Fag hag

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"Miss Fag Hag" at the 2010 Mermaid Parade in Coney Island

Fag hag is a gay slang phrase referring to a woman who either associates mostly or exclusively with gay and bisexual men. The phrase originated in gay male culture in the United States and was historically an insult.[1] Some women who associate with gay men object to being called fag hags while others embrace the term. The male counterpart, for men who have similar interpersonal relationships with gay and bisexual men is fag stag.

Usage[edit]

Fag hags are frequently stereotyped as outgoing women who are seeking a substitute for heterosexual relationships, or who are secretly (or openly) sexually attracted to gay men.[2][3] In fact, many women who identify as fag hags are already in romantic relationships, either with straight men or with women[3] but appreciate the alternative experience of socializing with gay men and may prefer the gay culture to the straight counterpart.

Related terms[edit]

American fag hag synonyms include fruit fly,[4] queen bee, homo honey, fruit loop, Goldilocks, flame dame, fairy princess, gabe (a portmanteau of "gay" and "babe"), Tori (in honor of Tori Spelling and Tori Amos) and fairy godmother. Recently, cherry fairy has started to catch on as well in some select social groups in San Francisco and the East Coast, and gayboy bunny (a play on "Playboy Bunny" which originated in a Robot Chicken skit about 8 Mile and Looney Tunes) has been coined for fag hags who are attractive or have boyfriends to counteract the stereotype that fag hags are unable to find a suitable straight partner.

The Japanese word okoge has a more neutral connotation.[citation needed]

The German word is "Schwulenmutti" (literally: Mommy for gays), or "Gabi", the ironic used nickname for Gabriele or Gabriela.

In the case of friendships between lesbians and gay men, the term dyke diva describes the gay man in the relationship. A straight man of platonic affinity with gay men is a fag stag; again, the usage is rare in mainstream sexual culture.

For men who have many lesbian friends the slang terms dutch boy, lesbro or dyke tyke apply.[5][6]

People who associate with lesbian, gay, and bisexual people may be called fruit flies regardless of their sex.[4]

Fag hags, fag stags etc. are regarded as belonging to the phenomenon of "hagism", the attachment of a person to a group defined by sexuality or gender identity, even though they do not personally share that identity.[7]

In popular culture[edit]

The term has often been used in entertainment. In the film Fame (1980), writer Christopher Gore used the term fag hag in describing the character Doris in her relationship with her gay friend, Montgomery. Comedian Margaret Cho has written and regularly talks in her stand-up routines about being a fag hag. In an episode of the UK TV sitcom Gimme Gimme Gimme, Tom refers to Linda as a fag hag.[8] In the made-for television series Tales of the City, based on Armistead Maupin's novel series, Mona Ramsey (played by Chloe Webb) wonders if her friendship with Michael "Mouse" Tolliver (Marcus D'Amico) makes her a "fag hag." The term is also referenced in Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five's song "The Message".[9]

The first annual Miss Fag Hag Pageant took place in New York City on May 17, 2009 at Comix with judges Caroline Rhea, Michael Musto, Hedda Lettuce and Katina Corrao. Heather Shields took the first prize.[10][11][12][13]

See also[edit]

References[edit]

  1. ^ Moon, Dawne (1995). "Insult and Inclusion: The Term Fag Hag and Gay Male "Community"". Social Forces. Social Forces, Vol. 74, No. 2. 74 (2): 487–510. doi:10.2307/2580489. JSTOR 2580489. 
  2. ^ Dawne, 492–494.
  3. ^ a b Thompson, Deborah (2004). "Calling All Fag Hags: From Identity Politics to Identification Politics". Social Semiotics. 14 (1): 37–48. doi:10.1080/1035033042000202915. 
  4. ^ a b Newall, Venetia (1986). "Folklore and Male Homosexuality". Folklore. 97 (2): 123–147. doi:10.1080/0015587x.1986.9716377. JSTOR 1259523. 
  5. ^ Stein, Joshua David (September 2009). "Straight Men and Their Lesbian Best Friends". Archived 2015-09-25 at the Wayback Machine. Details, Retrieved on September 25, 2015..
  6. ^ "Six rules for dyke tykes", Richard Wassersug, Curve, August 2005.
  7. ^ Baker, Paul (2008). Fantabulosa: A Dictionary of Polari and Gay Slang. Continuum International Publishing Group. p. 140. ISBN 0-8264-7343-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  8. ^ Cho, Margaret. "On Being a Fag Hag". PlanetOut. Archived from the original on September 8, 2005. Retrieved 2007-01-06. 
  9. ^ Grandmaster Flash. "The Message Lyrics". Lyrics Freak. Retrieved 10 July 2015. 
  10. ^ Rozzi, Giulia (2009-04-22). "The Miss Fag Hag Pageant". Take Part. Take Part. Archived from the original on 2009-05-03. Retrieved 2009-11-02. 
  11. ^ Musto, Michael (2009-04-29). "Miss California Banned From Competing in Miss Fag Hag Pageant". Village Voice. Archived from the original on 2009-12-12. Retrieved 2009-11-02. 
  12. ^ Hollenbach, Shawn. "Miss Fag Hag Pageant 2010". Mintyfresh. Archived from the original on 2010-05-14. Retrieved 2008-11-02. 
  13. ^ Musto, Michael. "Miss California Banned From Competing in Miss Fag Hag Pageant". La Dolce Musto. The Village Voice. Retrieved 2008-11-02. [permanent dead link]

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