John Gray (U.S. author)
Gray in 2016
|Born||December 28, 1951|
Houston, Texas, U.S.
|Alma mater||Maharishi International University, Columbia Pacific University (now defunct)|
|Known for||Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus|
|Spouse(s)||Barbara De Angelis|
(Divorced in 1984)
John Gray (born December 28, 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long term best seller and formed the central theme of all his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.
Early life and education
Gray was born in Houston, Texas, in 1951 to a father who was an oil executive and a mother who worked at a spiritual bookshop, and grew up with five brothers. His parents were both Christians and taught him Yoga and took him to visit Indian Saint Yogananda during his childhood. The Autobiography of A Yogi inspired him greatly later in life.
He received a bachelor's and master's degree in the Science of Creative Intelligence, though sources vary on whether these degrees were received from either the non-accredited Maharishi European Research University (MERU) in Switzerland or the accredited Maharishi International University in Fairfield, Iowa.
Gray received an unaccredited PhD degree by correspondence in 1982 from Columbia Pacific University (CPU), a now-defunct institution located in San Rafael, California upon completion of a correspondence course and an honorary doctorate from Governors State University in Illinois after he delivered their commencement address in 2002.
Gray writes a USA-syndicated column with 30 million readers that appears in The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, New York Daily News, New York Newsday, The Denver Post, and the San Antonio Express-News. Internationally, Gray's columns have appeared in publications in England, Canada, Mexico, Korea, Latin American and the South Pacific.[third-party source needed]
Gray is a family therapist and a member of the American Counseling Association and the International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors.
In 1992, Gray published his book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus which has sold more than 15 million copies  The book became a "popular paradigm" for problems in relationships based on the different tendencies in each gender and led to infomercials, audiotapes and videotapes, a CD-ROM (the first from HarperReference), weekend seminars, theme vacations, a one-man Broadway show, an TV sitcom plus a movie contract with 20th Century Fox. The book has been published in 40 languages and has earned Gray almost $18 million.
In 1996, Gray and Maia and Bart Berens co-founded Mars Venus Institute. Bart Berens was president and Maia Berens was director.
In 1997, Gray began opening Mars & Venus Counseling Centers, where he trains therapists in his "Mars & Venus technique" in exchange for a one time licensing fee and monthly "royalty payments". Dorothy Cantor, a former president of the American Psychological Association, has questioned the ethics of creating a franchise for what is essentially a therapeutic process.
Interviews and appearances
Gray has made numerous media appearances including Oprah, The Phil Donahue Show, and Larry King Live. Gray has been profiled in Newsweek, People and Forbes magazine.[third-party source needed]
In a June 2014 interview with Agence France Presse, Gray was quoted as saying with regard to feminism, "The reason why there's so much divorce is that feminism promotes independence in women. I'm very happy for women to find greater independence, but when you go too far in that direction, then who's at home?" He also stated that "feminism in America holds back sales of [his] books", while other parts of the world - he cited Australia and Latin America notably - are more in tune with his basic message. With regard to online pornography Gray stated, "With free internet porn, there's a massive addiction happening," adding that there are "just millions and millions of people... experiencing their sexual satisfactions through total fantasy. The effect that porn has on the brain is like taking heroin." With regard to the rise of infidelity sites like Ashley Madison and Arrangement Finders he states, "When you have impersonal sex.... 'It's OK, here are these cheating wives, men, they want to have sex with you'... So you go have sex with someone that you don't know and someone you don't love... impersonal sex does promote addiction to sex," he adds, "it's along the same line of pornography."
In 2002, author Julia T. Wood published a critical response to Gray's portrayals of men and women as he portrayed them in his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. In 2007 Deborah Cameron published a book-length critique of Gray and other self-help ventures premised on gender difference stereotypes in The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages?
Gray was accused of borrowing from the work of author Deborah Tannen and he acknowledges some similarities but says, "I was teaching those ideas before I'd heard of her" and that he did not read her book. Other critics have accused Gray of limiting human psychology to stereotypes.
