Bromance

For the MTV reality series, see Bromance (TV series).

A hug involving several young males

A bromance is a close non-sexual relationship between two (or more) men, a form of homosocial intimacy.

Etymology

Bromance is a portmanteau of the words bro or brother and romance. Editor Dave Carnie coined the term in the skateboard magazine Big Brother in the 1990s to refer specifically to the sort of relationships that develop between roman warriors who fought in battle together and who spent a great deal of time together.

Characteristics

The contemporary circumstances of bromance separate it from more general homosocial practices and historic romantic friendships. Aristotle's classical description of friendship is often taken to be the prototype of the bromance. He wrote around 330 BC, "It is those who desire the good of their friends for the friends' sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the other for what he is, and not for any incidental quality." There are numerous examples of famous intense male friendships throughout most of Western history, and such relationships were likewise common. It has been posited that in the late 19th century, Freudianism and the emergence of visible homosexuality directed heterosexual men to avoid expressions of intense affection.

Research into friendship and masculinity has found that recent generations of men raised by feminist mothers in the 1970s are more emotionally open and more expressive. There is also less concern among men at the notion of being identified as gay and so men are more comfortable exploring deeper friendships with other men. Research done in the United States suggests that the trend of rejecting "traditional views of masculinity" is most prevalent amongst men of Anglo-Saxon descent and lowest in those of African descent, with those of Hispanic descent falling in between. Furthermore, it was found that men who strongly endorse "traditional views of masculinity" are more prone to alexithymia (a difficulty to understand or identify with emotions).

Another factor believed to influence bromance is that men are marrying later, if at all. According to the 2010 US Census, the average age of a man's first marriage is 28, up from 23 in 1960. It was also found that men with more education are waiting until their 30s before getting married.

Friendships among men are often primarily based on shared activities. This can include playing video games, playing musical instruments, shopping, smoking pipes, chatting by the fire, watching movies, fishing, camping, and other sporting activities, gambling, social drinking, and engaging in the use of psychedelic substances. Emotional sharing (which is common in women's friendships) is another such activity.

Portrayal of bromance

Celebrity and fictional bromances

A number of celebrities have engaged in bromances with fellow celebrities. Examples include Ben Affleck and Matt Damon, described as "perhaps the pioneering bromance in showbiz history," which led to a hit off-Broadway play called Matt and Ben. Zachary Quinto and Chris Pine after the filming of the 2009 Star Trek film, have become a modern bromantic relationship, which has its own significance with regards to the characters they play on the film, i.e. Kirk and Spock, a legendary fictional bromantic relationship itself. The close friendship between George Clooney and Brad Pitt, is even described by some as "George's longest lasting affair" and Clooney's bromantic tendencies served as the basis for an episode of the animated series American Dad! entitled "Tears of a Clooney", in which lead character Stan Smith becomes bromantically involved with Clooney as part of an elaborate revenge plot. Brody Jenner, featured on MTV's reality show The Hills and the subject of bromance discussions for his relationships with castmates Justin Bobby and Spencer Pratt, debuted his own series on the network, called Bromance, on December 29, 2008. The six-episode series features Jenner selecting from amongst competitors to become part of Jenner's "entourage".

Bromance on television has also become more commonplace, with some critics tracing its origins back to such shows as The Odd Couple. In October 2008, TV Guide placed Gregory House (Hugh Laurie) and James Wilson (Robert Sean Leonard) on the cover, under the headline "Isn't It Bromantic?". Other shows such as Scrubs, Community, Happy Days and Boy Meets World have also had strong lead characters with serious bromantic relationships.

The legal drama Boston Legal featured one of the more intimate TV bromances, between protagonists Denny Crane (played by William Shatner) and Alan Shore (James Spader). Episodes often ended with both men sitting on the office terrace, sharing cigars, liquor and intimate confidences. In one memorable scene, Denny adjusts his old friend's tie and says "I wish you and I were getting married." Their heterosexual yet clearly very affectionate friendship exhibits strong male bonding aspects derived from their demographic similarity (middle-aged, wealthy professional white men) and shared business experiences. The series ends with Alan and Denny getting married for legal reasons, with the final scene of the two sharing their first dance as man and man on the terrace.

