Instruction and Advice for the Young Bride

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Instruction and Advice for the Young Bride purports to be a booklet written by Ruth Smythers in 1894 that states that women find sex displeasurable and discusses methods which a newly married woman may use to discourage her husband from sex. Although there is ample evidence that the text is a joke or hoax - Ruth Smythers, her husband and the institutions mentioned in the pamphlet did not exist (names 'Ruth' and 'Smithers' (sic) appear alongside, albeit separately in a once popular work of fiction by John Galsworthy, a 1910 play Justice[1]), and some of the language and reference points were not used until the 20th century[2][3][4] - it has fooled some people and even a newspaper into believing it is a serious text, partly because some back covers of the book imply that it is genuine.[5]

The text, purportedly published by Spiritual Guidance Press, New York City and reprinted by The Madison Institute Newsletter, Fall Issue, in 1894, has become a well-known humorous pamphlet.[6][7][8] It has been published in book form as Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894.[9]

Internet origins[edit]

The text, which has circulated and spread over websites and blogs and has been translated into other languages,[10] is sometimes sourced to a 1998 course on human sexuality in the University of Washington.[11] However, as this was two years after a passage of the book was read out in a legal hearing during the Krull case, this is unlikely.

Krull case[edit]

In 1996, the Ombudsman of King County in Seattle, David Krull, was fired for misconduct after he emailed the text of the booklet to his assistant, Amy Calderwood, who was about to get married. Krull had stated that the email was a light hearted joke, but Calderwood claimed it was "inappropriate", her fiancé said it was "vile" and council member Maggi Fimia, who voted for Krull to be fired, called the text "incredibly offensive".[12][13][14][15] Fimia picked out the following passage and said it was suitable only for discussion in a women's studies class:[14]

Most men are by nature rather perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a variety of the most revolting practices. These practices include, among others, performing the normal act in abnormal positions; mouthing the female body; and offering their own vile bodies to be mouthed in turn.

— Instruction and Advice for the Young Bride, Ruth Smythers, 1894

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  1. ^ "Justice by John Galsworthy". Retrieved 2 May 2017 – via
  2. ^ Ray (20 December 2007). "The Amazing Mrs. Ruth Smythers". Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  3. ^ Origins @Gonzo Journalism on the NET!
  4. ^ "Advice to Young Brides". 6 July 2008. Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  5. ^ Bolin, Anne; Whelehan, Patricia (1 January 1999). "Perspectives on Human Sexuality". SUNY Press. Retrieved 2 May 2017 – via Google Books.
  6. ^ Drunkcow Landmines, Daryl Meakes, 2004, p. 219 Book overview in google: "Drunkcow landmines are wickedly-unusual-but-oddly-believable stories that have been passed along by someone who believes the story to have happened to a friend of a friend."
  7. ^ "Instruction and Advice for the Young Bride". Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  8. ^ Liddy, G. Gordon (19 September 2003). "When I Was a Kid, This Was a Free Country". Regnery Publishing. Retrieved 2 May 2017 – via Google Books.
  9. ^ Smythers, Ruth (1 September 2008). "Sex Tips For Husbands and Wives from 1894". Summersdale. Retrieved 2 May 2017 – via Amazon.
  10. ^ "Инструкции и съвети за млади булки". 30 May 2008. Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  11. ^ "University of Washington course website". Archived from the original on 23 March 2010. Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  12. ^ "Local News - Harassment Charge Believed By Expert - Seattle Times Newspaper". Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  13. ^ Ombudsman Is Fired -- County Council Says Krull Engaged In `Misconduct' in Seattle Times October 22, 1996
  14. ^ a b "Local News - Accused Of Misconduct, Ombudsman Fights Back -- King County Watchdog Says Sex Complaint Is `Retaliation' - Seattle Times Newspaper". Retrieved 2 May 2017.
  15. ^ "Local News - Council Fires Back At Krull - Seattle Times Newspaper". Retrieved 2 May 2017.


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