about October 27, 1872
Baltimore, Maryland, U.S.
|Died||September 25, 1960
New York City
|Occupation||Author, Founder of The Emily Post Institute|
|Spouse||second, Edwin Main Post (1892–1905)|
|Relatives||Elizabeth Post, Peggy Post, Bruce Price|
Post was born Emily Price in Baltimore, Maryland, possibly in October 1872 (the precise date is disputed).[a] Her father was the architect, Bruce Price, and her mother was Josephine (Lee) Price of Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania. After being educated at home in her early years, Price attended Miss Graham's finishing school in New York after her family moved there.
The New York Times' Dinitia Smith reports, in her review of Laura Claridge's 2008 biography of Post, "Emily was tall, pretty and spoiled. [...] She grew up in a world of grand estates, her life governed by carefully delineated rituals like the cotillion with its complex forms and its dances — the Fan, the Ladies Mocked, Mother Goose — called out in dizzying turns by the dance master.
Marriage to Post
Price met her future husband, Edwin Main Post, a prominent banker, at a ball in a Fifth Avenue mansion. Following their wedding in 1892 and a honeymoon tour of Europe, they lived in New York's Washington Square. They also had a country cottage, named "Emily Post Cottage", in Tuxedo Park, which was one of four Bruce Price Cottages she inherited from her father. The couple had two sons, Edwin Main Post Jr. (1893) and Bruce Price Post (1895).
When her two sons were old enough to attend boarding school, Post began to write. She produced newspaper articles on architecture and interior design, as well as stories and serials for magazines including Harper's, Scribner's, and The Century. She wrote five novels: Flight of a Moth (1904), Purple and Fine Linen (1906), Woven in the Tapestry (1908), The Title Market (1909), and The Eagle's Feather (1910). In 1916, she published By Motor to the Golden Gate – a recount of a road trip she made from New York to San Francisco with her son Edwin and another companion.
Post wrote in various styles, including humorous travel books, early in her career. She published her first etiquette book Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics, and at Home (1922, frequently referenced as Etiquette) when she was 50; it became a best-seller, with updated versions continued to be popular for decades, and it made her career. After 1931, Post spoke on radio programs and wrote a column on good taste for the Bell Syndicate; it appeared daily in some 200 newspapers after 1932.
Such books had always been popular in America: the country’s exotic mix of immigrants and newly rich were eager to fit in with the establishment. Men had to be taught not to blow their noses into their hands or to spit tobacco onto ladies’ backs. Arthur M. Schlesinger, who wrote “Learning How to Behave: A Historical Study of American Etiquette Books” in 1946, said that etiquette books were part of “the leveling-up process of democracy,” an attempt to resolve the conflict between the democratic ideal and the reality of class. But Post’s etiquette books went far beyond those of her predecessors. They read like short-story collections with recurring characters, the Toploftys, the Eminents, the Richan Vulgars, the Gildings and the Kindharts.
In 1946, Post founded The Emily Post Institute, which continues her work.
Post died in 1960 in her New York City apartment at the age of 87.
- Peggy Post, the wife of Emily's great-grandson, is the current spokeswoman for The Emily Post Institute and writes etiquette advice for Good Housekeeping magazine, succeeding her mother-in-law, Elizabeth Post. Peggy Post is the author of more than 12 books.
- Peter Post, Emily's great-grandson, writes the Sunday edition of The Boston Globe column Etiquette at Work. He's authored the best-selling book Essential Manners for Men, and of Essential Manners for Couples, and co-authored The Etiquette Advantage in Business, in its second edition.
- Anna Post is Emily Post’s great-great-granddaughter. She is the author of Do I Have to Wear White? Emily Post Answers America’s Top Wedding Questions (2009), as well as Emily Post’s Wedding Parties: Smart Ideas for Stylish Parties, From Engagement to Reception and Everything in Between. She is the wedding etiquette expert for Brides.com and Inside Weddings magazine. Additionally, she speaks at bridal shows and other venues providing wedding etiquette advice and tips.
- Lizzie Post, another of Emily's great-great-granddaughters, is the first member of the fourth generation of Posts. Her book is titled How Do You Work This Life Thing? (2007). Lizzie also writes about twenty-something life and etiquette on her blog Not Gonna Lie.... Anna and Lizzie co-authored Great Get-Togethers: Casual Gatherings & Elegant Parties at Home (2010), which presents techniques for hosting social gatherings for any sizes of groups.
Emily Post's name has become synonymous, at least in North America, with proper etiquette and manners. More than half a century after her death, her name is still used in titles of etiquette books. Laura Claridge wrote a book addressing that topic: Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners (2008), the first full-length biography of the author.
On the 1943 Warner Bros. cartoon: A Corny Concerto, on the section "Tales from the Vienna Woods", Bugs Bunny shows a book entitled Emily Post Etiquette, then turns to a page that states "It ain't polite to point!" at which he then slams the book shut on a hound's nose.
- Adolph Freiherr Knigge
- Amy Vanderbilt
- Book of the Civilized Man
- Brad Templeton — who posted Emily Postnews Answers Your Questions on netiquette on Usenet
- Letitia Baldrige
- Miss Manners
- Miss Porter's School
- Primary documents conflict with the birthdate she usually gave, October 27, 1872. The burial records of her brother, William Lee Price, who died in infancy, give his dates as 18 April 1873–6 December 1875. But he can't have been born five months and 21 days after his sister. That she was born six months after him is equally unlikely. So something is awry, and it's unresolvable from primary records. However, it seems less likely that a contemporary burial record of a two-year-old got his birth year wrong than that an adult used an erroneous birth date.
- Smith, Dinitia (October 16, 2008). "BOOKS OF THE TIMES: She Fine-Tuned the Forks of the Richan Vulgars". The New York Times.
- Claridge, Laura (2008). Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners. Random House. p. 18. ISBN 978-0-375-50921-6.
- Claridge, Laura (2008). Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners. Random House.
- Claridge, Laura (2008). Emily Post. New York: Random House. pp. 3–5, 165–70. ISBN 978-0-375-50921-6.
- Post, Emily (1916). By Motor to the Golden Gate. New York and London: D. Appleton and Company.
- https://www.infoplease.com/biography/var/emilypost.html Archived March 4, 2016, at the Wayback Machine.
- Post, Peggy. "Books by Peggy Post". Amazon.com. Retrieved Jan 4, 2015.
- Post, Anna (2009). Do I Have to Wear White? Emily Post Answers America's Top Wedding Questions. Collins.
- Post, Lizzie (2007). How Do You Work This Life Thing?. Collins.
- "Weddings". EmilyPost.com. Archived from the original on April 2, 2007.
- Kolbert, Elizabeth (October 20, 2008). "Place Settings". The New Yorker.
- https://https Archived August 19, 2013, at the Wayback Machine.
- https://https Archived August 19, 2013, at the Wayback Machine.
- "The Emily Post Institute". EmilyPost.com.
- Works by Emily Post at Project Gutenberg
- Works by or about Emily Post at Internet Archive
- Works by Emily Post at LibriVox (public domain audiobooks)
- Post, Emily (1922). Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home. Bartleby.com.
- Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home. Gutenberg. 1922.
- Emily Post at Find a Grave