"Not Over You" is a song by American recording artist Gavin DeGraw, released as the lead single from his fourth studio album, Sweeter, on May 17, 2011. The song was written by DeGraw and Ryan Tedder, and produced by Tedder. The song poignantly evokes the difficulty of getting over someone. It received a positive critical appreciation. The song has charted on the United States's Billboard chart and also in many European territories. It peaked at No. 18 on the Hot 100, making it DeGraw's most successful song on the chart since his breakout hit "I Don't Want to Be", becoming his fourth Top 40 hit. It is also his first song to reach the top spot on the Adult Pop Songs. The accompanying music video shows DeGraw coping with a heartbreak after a tough split with his lover, but he finds it hard to let her go.
The first single from singer-songwriter Gavin DeGraw's fourth album, Sweeter, was a collaboration with OneRepublic's lead singer and songwriter Ryan Tedder. According to "Songfacts", the pair initially met when they performed on the same bill and the two, both groove-minded piano players, decided to write together. Not Over You is one of two songs DeGraw co-wrote with Tedder for the LP. While talking about the collaboration with Tedder, Gavin told The Examiner: "“I think Ryan did a great job with featuring piano up front with the vocals.”"
"You create this scenario - you see them in your dreams and if you bumped into them, you would let them know that you're doing fine and you're past the breakup - but you'd be lying."
—Gavin DeGraw told AOL Music about the song meaning.
The song poignantly evokes the difficulty of getting over someone. "'Not Over You' is about trying to get past someone emotionally," DeGraw explained to AOL Music. DeGraw expanded on the song to AOL Music: "It's kind of riding that line between vulnerability and pride. You're saying 'If I saw you, even though I'm missing you, I wouldn't tell you I was missing you.' That may or may not be a masculine trait, but I do know it's prideful and vulnerable. I've been there, so that's why I got behind the song, and I know a lot of people have been there too, it's just real. You don't always have to be romantic - sometimes it's important to just be real." Scott Schelter from "Pop Crush" realized that "The song finds DeGraw in a seriously depressed place. He sings about listening to the radio while staring at a picture of his ex and wishing they could still be together." It features a jangly piano and artificial drum beat.
Scott Schelter wrote a very positive review for "Pop Crush", writing that "the music manages to stay vibrant thanks to lively drums and DeGraw’s keys. While commenting that "the hook is a bit more thoughtful and complex than many choruses in pop music." Emily Exton wrote for "Pop Dust" that "“Not Over You” is standard DeGraw fare: introspective tales from the nice guy, with a piano-driven melody, becoming catchy to the point of delirium." Ken Capobianco wrote for Boston Globe that the song is "a manipulative slice of mope pop." Andy Baber of musicOMH wrote that "Its slick production and niggly technical effects clearly align the song with Teddar’s previous work, yet DeGraw’s excessively worded chorus comes across as awkward and emotionally faux."
A screen capture from the four minute music video, where DeGraw is pictured on the right singing the song emotionally into a microphone while playing the piano with a band, and the band's drum is pictured on the left.
The music video was released on his page on YouTube/VEVO on June 28, 2011. It features shots of DeGraw and his love interest (played by Marjorie Levesque) being separate from one another throughout much of the video in various parts of the city, but meeting and kissing in the end. The video has garnered over 17 million views on YouTube/Vevo.
The video begins with DeGraw lost in thought and in full search of his girlfriend from the past. Later, the girl is shown watering plants. Suddenly, the shot goes to a split screen of her and the heartbroken man. The video continues with the split shots periodically, bouncing back and forth from two DeGraws to two of the girl scouting around town. In comparing the split screen images, it becomes evident that DeGraw is on this girl’s mind, too, as they seem to be doing the same things at the same time, only in different places. She finally gets the nerve to go to his place, but unfortunately, it is just a minute after he has left home looking for her. By the end, the girl runs off into the streets and bumps into him, and they share an emotional embrace and decide to get back together.