Lady Idina Sackville

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Lady Myra Idina Sackville

(1893-02-26)26 February 1893
Died5 November 1955(1955-11-05) (aged 62)
(m. 1913; div. 1919)
Charles Gordon
(m. 1919; div. 1923)
(m. 1923; div. 1929)
Donald Carmichael Haldeman
(m. 1930; div. 1938)
William Vincent Soltau
(m. 1939; div. 1946)

Lady Myra Idina Sackville (26 February 1893 – 5 November 1955) was an English aristocrat and member of the Happy Valley set. Her behaviour and lifestyle scandalised middle class society.[citation needed]

Early life[edit]

Lady Myra Idina Sackville was born on 26 February 1893 and was known by her middle name, Idina. She was the daughter of Gilbert Sackville, 8th Earl De La Warr (1869–1915) and the former Lady Muriel Agnes Brassey. She had two younger siblings, sister Lady Avice (wife of Sir Stewart Menzies) and brother Herbrand Sackville, 9th Earl De La Warr. After her mother died in August 1930, her father remarried to Hilda Mary Clavering Tredcroft, daughter of Colonel Charles Lennox Tredcroft.[1]

Her paternal grandparents were Reginald Sackville, 7th Earl De La Warr and the Hon. Constance Baillie-Cochrane (daughter of Alexander Baillie-Cochrane, 1st Baron Lamington). Her cousin was the writer Vita Sackville-West (only child of cousins Victoria Sackville-West and Lionel Sackville-West, 3rd Baron Sackville). Her mother was the daughter of Thomas Brassey, 1st Earl Brassey, and Anna Allnutt (daughter of merchant John Allnutt). Her uncle was Thomas Brassey, 2nd Earl Brassey and her aunt was Marie Freeman-Thomas, Marchioness of Willingdon.[1]

Personal life[edit]

Portrait of Lady Idina Wallace, by William Orpen, 1915.

Lady Idina married and divorced five times.[1] In 1913, at the age of 20, she married Rt. Hon. Captain David Euan Wallace (d. 1941),[2] the son of John Wallace of Glassingall, on 26 November 1913.[3] In homage to her childhood home, Lady Idina designed Kildonan House, Barrhill, South Ayrshire with the architect James Miller.[4] She never saw the building finished, however, having split from Wallace before its completion. Before their divorce in 1919, they were the parents of two sons:

  • David John Wallace (1914–1944), who married Joan Prudence Magor in 1939. He was killed in action in Greece during World War II, and she married Gerald Frederick Walter de Winton in 1948.
  • Gerard Euan Wallace (1915–1943), who married Elizabeth Lawson, in 1940. He was also killed in action during World War II.

After their divorce, her first husband took custody of their sons and he remarried to Barbara Lutyens (the daughter of Sir Edwin Landseer Lutyens) in May 1920.[2]

On 27 March 1919, she married Capt. Charles Gordon of Park Hill, Aberdeen, the second son of Alexander Gordon-Cuming-Skene (later Gordon) of Pitlurg and the former Ada Wilson. They divorced, without issue, in 1923.[1]

On 22 September 1923, she married for the third time, to Josslyn Hay, Lord Kilmarnock and was thus styled Lady Kilmarnock. They moved to Kenya in 1924, financing the move with Idina's money. Their home was a bungalow on the slopes of the Aberdare Range which they called Slains, after the former Hay family seat of Slains Castle which had been sold by Hay's grandfather, the 20th Earl, in 1916. The bungalow was sited alongside the high altitude farms which other white Kenyans were establishing at the time. After his father's death in 1928, he became the 22nd Earl of Erroll and Idina became the Countess of Erroll.[5] The Happy Valley set were a group of elite, colonial expatriates who became notorious for drug use, drinking, adultery and promiscuity. She and her husband soon became a part of this group and accumulated debts leading to their subsequent divorce, brought on by him cheating her financially.[6] They had one child together:[7]

After their divorce, their daughter was taken home to England to be raised firstly by her uncle Herbrand Sackville, 9th Earl De La Warr, and then by her aunt Lady Avice Spicer in Wiltshire. In 1930, Lord Erroll married Edith Maude ("Molly") Ramsay-Hill, who had been named in their divorce.[6][9] She died in 1939 and the following year, Lord Erroll met, and subsequently had an affair with Diana, Lady Broughton, the wife of Sir Jock Delves Broughton, Bt.[10] Sir Jock found out about the affair and in 1941, Lord Erroll was found shot dead in his Buick in Kenya.[11][12][13] The murder was never solved but Sir Jock committed suicide not long thereafter.[14]

