Wax play is a form of temperature play practiced in a BDSM context. The idea of wax play is to introduce a slight burning sensation to the skin.
This is considered a moderately advanced form of play, and most people skip it. If done wrong, wax play can cause burns severe enough to require medical attention. Not to mention, most people aren’t too experienced with handling live fire. Wax play also has a bad reputation from being abused by the same sort of people who end up on the newspaper front page every single July 4 because they just cannot follow instructions on fireworks. So this is the kind of play that if you do it at all, you’d better know it in depth.
Common Candle Types
- Paraffin Candles which typically melt at around 135 F.
- Beeswax Candles which commonly melt at around 145 F.
- Soy Candles which commonly melt at around 130 F.
There are many more varieties, and there are considerations beyond just the wax. Things like dye, oils, and scents will also increase the melting point. Further considerations are allergies and health. Paraffin wax is the most likely to cause skin irritation as it is made from petroleum, this also means it is quite carcinogenic since it contains compounds like Benzene. Candles made from beeswax and soy are less likely to cause irritation, and are considered to be non-carcinogenic.
Different types of candles and different crock pot temperatures produce different temperatures of wax that can range from warm and soothing to dangerously hot wax. There is significant difference between individuals' tolerance for heat, which can vary depending on exactly where the wax is applied.
Wax can splatter into the eyes. Wax can cause injury by slipping onto hard surfaces such as a floor made of concrete or wrought iron. Wax that is too hot can cause serious burns. Crock pots and wax therapy spas almost always have heat controls, not temperature controls; temperature will vary over time. Wax may be difficult to remove, particularly from areas with hair. A flea comb or a sharp knife may be necessary for wax removal; use of a knife for this purpose requires special skills, though a plastic card can work as well. Applying mineral oil or lotion before play can make wax removal easier.
Wax may pool and concentrate heat. Temperatures listed above only apply when wax is in equilibrium. Wax heated in any sort of pot must be stirred vigorously or there can be dangerous temperature variations. Some people may be allergic to perfumes and dyes. Whatever is above a burning candle can get very hot, even at distances that may be surprising. Candles may break and set fire to objects underneath or nearby. Wax is difficult to wash out of clothes and bed linens. People with certain diseases, skin conditions, or taking certain medications may require additional precautions. The page on waxing for hair removal has additional safety considerations.
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