Honey, We're Killing the Kids
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Honey, We're Killing the Kids is the name of a BBC television series in which parents are shown the consequences of poor parenting. The program shows computer-generated images and technology of what their children may look like as adults if they continue with their present life-style, dietary and exercise habits. The name of this show is a parody of the name from Disney's Honey, I Shrunk the Kids movies and TV series.
First, a family with issues relating to their parenting, dietary and exercise habits is introduced. Then, the children are examined by physicians and psychologists, and every aspect of their eating habits and physical activity is analysed by an expert team. Then, the parents are shown what their children may look like by taking present-day photos of them and age-progressing the photos with a computer year by year until age forty. The parents are frequently brought to tears when presented with the likelihood of their children's unhappy future appearance and significantly reduced life expectancy.
Some traits are exaggerated for effect. Highly variable traits such as clothes, hairstyles, jewelry, eyeglasses, facial hair, and so forth are added to the computer generated images based on guesses by the show at the social and educational impact current poor parenting may have on the children's future lives. These guesses at highly variable traits are swayed depending on the outcome predicted by the show's child experts based upon the likely life expectancy, state of health and emotional stability of the children. Bad haircuts and glasses may be used for the before version while the after version has the computer generated images smiling and wearing a suit. Another example, in the premier TLC episode, an eight-year-old boy was given a mullet, an earring, nerdy-looking eyeglasses, and a soul patch at age fifteen. In another episode, an eight-year-old girl was given a bad case of acne as she went through her teenage years. Rosacea, obesity, tooth decay, and hair loss also seem to be common ailments added to the age-progression. These guesses at personal traits are present in all episodes to dramatise the harmful physical, emotional effects of a poor diet and poor parenting, and the major impact the show's experts say these are likely to have on the children's future well being.
The show follows families' home lives for a period of four weeks. During this period they follow a manual of instructions written by experts including a child psychologist, a fitness expert and a dietician. At weekly interventions to this regime they are criticized by the show's host and given three new 'rules' targeted at each family specifically, to help them be better parents. Rules have been primarily aimed at the children, including both diet and exercise, but there have also been a couple of rules for adults, such as giving up smoking (and in one case going back to university). Practices such as "Home Cooking" and "Get Active" have been introduced, but also recommendations aimed at fostering emotional stability such as "Honey Time", a practice encouraged where the parents set aside time before bedtime, to praise positive things their children have done that day. It is generally accepted that positive reward and praise of children is likely to enhance their social and educational chances in later life, by making them more confident and emotionally secure.
Many families are from socially deprived backgrounds and derive significant benefit from simple improvements in diet. The show also features many second families or blended families reflecting widespread social upheaval and change in traditional modes of parenting, and focusing on the dilemmas of stepparents and stepchildren.
Despite the arguably exaggerated computer generated images, the show has contributed to a widespread public debate about parenting which has included the television series Jamie's School Dinners initiated by Jamie Oliver in the UK. Perceived as a worthy enterprise by public broadcasters, the show continues to be commissioned internationally.
International versions of the show
- The American edition of the one-hour weekly series appeared on TLC in the United States and the Food Network in Canada; the first season was hosted by Dr. Lisa Hark, a nutritionist. The second season is hosted by Felicia Stoler.
- The British edition is hosted by Kris Murrin.
- The Australian version of the show is hosted by Child Development Specialist Dr. Anne Purcell and airs on Network Ten.
- The New Zealand version of the show is hosted by Dr. Louise Schofield, and airs on TV3.
- The Ukrainian version of the show, Dorogaya, my ubivaem detei or Kohana, my vbyvaiemo ditey (Дорогая, мы убиваем детей/Кохана, ми вбиваємо дітей) is aired on the STB Channel. It has become an internet meme due to scenes from an episode featuring a computer-addicted boy called Alexander Fokin, who has become known as "Sashko" on the Russian-speaking Internet and the "No New Memes Kid" or "Crazy Ukrainian Kid" on the English-speaking Internet.
- The Russian version of the show, however, will be aired on the one of the channels. This version was aired on Ren-TV channel, it was named as "Honey, we're losing our kids"
- The Polish version of the show, Kochanie, ratujmy nasze dzieci (Honey, let's save our kids) is hosted by journalist Tomasz Wolny and airs on TVP2 since 15 September 2016.
- William Lopez (15 May 2004). "Successful Parenting Skills that Shape Children's Behaviors".