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In social psychology, another term for love between good friends is philia.
Storge or affection is a wide-ranging force which can apply between family members, friends, pets and owners, companions or colleagues; it can also blend with and help underpin other types of tie such as passionate love or friendship.
Thus storge may be used as a general term to describe the love between exceptional friends, and the desire for them to care compassionately for one another.
Some[who?] may say there are other ways to love one in storge form. But this is between married couples, who are committed, and plan to have a long relationship together, particularly as a fundamental relational foundation post-limerance. Another interpretation for storge is to be used to describe a sexual relationship between two people that gradually grew out of a friendship—storgic lovers sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love. Storgic lovers are friends first, and the friendship, and the storge, can endure even beyond the breakup of the sexual relationship. They want their significant others to also be their best friends, and will choose their mates based on similar goals and interests – homogamy.
Storgic lovers place much importance on commitment, and find that their motivation to avoid committing infidelity is to preserve the trust between the two partners. Children and marriage are seen as legitimate longterm aims for their bond, while passionate sexual intensity is of lesser importance than in other love styles.
Advantages of storgic love may be the level of how one loves their family and understands each other. In addition, two people that are deeply devoted to one another can feel the intimacy that they share. The main disadvantage of storgic love may be the large time investment and fallout should the two people change enough to lose their friendship.
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