Susan Murphy-Milano

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Susan Murphy-Milano
BornSusan Murphy
Chicago, Illinois, U.S.
DiedOctober 28, 2012 (aged 52)[1]
Folly Beach, South Carolina, U.S.
OccupationAuthor, radio host, victims advocate
Nationality United States
GenreNonfiction, radio
SubjectDomestic violence, true crime
Notable worksTime's Up
Moving Out, Moving On
Notable awardsWomen's Hall of Fame
Public Citizen of the Year
Women with Vision

Susan Murphy-Milano (1959/1969 — October 28, 2012)[2] was an American nonfiction author, violence expert and host of the weekly radio crime show "Time's Up" and author of a book by the same title.[3] Murphy-Milano died in Surfside Beach, South Carolina, in 2012, aged 52, from cancer.[2][4]

Early life and education[edit]

Murphy-Milano was born in Chicago, Illinois to parents Roberta and Phillip Murphy, a police officer. She graduated from William Howard Taft High School.[5] She attended the University of Chicago from 1978 to 1981.

In January 1989,[6] her father, a decorated Chicago Police violent crimes investigator,[7] murdered his wife, her mother, Roberta, using his service weapon, a .44 magnum. He then committed suicide by shooting himself in the head.[8]


Murphy-Milano, who discovered her parents' bodies, vowed to change the way intimate partner crimes and homicides were handled and investigated.[9] She spent her career advocating for women and child victims of domestic violence.[10][11] A women's advocate, she lobbied for the passage of 1993's Illinois Stalking Law[12] and the Lautenberg Amendment of 1996, a domestic violence offender gun ban.

Murphy-Milano authored Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe, published by Doubleday, released in September 1996 to coincide with National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.[13]

Her second book, Moving Out, Moving On, focused on when a relationship goes wrong. Her latest book, released by the publishing on demand publisher Dog Ear Press in 2010, is Times Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships. Author and former prosecutor Robin Sax, in a review for Psychology Today, wrote about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit included in the book. "Murphy Milano reaches out and offers her hand -- with a key (almost literally). Thank you to Murphy-Milano for giving us ... a succinct, well-written guidebook that is a must-have for anyone who is a victim or who works with victims of domestic abuse."[14] As of June 2012, WorldCat shows the book to be present in 13 libraries.[15]

She appeared on network TV and talk shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show,[16] 20/20, American Justice, Larry King Live, Sunday Today, E! True Hollywood, MSNBC, CBS, ABC, and CNN. She regularly appeared on The Roth Show,[17] a syndicated show on the USA Radio Network, hosted by Dr. Laurie Roth, and was a regular contributor to TRUE CRIME UNCENSORED, hosted by Burl Barer.

She was a contributing writer for Women in Crime Ink, which the Wall Street Journal called "a blog worth reading."[18]

Murphy-Milano often spoke to law enforcement, at schools and before groups advocating victims' rights.[19] Also, she worked with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education.[20]

Her biography, Holding My Hand Through Hell, released by Ice Cube Press in October 2012, shortly before her death.


  • Women with Vision award for Community Service (The Women's Bar Association of Illinois), 1997[21]
  • Women's Hall of Fame (City of Chicago), inducted in 1999
  • Public Citizen of the Year Award (National Association of Social Workers Illinois Chapter)[22]


  1. ^ "Printable Coloring Pages - Free Printable Coloring Sheets". Printable Coloring Pages.
  2. ^ a b Scared Monkeys Radio, "Daily Commentary: Susan Murphy-Milano Loses Her Long Battle With Cancer", October 30, 2012.
  3. ^ book listing, Time's Up: How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships Guide, Dog Ear Publishing
  4. ^ Obituary, Accessed October 26, 2022.
  5. ^ "Vol. XXIX, No. 1" (PDF). Taft Alumni Newsletter. December 2013.
  6. ^ O'Connor, Matt (October 24, 1990). "FIGHTING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE". Retrieved October 26, 2022.
  7. ^ O'Brien, Edward Baumann and John (October 12, 1987). "TRAIL'S END". Retrieved October 26, 2022.
  8. ^ Tribune, Chicago (January 20, 1989). "COP, ESTRANGED WIFE ARE FOUND DEAD".
  9. ^ Jackson, David (March 29, 1991). "POLICE BRUTALITY OFTEN BEGINS AT HOME".
  10. ^ "Susan Murphy-Milano, Intimate-Abuse/Cold-Case Crime Expert, and iAscend's Pamela Chapman Lock Arms for the Greater Cause". Retrieved October 26, 2022.
  11. ^ Miller, Bryan (August 12, 1993). "Life Saver". Chicago Reader.
  12. ^ Becker, Robert; Pelton, Tom (December 17, 1994). "STALKER-LAW TARGET ARRESTED IN ASSAULT".
  13. ^ "Nonfiction Book Review: Defending Our Lives: Getting Away from Domestic Violence & Staying Safe by Susan Murphy-Milano, Author Anchor Books $14.95 (256p); ISBN 978-0-385-48441-1".
  14. ^ "Murphy Milano's Exceptional Victims Handbook is Here!". Psychology Today.
  15. ^ Murphy-Milano, Susan (January 20, 2019). Time's up: how to escape abusive and stalking relationships guide. Dog Ear Pub. OCLC 611542832 – via Open WorldCat.
  16. ^ "Susan Murphy Milano's Journal: Oprah Asks the Question". January 2, 2011.
  17. ^ The Dr. Laurie Roth Show Archived 2012-04-15 at the Wayback Machine
  18. ^ Bright, Beckey (June 2, 2009). "Blog Watch". Wall Street Journal. Retrieved October 29, 2012.
  19. ^ WBTW South Carolina Now (, "Bestselling author Murphy-Milano to speak at CCU," April 12, 2011 Archived February 2, 2013, at
  20. ^ "Your Recovery Starts Here -". April 29, 2016.
  21. ^ JPD Women With Vision Subcommittee, list of recipients Archived 2010-06-11 at the Wayback Machine
  22. ^ Carmi Times, "Citizen of the Year Nominations" (scroll down for past recipients) Archived 2012-03-21 at the Wayback Machine

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