Fag stag

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Fag stag and fruit fly[citation needed] are slang terms for a heterosexual man who either enjoys, prefers the company of (or simply has numerous friends who are), gay or bisexual people.

The latter term comes from the derogatory term for homosexuals (fruit).[1][2]

The term, which originated in the United States in the 1990s,[1][3] is the male equivalent of the more common slang - fag hag,[4] a term which is part of hag-ism; the identification of a person with a group—usually united in terms of sexuality, gender identity, or shared sex—of which he or she is not a member.[5]

The term can be used as a pejorative or as a term of endearment within LGBT communities.[6][7][8]


The colloquialism is used, albeit rarely, primarily within the LGBT communities.[9][10]

Mainstream shows, such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Queer as Folk, Will & Grace and others, often explore the mainstreaming of friendships where differing sexualities play a complement rather than impediment to friendships and social situations.[4][dead link][11][12]

In addition, homophobia has become less prevalent, and efforts to confront violence and hostility towards sexual and gender minorities, such as gay-straight alliance has helped lift some of the stigma attached to having LGBT people as close friends.[4][dead link][11]

A 2002 episode of the MTV series Undressed was titled "Fag Stag" and centered on a gay wedding.[13][14]

When Radar magazine debuted, its founder and editor-in-chief, Maer Roshan, called competitor Details' editor-in-chief Dan Peres, a "professional fag stag,"[15] stating, "Let's get one thing straight, Peres is not gay. But, his magazine sure seems to be."[15]

An alternate use of the term fag stag is a male gay icon celebrity who is either straight or gay, and is loved by the gay community, and has "gay buddies," such as: Kevin Smith, Ben Affleck, Eric McCormack, Justin Timberlake, Colin Farrell, Matthew Broderick, Robbie Williams, Ben Cohen, Darren Criss, Nick Jonas or Daniel Radcliffe.[4][dead link][12][16]

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  1. ^ a b Green, Jonathon (2006). Cassell's Dictionary of Slang: A Major New Edition of the Market-leading Dictionary of Slang. Sterling Publishing Company, Inc. p. 485. ISBN 0-304-36636-6. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  2. ^ Peckham, Aaron (2007). Mo' Urban Dictionary: Ridonkulous Street Slang Defined. Andrews McMeel Publishing. p. 100. ISBN 0-7407-6875-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  3. ^ Reuter, Donald F. (2006). Gay-2-zee: A Dictionary of Sex, Subtext, and the Sublime. Macmillan. p. 198. ISBN 0-312-35427-4. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  4. ^ a b c d "The Single Guy", Jorge (29 June 2006). "Single in the City: Fag Stag". Generation Q Media. Retrieved 2008-07-23.  Archived October 12, 2008, at the Wayback Machine.
  5. ^ Baker, Paul (2004). Fantabulosa: A Dictionary of Polari and Gay Slang. Continuum International Publishing Group. p. 140. ISBN 0-8264-7343-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  6. ^ Self, Will (2004). Dorian: An Imitation. Grove Press. p. 85. ISBN 0-8264-7343-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  7. ^ Adams, Kylie (2005). Ex-girlfriends. Kensington Books. p. 204. ISBN 0-7582-1073-6. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  8. ^ Ordona, Robert (2008). "State of Gay Unions: The "Fag Stag"". Planet Out Inc. Retrieved 2008-07-23.  Archived January 16, 2009, at the Wayback Machine.
  9. ^ Cohen, Mo (2006). "Deconstructing Fag Hags". Rearguard Monthly Alternative. Retrieved 2008-07-23. [dead link]
  10. ^ David, Marianne (3 June 2007). "Beyond the Flamboyant Façade, The Flip Side". The Nation. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  11. ^ a b Sohn, Amy (13 October 2003). "Mano a Mano: Much has been made about how a "Queer Eye" can benefit a straight guy. But there is no shortage of gay men who would welcome a little straightening out.". New York Magazine. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  12. ^ a b Heinrich, Karen (22 May 2003). "The Great Gender Bender: Heterosexual men no longer feel the need to keep their gay friends in the closet.". The Age. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  13. ^ ""Undressed": Girls Interrupted (2002)". IMDb.com, Inc. 2008. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  14. ^ "Plot summary for "Undressed"". IMDb.com, Inc. 2008. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  15. ^ a b Romenesko, Jim (11 April 2003). "Radar's Roshan says Details is an awfully gay magazine". New York Post. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  16. ^ Millar, Iain (5 October 2003). "The Critics: Channel Hopper - Budluck, bareness and other scourges". The Independent on Sunday. Retrieved 2008-07-24. [dead link]


  • Flynn, Paul (September 2007). "Does Your Gay Friend Fancy You?". Arena. pp. 128–131.