On 22 November 1930, Lady Idina married Donald Carmichael Haldeman, at the Shoreham Register Office in Kent.[15] Haldeman, an Eton graduate and former soldier with the 19th Royal Hussars, was a son of John Haldeman.[16] They divorced in 1938, without issue. In 1939, she married F/Lt William Vincent Soltau of the Royal Air Force. They divorced, without issue, in 1946.[1]

Lady Idina died in 1955 at the age of 62. Soltau died on 1 August 1964.[1]


Through her eldest son David, she was a grandmother of Cary Davina Wallace (wife of David Howell, Baron Howell of Guildford and mother of Frances (née Howell) Osborne, the author of The Bolter, a biography of Idina, and wife of former Chancellor of the Exchequer George Osborne),[17] and Laura Jacqueline Wallace (b. 1941), who married Dominic Paul Morland in 1963, and, secondly, Keith Fitchett, in 2003.

In popular culture[edit]

  • Lady Idina's great-granddaughter through her eldest son David Wallace, Frances Osborne, wrote a biography, The Bolter, which was published in 2008 by Virago Press. The 2009 paperback edition has a revealing Afterword following a letter from Vincent Soltau's daughter, who with her brother was cared for by Lady Idina at her house 'Clouds' in Kenya for eight years.


  1. ^ a b c d e f "De La Warr, Earl (GB, 1761)". Heraldic Media Limited. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  2. ^ a b "EUAN WALLACE, 48, BRITISH OFFICIAL Minister of Transport Under Chamberlain and World War Hero Dies in England HELD SEAT IN COMMONS Ex-Regional Commissioner for Civil Defense of London Served in Washington". The New York Times. 11 February 1941. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  3. ^ The Genealogy of the Wallace Family[Usurped!]
  4. ^ Historic Environment Scotland. "Kildonan House (LB1052)". Retrieved 18 April 2019.
  5. ^ "EARL OF ERROLL DIES SUDDENLY; British High Commissioner in Rhineland Is Stricken While at Coblentz. SCOTLAND'S HIGHEST PEER Descendant of William 11 and Godson of Victoria--Noted for HisCharm and Tact". The New York Times. 21 February 1928. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  6. ^ a b "DIVORCES EARL OF ERROLL.; Countess Gets Judgment Against Him and Corespondent". The New York Times. 25 June 1929. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  7. ^ a b "Erroll, Earl of (S, 1452)". Heraldic Media Limited. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  8. ^ Slains Castle and The Hays of Erroll, Aberdeen Civic Society Archived 21 July 2011 at the Wayback Machine
  9. ^ "Earl of Errol Named in Divorce". The New York Times. 19 June 1928. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  10. ^ Woods, Judith. "Revealed: the White Mischief murderer". Retrieved 18 August 2017.
  11. ^ "HINTS EARL OF ERROLL WAS MURDER VICTIM; Doctor Finds Pistol Wound After Kenya Auto Accident". The New York Times. 28 January 1941. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  12. ^ "KENYA KILLING LAID TO TITLED OFFICER; Sir Delves Broughton Accused of Murder of Earl of Erroll After Fashionable Party MISSING PISTOLS HUNTED Younger Victim Had Escorted Bride of Suspect Home -Suicide 'Ruse' Rejected". The New York Times. 12 March 1941. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  13. ^ "EARL OF ERROLL SEEN AS A BRITISH FASCIST; Political Motive in His Murder Hinted as Kenya Trial Opens". The New York Times. 27 May 1941. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  14. ^ "FREED IN KENYA MURDER; Broughton Acquitted in 3 1/2 Hours of Killing Earl of Errol". The New York Times. 3 July 1941. Retrieved 8 June 2020.
  15. ^ TIMES, Special Cable to THE NEW YORK (19 November 1930). "TO WED AFTER 3 DIVORCES.; Idina, Countess of Erroll, Will Marry Donald Halderman". The New York Times. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  16. ^ TIMES, Wireless to THE NEW YORK (23 November 1930). "COUNTESS WEDS 4TH TIME; Divorced Wife of Earl of Erroll Marries Again in England". The New York Times. Retrieved 9 June 2020.
  17. ^ Osborne, Frances (2008). The Bolter. Vintage. pp. 368. ISBN 978-0-307-47642-5.
  18. ^ Fox, James (1988). White Mischief, The Murder of Lord Erroll. Vintage. pp. 328. ISBN 978-0-394-75687-5.