True Love Waits

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True Love Waits (TLW) is an international Christian group that promotes sexual abstinence outside of marriage for teenagers and college students. TLW was created in April, 1993 by the Southern Baptists,[1] and is sponsored by LifeWay Christian Resources. It is based on conservative Christian views of human sexuality that require one to be faithful to one's husband or wife.


The True Love Waits pledge states: "Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually abstinent from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship." In addition, they promote sexual purity, which encompasses not only abstaining from intercourse before marriage, but also abstaining from sexual thoughts, sexual touching, pornography, and actions that are known to lead to sexual arousal.

By the late 1990s, Christian music groups were promoting the program, and events similar to youth rallies were held at Christian music concerts,[2] providing an opportunity for adolescents to sign pledge cards.


In the first year of the campaign, over 102,000 young people signed the pledge, which was also taken up by other church groups including the Roman Catholic Church and Assemblies of God. The campaign has continued to spread across the US, making the use of occasions such as Valentine's Day to gain attention.[3]

As of 2004, groups supporting abstinence numbered in the hundreds. During the previous decade, approximately 2.5 million American youth took the pledge of abstinence.[4]


The efficacy of the program has been questioned not only by studies, but also by contemporary Christian music artists who previously supported the cause.

A a 2003 study showing that 6 out of 10 college students who had taken the pledge had broken it, and of the 40% who identified themselves as abstaining from intercourse, 55% acknowledged having participated in oral sex.[5] In the 2011 book Making Chastity Sexy: The Rhetoric of Evangelical Abstinence Campaigns, Christine Gardner criticizes True Love Waits[6] for "using sex to sell abstinence" by promising more satisfying sexual activity within marriage for those who abstain from premarital sex; she argues that this rhetoric reinforces selfish desires for gratification, sets people up for divorce and dissatisfaction with marriage, and simply adapts "secular forms for religious ends".[7]

Nikki Leonti was involved in True Love Waits prior to making headlines in the contemporary Christian music world. At 18, however, she was pregnant after having sex with Ryan Gingerich out of wedlock. This led the couple to immediately marry in the fall of 1999 upon learning about the pregnancy. The newlyweds, however, divorced by the time Nikki reached her twenty-second birthday in 2003.[8]

BarlowGirl was famous and for and very vocal about its purity stances, which led to the sister trio supporting True Love Waits and other similar initiatives. Since 2016, however, Lauren Barlow commented favorably on mainstream musician Lady Gaga,[9][10] known for her mixed reception in the Christian community[11] and even previously accused of immodest dress by Barlow herself.[12] Gaga's influence dates back to the BarlowGirl and Superchick live tour in 2009, where Superchick covered a portion of "Just Dance".[13]

The Jonas Brothers wore purity rings, but only Kevin followed through his pledge by marrying Danielle Deleasa on December 19, 2009. Joe reveals that a scandal in his Assemblies of God congregation when he was 14 caused his family to leave the church and made him upset with religion. He and Nick lost their virginity at age 20, despite being unmarried.[14] Joe shared: "People were [chaste because of] us [โ€ฆ] And we just thought, No! That's not what we're about".[15] Joe attended the Victoria's Secret Pink spring break party in 2012.[16] Meanwhile, Nick performed at the Victoria's Secret Swim Special 2016.[17]

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  1. ^ Guilty Pleasures: Religion and Sex Among American University Students, Huffington Post, July 20, 2010
  2. ^ Price, Deborah Evans (5 July 1997). "Crosse walks many miles to support new reunion set". Billboard. 109 (27): 9โ€“12. ISSN 0006-2510. 
  3. ^ True Love Waits achieves Valentine's Day presence, The Washington Times, February 15, 1997
  4. ^ "How effective are abstinence pledges?". BBC News. 29 June 2004. Retrieved 10 May 2012. 
  5. ^ Boles, Janet K. and Diane Long Hoeveler (2004). Historical Dictionary of Feminism. Scarecrow Press. p. 362. ISBN 9780810849464. 
  6. ^ Hennie Weiss (March 27, 2012). "Review - Making Chastity Sexy". Metapsychology Online Reviews. 16 (13). Retrieved March 21, 2013. 
  7. ^ Sarah Pulliam Bailey (November 18, 2011). "The Rhetoric of Chastity: Making Abstinence Sexy". Christianity Today. Retrieved March 21, 2013. 
  8. ^ "Nikki Leonti Biography". Retrieved 2011-12-15. 
  9. ^ Barlow, Lauren (February 7, 2016). "Tweet". Twitter. Retrieved November 16, 2016. Man, Lady Gaga can SING!!! 
  10. ^ Barlow, Lauren (February 5, 2017). "Photo". Instagram. Retrieved February 6, 2017. SO MANY FEELINGS DURING THIS GAME!!! The first half almost killed me. Then @ladygaga blew my mind. THEN THIS! I felt all the feelings tonight. God bless the SuperBowl. ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿฆ„ 
  11. ^ Chretien, Claire (February 3, 2017). "Lady Gaga: Super Bowl halftime show will promote 'inclusion,' 'spirit of equality'". LifeSiteNews. Retrieved February 6, 2017. 
  12. ^ Barlow, Lauren (December 7, 2010). "Yes, I have a serious side.. Consider yourself warned :)". Archived from the original on December 7, 2010. Retrieved May 20, 2017. Oh, and you couldn't pay us a billion dollars to wear a bikini. [โ€ฆ] It makes me so sad that we think its [sic] ok for a woman to be half naked or literally totally naked on the cover of magazines and we don't bat an eye. 
  13. ^ Ramirez, Tommy (September 26, 2009). "BarlowGirl and Superchick bring their show to the Quad Cities". Retrieved May 20, 2017. 
  14. ^ Oshmyansky, Rosalyn (April 28, 2015). "Nick Jonas Reveals One Regret About Losing His Virginity". Entertainment Tonight. Retrieved February 3, 2017. 
  15. ^ Lee, Morgan (December 2, 2013). "Joe Jonas Talks About Relationship With God, Frustration With Purity Rings in Raw, Revealing Interview". Retrieved January 16, 2015. 
  16. ^ "Joe Jonas Parties On Spring Break In Miami". Hollywood Life. March 26, 2012. Retrieved February 3, 2017. 
  17. ^ "'Victoria's Secret Swim Special' will return to CBS in March". Entertainment Weekly's Retrieved 17 October 2016. 

Further reading[edit]

  • Virgin Nation: Sexual Purity and American Adolescence by Sara Moslener, Oxford University Press, 2015.

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