John de Ruiter
|John de Ruiter|
Johannes Franciscus de Ruiter|
November 11, 1959
Nipawin, Saskatchewan, Canada
|Genre||Metaphysics, Spirituality, Psychology, Philosophy|
|Notable works||Unveiling Reality (1999)|
John de Ruiter was born on November 11, 1959, one of two boys and two girls raised by Dutch immigrant parents in the town of Stettler in Alberta, Canada. While still a boy, he was taught shoe repair by his father, who was from a long line of shoemakers from De Bilt in the Netherlands.
At the age of 17 de Ruiter claims to have experienced a spontaneous state of awakening, which lasted a year, then left him as abruptly as it had come. Following this experience, de Ruiter spent several years investigating many mystical and philosophical traditions in an attempt to regain what he had lost. He found no existing system, religious dogma or technique that provided the means to fill the void he felt. According to de Ruiter, only unconditional surrender[clarification needed] returned him to the state of awakening.
In public meetings de Ruiter rarely addresses the whole group, he responds to questions on a one-on-one basis with individuals from the audience, and often responds only after long pauses, sometimes of 30 minutes or more. During these periods of silence, de Ruiter claims to be in a deep state of Samadhi. His teaching style has been compared to oral-based teaching of Tibetan Buddhism where detachment and release are also key principles.
Professor Paul Joosee, in his 2009 study of de Ruiter published in the peer-reviewed academic Journal of Contemporary Religion, concluded that de Ruiter’s silences can inspire devotion in three ways: First, it elicits projection, the psychological phenomenon in which we attribute certain thoughts or feelings to another, in other words, listeners often interpret silence as understanding. Second, silence sometimes served as a punitive purpose, as a display of power. Third, combined with gazing deeply into another's eyes, silence can create the sort of intimacy usually exclusive to lovers, followers can confuse the act that usually accompanies intimacy with actual intimacy, feeling connected to de Ruiter in a deeply loving way and inspire devotion simply by gazing at them.
"Okayness" is central to de Ruiter's philosophy. It is best understood as "loving acceptance" and can exist even "in moments of intense sorrow or immense physical pain." De Ruiter states that "Truth lives in each one of us," and that a high level of awareness that can only come from "core splitting honesty" is required to understand that there is no necessity to search. De Ruiter is said to practice and recommend inner quiet and integrity on all levels of life, from the profound to the superficial.
Controversy of de Ruiter's movement arose in 1999 when in a public meeting his wife confronted him after learning that de Ruiter was involved with two daughters of a devotee who invested into the organisation. The two, who are sisters and were also followers of de Ruiter themselves, later sued him in court for support.
Further controversy has arisen since one of de Ruiter's female followers died in mysterious circumstances, in 2014; and when, in 2017, John de Ruiter publicly admitted to having sex with some of his female followers. He has referred to this as "the Calling."
A book called Dark Oasis: A Self-Made Messiah Unveiled, published in 2017, critically examines John de Ruiter's life and teachings.
- The Intelligence of Love: Manifesting Your Being In This World, Dragon Hill Publishing Ltd, 2015 ISBN 978-0-994882-00-4 (PB)
- Unveiling Reality, Oasis Edmonton Publishing, 1999 ISBN 978-1894538008 (PB)
- True accompaniment, 2005 ISBN 1894748883
- A renaissance of being, 2005 ISBN 1894748905
- Sincerity and comprehensiveness, 2005 ISBN 1894748891
- Sustaining being with being, 2005 ISBN 189474893X
- Marvelly, Paula (2003). Teachers of One Living Advaita. New Age Books. p. 138. ISBN 978-8178221441.
- Brummelman, Neils. "Honesty is the Best Policy". John de Ruiter Website. Translation of an interview with John de Ruiter (originally published October 2010 in the magazine Paravisie). Retrieved 17 January 2017.
- Christi, Nicolya (2011). 2012: A Clarion Call: Your Soul's Purpose in Conscious Evolution. Rochester, Vt.: Bear & Co. p. 207. ISBN 978-1-59143-129-9.
- Parker, John W. (2000). Dialogues with emerging spiritual teachers (1st ed.). Fort Collins, Colo.: Sagewood Press. p. 43. ISBN 0-9703659-0-X.
- de Ruiter, John. "The Official Website of John de Ruiter". Retrieved 7 September 2012.
- Hutchinson, Brian (2013). "When lovers turn litigants: Edmonton sisters sue spiritual leader for support". National Post. Retrieved 2016-06-27.
- Eaves, Elisabeth (8 November 2006). "Leadership 101: Be Quiet". Forbes. Archived from the original on 23 January 2013. Retrieved 21 August 2012.
- Dann, G. Elijah (2007). Leaving fundamentalism : personal stories. Waterloo, Ont.: Wilfrid Laurier University Press. p. 93. ISBN 978-1-55458-026-2.
- Polster, Kaya (2011). In Search of Freedom: A Memoir. eBookIt.com. p. 312. ISBN 978-1-4566-0605-3.
- Smith, Ryan (17 November 2006). "Study reveals religious leader's silent secret". Folio. Retrieved 13 July 2012.
- Willis Toms, Justine. "The Direct Route to Awakening with John de Ruiter". New Dimensions Radio. Archived from the original on 22 February 2013. Retrieved 25 July 2012.
- Joosse, Paul (24 Nov 2006). "Silence, Charisma and Power: The Case of John de Ruiter". Journal of Contemporary Religion. 2006 (21:3): 355–371. doi:10.1080/13537900600926147.
- Joosse, Paul (2011). "The Presentation of the Charismatic Self in Everyday Life: Reﬂections on a Canadian New Religious Movement". Sociology of Religion. 2012 (73:2): 174–199. doi:10.1093/socrel/srr045. Retrieved 27 June 2016.
- Court of Queen’s Bench of Alberta Action no. 1603-0116-AC "Von Sass v De Ruiter", Edmonton, 07 October 2016. Retrieved on jan 2017.
- "The Casualties of "Truth": Deconstructing John de Ruiter's Sexual "Calling"". Auticulture. 2017-04-11. Retrieved 2017-11-24.
- "Are a spiritual leader's sexual relationships a calling or a dangerous abuse of power?". Globe & Mail. 2017-11-25. Retrieved 2017-11-25.
- William Ramsey Investigates (2017-12-02), Dark Oasis A Self Made Messiah Unveiled, by Jasun Horsley, retrieved 2018-04-17