|Alma mater||Maharishi International University, Columbia Pacific University|
|Notable work||Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus|
|Spouse(s)||Barbara De Angelis (div. 1984)|
Bonnie Gray (1986–2018; her death)
John Gray (born December 28, 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long-term best seller and formed the central theme of his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.
Early life and education
He received a bachelor's and master's degree in the Science of Creative Intelligence, though sources vary on whether these degrees were received from either the non-accredited Maharishi European Research University (MERU) in Switzerland or the accredited Maharishi International University in Fairfield, Iowa.
Gray received an unaccredited PhD in 1982 from Columbia Pacific University (CPU), a now-defunct orrespondence institution. In 2002, he received an honorary doctorate from Governors State University in Illinois after he delivered their commencement address.
In 1992, Gray published Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which has sold more than 15 million copies and, according to a CNN report, it was the "highest ranked work of non-fiction" of the 1990s. The book has been published in more than 40 languages.
In 1997, Gray began opening Mars & Venus Counseling Centers, where he trains therapists in his "Mars & Venus technique" in exchange for a one-time licensing fee and monthly "royalty payments". Dorothy Cantor, a former president of the American Psychological Association, has questioned the ethics of creating a franchise for what is essentially a therapeutic process.
In 1997, Gray began marketing his products through Genesis Intermedia, a company led by Ramy El-Batrawi. According to their SEC filing, "A substantial portion of our product revenue has come from our Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus product series authored by John Gray, Ph.D." On December 31, 1997, Genesis sold 116,504 shares of its common stock to Dr. John Gray for $900,000. On November 1, 1998, 29,126 of those shares were surrendered. Royalties paid to Dr. Gray for the years ended December 31, 1998, 1997 and 1996 were $0, $50,101, and $423,207, respectively. There were no royalties paid to Dr. Gray during the three months ended March 31, 1999 and 1998. in 2004, a massive class action lawsuit was filed against Genesis Intermedia for stock price manipulation. El-Batrawi settled with the SEC and was barred from acting as an officer or director of a public company for a period of five years.
Gray has been marketing dietary supplements through his Web site since at least 2005. In 2019, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration ordered him to stop making illegal claims for several products: 2-AEP Membrane Complex, Ionic Silver Water, L-Glutathione, Liposomal DHA – Ultimate Omega-3 Brain Support, Liposomal Methyl B12/Folate, NAC N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine, and Vectomega.
Gray is also an early investor in YayYo, Inc, a rental car business for the ride-sharing industry operated by Ramy El-Batrawi. Gray owns 21.44% through his Gray Mars Venus Trust.
Interviews and appearances
In a June 2014 interview with Agence France-Presse, Gray was quoted as saying with regard to feminism, "The reason why there's so much divorce is that feminism promotes independence in women. I'm very happy for women to find greater independence, but when you go too far in that direction, then who's at home?" He also stated that "feminism in America holds back sales of [his] books", while other parts of the world - he cited Australia and Latin America notably - are more in tune with his basic message. With regard to online pornography Gray stated, "With free internet porn, there's a massive addiction happening," adding that there are "just millions and millions of people... experiencing their sexual satisfactions through total fantasy. The effect that porn has on the brain is like taking heroin." With regard to the rise of infidelity sites like Ashley Madison and Arrangement Finders he states, "When you have impersonal sex.... 'It's OK, here are these cheating wives, men, they want to have sex with you'... So you go have sex with someone that you don't know and someone you don't love... impersonal sex does promote addiction to sex," he adds, "it's along the same line of pornography."
In 2002, author Julia T. Wood published a critical response to Gray's portrayals of men and women in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. In 2007 Deborah Cameron published a book-length critique of Gray, and other self-help ventures premised on gender difference stereotypes, in The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages?
Gray was accused of borrowing from the work of author Deborah Tannen and he acknowledges some similarities but says, "I was teaching those ideas before I'd heard of her" and that he did not read her book. Other critics have accused Gray of limiting human psychology to stereotypes.
Books and other publications
- 1992: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
- 1993: What You Feel You Can Heal
- 1994: What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know
- 1994: Mars and Venus in Love
- 1995: Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
- 1997: Mars and Venus on a Date
- 1997: Mars and Venus Starting Over
- 1999: How To Get What You Want and Want What You Have
- 2000: Children Are from Heaven
- 2000: Mars and Venus: 365 Ways to Keep Passion Alive
- Men, Women and Relationships
- Mars and Venus Together Forever: A Practical Guide to Creating Lasting Intimacy
- Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days
- Practical Miracles for Mars and Venus: Nine Principles for Lasting Love, Increasing Success, and Vibrant Health in the Twenty-first Century
- 2002: Mars and Venus in the Workplace, ISBN 0732911141
- Truly Mars & Venus
- 2003: The Mars & Venus Diet and Exercise Solution
- 2007: Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress
- 2010: Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice – Hormonal Balance – The Key to Life, Love, and Energy
- 75 Ways To Say I Love You (co-author Darren Stephens), ISBN 9780957974012
- How To Release Stress Through Relaxation (co-author Darren Stephens), ISBN 9780957974005
- Work with Me: The 8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women in Business (co-author Barbara Annis), ISBN 9780230341906
- 2017: Beyond Mars and Venus
- "MarsVenus.com – John Gray – Life Story". www.marsvenus.com. Archived from the original on June 17, 2019. Retrieved January 5, 2015.
