bride and groom, a well-dressed person may be able to sneak in unnoticed. Wedding planners recommend having some form of security to be sure one does not enter the reception without an invitation when the likelihood of someone crashing may be high.
Some people manage to crash a wedding by entering in the middle of a ceremony or reception after all the checking has been done, or by greeting the couple and appearing to be a part of the invitee list.
Some who crash do so only to eat the hors d'oeuvres. This enables the crasher to remain even more under the radar. At a sit-down reception, there is usually assigned seating by place cards, and finding a seat may be difficult, especially when there are no-shows, or when determining which seats are vacant may be difficult. But when crashing for the hors d'oeuvres only, this enables the crasher to eat all s/he wants while blending in, and then leaving.
Sometimes the crashing of an event is unintentional; this can happen when multiple weddings are held at the same venue.
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