Gray married self-help author Barbara De Angelis and they divorced in 1984, after which he re-evaluated his ideas about relationships. Gray married his second wife, Bonnie, in 1986.  Gray has a daughter and two stepdaughters.
Books and other publications
- 1992 Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
- 1993 What You Feel You Can Heal
- 1994 What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You & Your Father Didn't Know
- 1994 Mars and Venus in Love
- 1995 Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
- 1997 Mars and Venus on a Date
- 1997 Mars and Venus Starting Over
- 1999 How To Get What You Want and Want What You Have
- 2000 Children Are from Heaven
- 2000 Mars and Venus: 365 Ways to Keep Passion Alive
- Men, Women and Relationships
- Mars and Venus Together Forever: A Practical Guide to Creating Lasting Intimacy
- Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days
- Practical Miracles for Mars and Venus: Nine Principles for Lasting Love, Increasing Success, and Vibrant Health in the Twenty-first Century
- Mars and Venus in the Workplace
- Truly Mars & Venus
- 2003 The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution
- 2007 Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress
- 2010 Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice – Hormonal Balance – The Key to Life, Love, and Energy
- 75 Ways To Say I Love You (Co-Author Darren Stephens) ISBN 9780957974012
- How To Release Stress Through Relaxation (Co-Author Darren Stephens) ISBN 9780957974005
- Work with Me: The 8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women in Business (Co-Author Barbara Annis) ISBN 9780230341906
- 2017 Beyond Mars and Venus
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- "Writer's Education from Mars". New York Post. November 13, 2003. Retrieved March 18, 2018 – via Cult Education Institute.
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- NY Times, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus Retrieved July 2011
- Hay House author bio Retrieved July 2011
- "Healthy Living". coaches.aol.com.
- Staff. "'Mars, Venus' author warns over sex in online world". AFP.com. Agence France Presse. Archived from the original on June 9, 2014. Retrieved June 9, 2014.
- Staff. "Feminism and free porn are ruining relationships - author". nzherald.co.nz. New Zealand Herald. Retrieved 9 June 2014.
- Staff. "'Men Are From Mars' Author Blames Free Online Porn, Feminists". AVN.com. Adult Video News. Retrieved 9 June 2014.
- Wood, Julia T. (Winter 2002). "A Critical Response to John Gray's Mars and Venus Portrayals of Men and Women". Southern Communication Journal. Memphis, Tennessee. 67 (2): 201–210. doi:10.1080/10417940209373229. OCLC 936904728.
- Cameron, Deborah. The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages? Oxford University Press. 2007.
- Conversation with HarperCollins editor Nancy Peske, 1994
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- "Can't Understand Your Mate? It's Time To Align Your Planets". The Palm Beach Post. November 1, 1998. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- "John Gray Fires Back at Critic Who Questioned His Credentials". Inside Edition. November 20, 2003. Retrieved March 11, 2018 – via Cult Education Institute.
- Mead, Rebecca (September 18, 1995). "Is John Gray from Mars?". New York Magazine. 28 (37). pp. 66−69. Retrieved May 27, 2018.
- Lacitis, Erik (March 29, 1996). "Promoting Closeness – John Gray Of `Venus/Mars' Fame Is A One-Man Advice Industry". Seattle Times. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Aamidor, Abe (February 24, 1998). "`Mars, Venus' Author Finds His Messages Hitting Home". Indianapolis Star And News. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Odone, Cristina (April 2, 1999). "We are fixated on the idea that we have to be in a couple; nobody is interested in the beauty of being alone". New Statesman. Archived from the original on May 17, 2008. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Goldacre, Ben (February 10, 2005). "A varying degree". The Guardian. Retrieved October 17, 2008.
- Guinness, Daphne (January 31, 2008). "Back to Mars and Venus". The Age. Retrieved October 17, 2008.