The Japanese and Korean music industry actively encourages bromance among male celebrities (particularly members of boy bands) as part of the fan service to please the audience. Many western boy bands also develop bromance among the members, and popular pairings are sometimes given nicknames by fans. The most famous bromance in North England is the bromance between Alex Turner (Arctic Monkeys frontman) and Miles Kane; they are often called "Milex" by fans people such as Albert Hammond Jr have talked about it on Twitter after a fan question.

The Daily Show correspondents John Oliver and Wyatt Cenac at the launch of Earth (The Book).

In fiction, what had once been called buddy films have to a degree been re-branded as bromance films, although critics do still draw a distinction between the two, noting that a buddy film tends to be more explicitly violent and less open about its latent homosexual content. The intersection between buddy films and what would come to be called the bromance film was noted comedically at least as early as 1978, when National Lampoon ran a parody ad for the football-themed buddy film Semi-Tough, renamed "Semi-Sweet" and featuring an illustration of stars Burt Reynolds and Kris Kristofferson holding hands. The film I Love You Man stars Paul Rudd as a heterosexual groom trying to find a best man and best friend before his wedding and Jason Segel as his bromantic partner. Also in the film Superbad, Jonah Hill and Michael Cera play the role of best friends Seth and Evan who confess their brotherly love for each other.

In comic books, the most well received among fans is the relation between superheroes Blue Beetle and Booster Gold, established in the series Justice League International, which gained a large cult following. In issue 36 of Booster Gold's comic series Blue Beetle went to state that he and Booster "are practically the same person".

The Daily Show correspondents John Oliver and Wyatt Cenac perform together on the show. When they covered Chelsea Clinton's wedding in Rhinebeck, New York they wore matching outfits and Cenac joked, "We got here this morning -- it's a beautiful place. John and I were thinking we'd get married."

Though the original J. R. R. Tolkien novels predate what could formally be called a "bromance," the portrayal of the relationships between Frodo Baggins and Samwise Gamgee, and Meriadoc Brandybuck and Peregrin Took in The Lord of the Rings film trilogy, and even Gimli_(Middle-earth) and Legolas in the novels may be characterized as a bromance.

Historical and political bromances

Politically, the relationship between Bill Clinton and Al Gore has been characterized as a precursor to the bromance. The relationship between George W. Bush and former press secretary Scott McClellan as told in McClellan's book What Happened was called by one reviewer "the tale of one long, failed bromance". The premiers of Ontario and Quebec, Dalton McGuinty and Jean Charest, have been engaged in what has been described as a "burgeoning bromance".

The Biblical story of David and Jonathan is an example of a famous historical bromance. The English classical poet Alfred Tennyson wrote his famous poem "In Memoriam" in memory of his close friend Arthur Hallam. Their extremely close friendship was a famous historical example of a classic bromance.

After the 2010 General Election in the United Kingdom it was considered by some that David Cameron and Nick Clegg formed a type of political bromance as leaders of the coalition government.

Gay-straight bromances

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"Bronnie"

While the term has generally been applied to straight relationships, mixed gay-straight relationships with no form of sexual intimacy have also been dubbed bromances. Examples of well-known gay-straight bromances (sometimes dubbed "homomances" or "hobromances") include Ronnie Kroell and Ben DiChiara from the Bravo reality series Make Me a Supermodel, in which the pair was nicknamed "Bronnie", the relationship on Survivor: Gabon between Charlie Herschel and Marcus Lehman, and American Idol's Kris Allen and Adam Lambert, which was given the name "Kradam". On the show "Big Brother 12" the straight married Matt Hoffman and openly gay Ragan Fox refer to themselves as a bromance. John Barrowman, who is openly gay, and fellow Doctor Who cast member David Tennant are another example of a gay-straight bromance.

See also

• 300 (film)
• Buddy film
• Homosociality
• I Love You, Man
• Male bonding
• Man date
• Showmance
• Romantic friendship
• Womance