Mary Williams (activist)
Mary Luana Williams
|Born||October 13, 1967|
|Other names||Lulu Williams|
National Park Service Ranger
|Known for||The Lost Daughter: A Memoir|
|Parent(s)||Randy Williams |
|Relatives||Jane Fonda (adoptive mother)|
Tom Hayden (adoptive father)
Troy Garity (adoptive brother)
Mary Luana Williams (born October 13, 1967) is an American social activist and writer who wrote The Lost Daughter: A Memoir about her life. The memoir details being adopted by Jane Fonda and Tom Hayden in her adolescence, as well as growing up as a daughter of Black Panthers before Fonda adopted her. Mary works with Sudanese refugees through the organization she founded, the Lost Boys Foundation.
Mary Luana "Lulu" Williams was born on October 13, 1967, the fifth daughter to Randy and Mary Williams. Both of her parents were Black Panthers in the Black Power civil rights movement, an organization dedicated to stopping police brutality toward African-Americans, and helping African Americans who lacked employment, education, and healthcare. The family lived at the heart of the movement in East Oakland, California, during the height of the Vietnam War, Race riots and Civil Rights Movement, in an era Williams would later describe as "violent and frenzied". Mary's father Randy was a captain within the Panthers militaristic hierarchy and participated in the controversial Armed Citizens' Patrol, where Panthers would tail police and patrol neighborhoods, ready to defend any blacks they saw being threatened by police. In April 1970, Williams' father and other Panthers witnessed several police officers arresting four black marijuana suspects and they intervened, ambushing and wounding three of the officers before fleeing. Thirty patrol cars pursued them on a high speed car chase while the Panthers tried to discourage pursuit by throwing molotov cocktails. Randy Williams was apprehended, charged with assault with intent to murder and given a seven-year sentence at a Correctional Training Facility near Soledad, California. At the time, Mary was four. Her mother was left to care for Mary and her five siblings, eventually becoming physically abusive while descending into alcoholism. Williams's family further deteriorated when one of her siblings ran away and another turned to street prostitution as well as crack cocaine. Mary and her siblings were signed up for Laurel Springs Children’s Camp, a camp started by Fonda that was located on 160 acres near Santa Monica, California. She got to know Fonda while at the camp, and returned over successive years even when her siblings did not.
With aspirations to be an actor and escape Oakland, Williams went on an "open casting call" at age 14 at a theatre director's house. The man, named David, raped her. Over a number of weeks David continued the assaults, even driving to pick her up and take Mary back to his house. When he no longer wanted to be part of the "relationship" when school began again, Mary felt relieved and abandoned: "It took a long time for me to understand how it was that I had switched so quickly from a self-assured girl into a passive victim." After returning to Laurel Springs Children’s Camp the next summer, she eventually told counselors about the rape, who relayed that information to Fonda. Jane had a long heart-to-heart talk with Mary, and made her promise to tell her family about the rape, and said that if Mary worked on getting her grades up the next year, she could come to live with her for as long as she needed to. Mary stated, "I had given up on myself and my grades at school suffered, but Jane’s proposal renewed my interest in school. She threw me a lifeline and I grabbed it." In 1982, Mary moved in with Fonda at her Santa Monica home.
There was no formal discussion of adoption within the Fonda household. Troy Garity, Fonda's biological son with activist Tom Hayden, stated, "She just sort of came down [to live with us] and it was fine and happy for me because it was somebody that I had a connection with. She was older, which is always cool when you have a teenager who's actually listening to you!"
No formal adoption papers were drawn up, and on Williams's mother's blessing, she lived with Fonda for the rest of her adolescence and into young adulthood. She was raised with Vanessa Vadim and brother Troy as one of the children, with everyone involved feeling that she was part of the family. It took time for Mary to transition to the affluence of Fonda's world. Mary attended house parties with many celebrities, including Robert DeNiro, Oprah Winfrey, Quincy Jones, Desmond Tutu; Sophia Loren taught Mary how to cut ripe cactus.
Williams wrote The Lost Daughter: A Memoir about her life experiences, focusing on her life with two families. Kirkus Reviews called the book "A tender memoir of love and redemption" as well as "A compassionate tale of soul-searching and family love."
Mary worked as a fund-raiser for the International Rescue Committee in their Atlanta office. When she saw refugees coming in from Sudan, she developed a passion for working with them, eventually leaving her job with IRC in 2001 to work more closely with Sudanese refugees through her own organization.
Mary founded the Lost Boys Foundation, a group that works with the Lost Boys of Sudan to help them after they have been displaced by Sudan's wars and turbulence. At Mary's urging, writer Dave Eggers began talking to Valentino Achak Deng, a Sudanese refugee and member of the Lost Boys Foundation program, about Deng writing a memoir. The work eventually became What Is the What: The Autobiography of Valentino Achak Deng.
Mary was a supporter of Barack Obama when he was running for reelection as President of the United States in 2012. Writing from Buenos Aires, Argentina, Mary stated, "As a child of the Black Power Movement I can’t deny that I’m happy to see a Black man in the White House, but my politics are more than skin deep. The thought of entrusting our national environmental treasures to folks who only seek to exploit them keeps me up at night. I’m voting for Obama in November because we have too much to lose."
- "REASON 57: OBAMA INCREASED FUNDING FOR NATIONAL PARKS BY TEN PERCENT". 90 Days 90 Reasons. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- Williams, Mary. "Jane Fonda's Adopted Daughter Reconnects with Her Birth Family". Oprah. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- The Lost Daughter: A Memoir; Penguin Books; 2013; pgs 1-6
- "Jane Fonda's Adopted Daughter, Mary Williams, Shares Her Extraordinary Life Story". Parade. 9 Apr 2013. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- Williams, Mary (27 Apr 2013). "'The Lost Daughter': Adopted Daughter Recalls Life With Jane Fonda". Daily Beast. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- "Jane Fonda On Adopted Daughter Mary Williams: 'She Helped Me To Become Whole' (VIDEO)". Huffington Post. 15 Apr 2013. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- The Lost Daughter: A Memoir; Penguin Books; 2013; pgs 143-149
- "THE LOST DAUGHTER". Kirkus Reviews. 25 Feb 2013. Retrieved 19 January 2015.
- Rogers, Patrick (10 Jun 2002). "Southern Hospitality". People. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- "Lost and Found". Vol. 46, No. 12. Atlanta Magazine.
- Morrison, Sarah. "Dave Eggers helps Sudan's 'Lost Boys' get a fresh start at school". The Guardian. Retrieved 18 January 2015.
- Williams, Mary. Brothers in Hope: The Story of the Lost Boys of Sudan. Lee & Low Books. ISBN 978-1584302322.