In legal definitions for interpersonal status, a single person is someone who is unmarried, not in a serious, committed relationship or not part of a civil union. In common usage, the term 'single' is often used to refer to someone who is not involved in any type of serious romantic relationship, including long-term dating, engagement, marriage, or someone who is 'single by choice'. Single people may participate in dating and other activities to find a long-term partner or spouse.
Reasons people remain single
People may remain single for a variety of reasons, including (but not limited to):
- Financial duress
- Their mental health
- Pursuing educational or professional advancement
- Lack of suitable partners
- Changes in perceptions of the necessity of marriage
- Dedication to religions orders that do not allow for marriage
- In some cases, single people may be uninterested in marriage, domestic partnership, or other types of committed relationships.
- Traumatic experiences including domestic violence, dysfunctional family, rape and/or sexual assault
- The increasing trend of marrying later in life and cohabitation
Some single people regard and appreciate solitude as an opportunity. Some people stay single by choice. In addition to choosing singleness as a preferential option, there are also those who choose not to marry for religious reasons. These religious traditions include:
- The Christian monastics cultures of Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, and Coptism
- The specific Buddhist monastic traditions
Single culture in specific countries
According to the United States Bureau of the Census, the fastest-growing household type since the 1980s has been the single person. Previously both socially uncommon and unaccepted due to perceived roles, public awareness, modern socioeconomic factors and increasingly available popular and lengthier education and careers have made the single lifestyle a viable option for many Americans, especially after the Vietnam War.
According the United States Bureau of the Census, in 2016 single adult counted for over 45% of the US population. Sixty-Five Percent of this group had never been married. In 2014, Pew Research Center notes that the highest percentage of never married adults between White, Black, Hispanic and Asian Americans were Black Americans. The same study also projected that about 25% of millennials may not get married.
Similar to the United States, single-person households have been seen to be increasingly popular in the United Kingdom. In the 2000s, studies found that more citizens were seen to be valuing their career over personal relationships. The increase in single-person households was also partly attributed to the high self-esteem it can offer to some people.
In Japan, it is not uncommon for citizens to choose to remain single. This has been illustrated with many public figures and celebrities. Women typically value friendships over romantic relationships; many continue to have jobs and marry later, or forego marriage completely.
In South Korea an unoffical holiday called Black Day is observed on 14 April each year by and for single people. Singles who did not receive gifts on Valentine's Day or White Day meet dressed in black and eat jajangmyeon, noodles covered in black bean paste. The dish is one of South Korea’s national foods, and is considered a comfort food.
Terminology for singleness vary. The variation usually based on gender, language, and country. Generally singles can be categorized by the following terms: never married, separated, divorced, and widowed.
Terms used to describe single men are seldom used, and carry positive connotations. Single men are often simply referred to as bachelors.
The English language has more terms for single, unwed women. These terms typically carry a negative connotation. Single women are sometimes called bachelorettes, especially in festive contexts in American English. However, the historic term for unwed women is spinster. The connotations of the word spinster have changed so much over time that it is now considered a derogatory term. The Oxford English Dictionary says in its usage notes for the word:
- The development of the word spinster is a good example of the way in which a word acquires strong connotations to the extent that it can no longer be used in a neutral sense. From the 17th century the word was appended to names as the official legal description of an unmarried woman: Elizabeth Harris of London, Spinster. This type of use survives today in some legal and religious contexts. In modern everyday English, however, spinster cannot be used to mean simply ‘unmarried woman’; it is now always a derogatory term, referring or alluding to a stereotype of an older woman who is unmarried, childless, prissy, and repressed.
Though spinster has a long history of being negative, there are some authors, such as Katie Bolick, that are trying to change the word's connotation into something positive. Additionally, the phrase Old Maid is used to describe an unmarried women.
In Japan, men that have no interest in getting married are called Sōshoku(-kei) danshi (草食(系)男子 ) or Herbivore men. This term also describes as young men who have lost their "manliness".
Relationship status and health
Being single, like being in a relationship, affects people's health. People have different perspectives on the ways in which relationship status influences health.
According to researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, "Being single is not good for your health and lifespan". Being single makes it easier for people to lose connection to others. Lack of social relationships will cause people to gradually lose self-identity, support and purpose according to psychology professor Peggy A. Thoits at Indiana University. In a recent[when?] survey "There are 32 percent higher rates of early death in single men compared to married men. While single women have 23 percent higher rates of death compared to married women" report by the American Journals of Epidemiology Study. Researchers explained that single people experience more emotional factors that cause them to die sooner. Regarding a recent[when?] Harvard study "Socially isolated men have an 82 percent higher risk of dying from heart disease". A peer-reviewed study also suggests that single people have a higher mortality rate after major surgery than married couples.
A study that compared attachment patterns of long-term singles and coupled adults found that compared to coupled participants single people reported "higher levels of loneliness, depression, anxiety and sexual dissatisfaction".
People who support being single have different opinions on it, pointing out that not all marriages are created equally. Healthy people, with psychological well being, have happy relationships with their partners. In contrast, unhappy marriages will have the opposite effect, “A bad marriage can make a person feel more isolated than being single” according to a sociologist professor Eric Klinenber at New York University. Another study of more than 10,000 adults found that married couples were more likely to gain weight during their process of romantic ventures than single people. In other words, married couples have a higher risk of weight gain that may be large enough to pose a health risk, report by a professor of sociology Zhenchao Qian, at Ohio State University.
Dating services are an especially targeted and advertised service for singles. The growth of the dating services and dating events industry has been so drastic that the phrase "dating–industrial complex" (reminiscent of President Dwight D. Eisenhower's term "military industrial complex") has been coined to capture the amount of money and manpower devoted to dating services for singles.
Singles events have been an area of particular growth in singles-related commerce. Many events are aimed at singles of particular affiliations, interest, or religions. Some of the most strongly attended such events are the Christmas Eve party targeted at young Jewish singles in major cities in North America, particularly the Matzo Ball and its big city competitors. A variety of other religious organizations' singles events are also very popular. However, dating via religious-sponsored singles events has also been criticized for fostering invasion of daters' privacy and undue expectations.
Also there is a Single Supplement that adds extra fees to those traveling alone.
In some countries, particular laws may directly or indirectly disadvantage single persons. In the United States, for example, Social Security widow(er) benefits are only available to those persons who have been previously married, and single people in the United States pay more income taxes than married people. In many countries tour and holiday operators impose a penalty (often as much as 100%) on persons who travel alone.
Older singles are also a targeted market, for much the same reasons. They are typically divorcees or widowed, perhaps reconciled to being single for the rest of their lives, and looking to make the most of what remains to them. Their children, if any, will typically be financially independent. They may, or may not, be looking for another relationship. They also are heavily targeted by marketers. There is a whole industry dedicated to making unsolicited telephone calls to this group in the hope of exploiting the ones who are unable to distinguish between the honest and the dishonest.
Film and television shows about singleness and single adults
- Living Single
- Sex and the City
- How to Be Single
- The Golden Girls
- The Single Moms Club
- Bridget Jones's Diary
Literature about singleness and single adults
- Bridget Jones's Diary
- Single Life: Unmarried Adults in Social Context
- Single: Arguments for the Uncoupled
- Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone
- All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation
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