Edging (sexual practice)

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Edging, peaking, or surfing[1] is a sexual technique whereby orgasm is controlled. It is practiced alone or with a partner and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period without reaching climax.

When practiced by men, direct sexual stimulation without the refractory period after orgasm is observed.[citation needed] When the controlled orgasm is achieved, the physical sensations are greater as compared to conventional orgasm.[citation needed] Orgasm control is referenced as "slow masturbation" in Alex Comfort's The New Joy of Sex (1993)[2] and "extended massive orgasm" in Vera and Steve Bodansky's 2000 book of the same name.[1] It is similar to the Venus Butterfly technique used in the volume The One Hour Orgasm (1988) by Leah and Bob Schwartz.

Orgasm control involves either sex partner being in control of the other partner's orgasm, or a person delaying their own orgasm during sexual activity with a partner or by masturbation. Any method of sexual stimulation can be used to experience controlled orgasm.

In partnered sex[edit]

During intercourse or other forms of sexual stimulation with another partner, one partner stimulates the other and reduces the level of stimulation when approaching an orgasm. Erotic sexual denial occurs when the partner who is in control of the other partner's orgasm prolongs the orgasm to allow for an increased level of sexual tension.[citation needed] When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation.[citation needed] An example of the use of orgasm control in partnered sex can be seen in BDSM; if the partner whose orgasm is being controlled, sometimes referred to as the submissive partner, is tied up, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease and if orgasm is denied it is tease and denial).

In masturbation[edit]

When practicing alone in masturbation, orgasm control can heighten sexual pleasure. Another reason for practicing orgasm control is to extend the amount of time it takes to orgasm.[citation needed] For a female, because there is little or no post-orgasm refractory period, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as increasing frequency and intensity. For the male, the speed of masturbation may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation.[citation needed] One technique, commonly referred to as 'edging', involves masturbating up until the moment before reaching the plateau phase just before orgasm occurs, and then stopping suddenly before experiencing a climax.[citation needed] Another technique, commonly referred to as 'surfing', involves reaching the plateau phase and slowing down the stimulation to maintain a heightened level of sensation for an extended time.[citation needed] Repeating either of these techniques many times during a single masturbation session may result in a stronger, more intense orgasm.[citation needed]

Orgasm control is more often possible with masturbation.[citation needed] This is because masturbation allows for individual control and has no reliance on a sexual partner to achieve orgasm. Masturbation can be seen as the starting point in the technique of orgasm control.[citation needed]. Self-stimulation can help people learn about the limits of their body and the techniques that may help them in controlling their orgasms. Recent research suggests masturbation may decrease the incidence of prostate cancer.[3]

As it has been described by Steve Bodansky and Vera Bodansky in Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure, masturbation practiced with the aim of orgasm control should be carried on with the purpose of endured sexual gratification and not to relieve tension, as 'simple' masturbation does.[4] In 2021, Jacob Harris masturbated for 9 hours and 58 minutes at the 9th annual World Masturbate-a-thon.[5]

See also[edit]


  1. ^ a b Extended Massive Orgasm, Steve and Vera Bodansky, (2000), pp. 91, 92, 94–98, ISBN 0-89793-289-7.
  2. ^ The New Joy of Sex, Alex Comfort, (1993), ISBN 1-85732-097-2.
  3. ^ Leitzmann MF, Platz EA, Stampfer MJ, Willett WC, Giovannucci E. Ejaculation frequency and subsequent risk of prostate cancer. JAMA. 2004 Apr 7:291 (13): 1578-86.
  4. ^ Bodansky, Steve; Bodansky, Vera (2000-11-01). Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure. ISBN 9780897932899. Retrieved 2010-07-27.
  5. ^ "WATCH: How A World Champion Masturbator Spends His Day (NSFW)". HuffPost. 2011-12-21. Retrieved 2021-06-23.