Church etiquette varies greatly between the different nations and cultural groups among whom the Christian Church is found. In Western Culture, in common with most social situations, church etiquette has generally changed greatly over the last half-century or more, becoming much less formal. Church etiquette might be seen to mirror other social changes, with the use of given names for leaders, informal dress.
In North America and Europe, up until the late 1950s it was often expected that worshippers wore their best clothes to church services (known colloquially as the Sunday best). This tradition has declined in many mainstream churches but is still much in evidence in the Southern Baptist and Latter-day Saint traditions in the U.S., and in many black evangelical churches.
Those who support more relaxed dress codes do so on the basis that congregants should come to God as they are, and that communion with God requires no special clothing. Those who support more formal dress consider that although communion with God does indeed not require special clothing, a church service is an office of devotion and as a matter of respect, it is therefore appropriate to wear one's best attire.
In recent decades, some churches have encouraged a more informal dress code. Even where dress code is more relaxed it is still generally considered proper to dress modestly. Among the first to adopt this policy were the Calvary Chapel associated churches. Many clergy members, especially those in denominations and religious groups formed in the 20th century, have abandoned the traditional robes and vestments in favor of business casual clothing. This change was made to close the perceived gap between the clergy and laypersons. Some even wear jeans and other everyday casual wear along with the congregation. One popular option for women is a church suit. Though a small minority, Christian naturists take this one step further, and wear no clothing at all, which they see as "God's design".
In order to keep a respectful atmosphere in the major Roman churches, a dress code is enforced, and those not dressed in a conservative fashion might not be admitted within. This is especially true with the Major basilicas. Shirts without sleeves are not permitted. Men may not wear shorts; women's skirts must reach to below the knees.
Upon meeting the Pope, or taking part in Papal ceremonies, the preferred mode of dress is either a business suit or in national costume. Male diplomats may, in formal settings, wear white ties and tails, without top hat. Black tie is contrary to the norm. Catholic Queens may wear white dresses with white mantillas, usually propped up with an ivory comb. Under normal conditions, other women may wear black dresses with black mantillas At times, when newlyweds are presented to the Pope, the bride may wear her Bridal dress.
It is generally considered poor form to consume alcohol (other than as part of the sacrament) on church premises, and turning up intoxicated to a church service would generally be considered disrespectful. The Methodist, Latter-day Saint, Seventh-day Adventist, and other traditions go further, frowning on alcohol altogether.
Church etiquette in fiction
Some movies and television programs highlight etiquette mistakes that can be made in churches. For example:
|Nothing Sacred (TV series)||Person didn't know what to do with communion sacrament, so threw it in rubbish||Treat sacrament with respect, and don't feel obliged to join in this part of the service if not comfortable with it (for example, choosing not to hold hands out to receive communion is usually a polite signal to simply receive a blessing instead).|
- "7 Must-Haves for a Head-Turning Womens Church Suit". Womensuits Magazine. Retrieved 23 August 2014.
- "It's wholesome and liberating ... how cathedral landed in row over nudism". Daily Mail (UK). 10 April 2011. Retrieved 22 October 2013.