- Gleick, Elizabeth (June 16, 1997). "Tower of Psychobabble". Time. Archived from the original on July 26, 2009. Retrieved May 27, 2018.
- Hampson, Sara (February 4, 2008). "Looking to God for Relationship Advice". The Globe and Mail. Retrieved April 4, 2013.
- Bridgman, Mary (October 14, 1996). "LOST IN SPACE AUTHOR ARGUES MEN, WOMEN STILL NO CLOSER THAN MARS, VENUS". Columbus Dispatch. Columbus, Ohio. p. 01.B.
- Hampton, Sarah (February 4, 2008). "Looking to God for relationship advice". The Globe and Mail. Archived from the original on February 9, 2008. Retrieved September 30, 2008.
- Goldman, Abigail (September 12, 1994). "Mars, Venus... and Cupid Men and women seem to be from different planets. John Gray's message: Come back to Earth and deal with it". LA Times. Retrieved September 30, 2008.
- "Honorary Degree Citation: John Gray" (2003), Governors State University.
- Beaumont-Thomas, Ben (February 14, 2017). "Interview to John Gray. How we made Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". The Guardian. Retrieved May 27, 2018.
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- "HarperCollins Catalogue [25th Anniversary]". HarperCollins. 2017. Retrieved November 18, 2018.
- "Grisham ranks as top-selling author of decade". CNN.com. December 31, 1999. Archived from the original on September 8, 2012. Retrieved November 18, 2018.
- Hay House author bio Archived November 11, 2013, at the Wayback Machine. Retrieved July 2011.
- "SEC Archives". Sec.gov.
- "Securities and Exchange Commission v. Ramy Y. El-Batrawi, GenesisIntermedia, Inc., Ultimate Holdings, Ltd., Adnan M. Khashoggi, Richard J. Evangelista, Wayne Breedon, and Douglas E. Jacobson, Civil Action No. CV-06-2247 (MRP) (C.D. Ca.)". Sec.gov. April 2, 2010.
- Warning letter to John Gray’s Mars Venus LLC, 2/5/19
- "UNITED STATES SECURITIES AND EXCHANGE COMMISSION". www.sec.gov. Retrieved March 19, 2019.
- Staff. "'Mars, Venus' author warns over sex in online world". AFP.com. Agence France-Presse. Archived from the original on June 9, 2014. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
- Staff. "Feminism and free porn are ruining relationships - author". nzherald.co.nz. New Zealand Herald. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
- Staff. "'Men Are From Mars' Author Blames Free Online Porn, Feminists". AVN.com. Adult Video News. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
- Wood, Julia T. (Winter 2002). "A Critical Response to John Gray's Mars and Venus Portrayals of Men and Women". Southern Communication Journal. Memphis, Tennessee. 67 (2): 201–210. doi:10.1080/10417940209373229. OCLC 936904728. S2CID 146380651.
- Cameron, Deborah. The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages? Oxford University Press. 2007.
- Conversation with HarperCollins editor Nancy Peske, 1994
- Murphy, Lauren (February 14, 2002). "Mars and Venus at work; Critics aim to bring Gray back down to Earth". The Washington Times. Retrieved January 7, 2014.
- "Can't Understand Your Mate? It's Time To Align Your Planets". The Palm Beach Post. November 1, 1998. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- "John Gray Fires Back at Critic Who Questioned His Credentials". Inside Edition. November 20, 2003.
- "John Gray - Bio - Premiere Motivational Speakers Bureau". premierespeakers.com.
- Gray, John (February 15, 2019). "John Gray's wife Bonnie Gray has died of cancer". Brad Kearns.
- "John Gray: Biography of John Gray". www.askmarsvenus.com.
- "Mars Venus". MarsVenus.
- Mead, Rebecca (September 18, 1995). "Is John Gray from Mars?". New York Magazine. Vol. 28, no. 37. pp. 66−69. Retrieved May 27, 2018.
- Lacitis, Erik (March 29, 1996). "Promoting Closeness – John Gray Of 'Venus/Mars' Fame Is A One-Man Advice Industry". Seattle Times. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Aamidor, Abe (February 24, 1998). "'Mars, Venus' Author Finds His Messages Hitting Home". Indianapolis Star And News. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Odone, Cristina (April 2, 1999). "We are fixated on the idea that we have to be in a couple; nobody is interested in the beauty of being alone". New Statesman. Archived from the original on May 17, 2008. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Goldacre, Ben (February 10, 2005). "A varying degree". The Guardian. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Guinness, Daphne (January 31, 2008). "Back to Mars and Venus". The Age. Retrieved October 17, 2008.