Allegory of the long spoons
In hell the people are unable to lift food to their mouths using such unwieldy cutlery, and are starving. In heaven, the diners feed one another across the table and are sated. The story can encourage people to be kind to each other. There are various interpretations of the fable including its use in sermons and in advice to lonely people.
The story suggests that people have the opportunity to use what they are given (the long spoons in this allegory) to help nourish each other, but the problem, as Haim astutely points out, lies in how the people treat each other.
Given the same level playing field one group of people who treat each other well will create a pleasant environment. Whereas another group of people, given exactly the same tools to work with, can create unpleasant conditions simply by how they treat each other. Writer Dawn Eden suggests that this is a simple truth which can be easily forgotten by lonely people unable to see their situation clearly. She argues that such situations can be improved by reaching out to others.
Use in conflict resolution
The long spoons allegory has become part of the folklore of several cultures, for example: Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist, Oriental and Christian. During conflict resolution in non-Western cultures[which?] communicating difficult truths is better through a third party who can make suggestions through such stories.
Art and popular culture
While the parable itself is seldom depicted in art, it is well known and used in sermons when referring to hell, where the fashion for depicting hell in terrible, painful, gruesome terms is fading in recent times.
- "There's a fable that's a staple of sermons, about the man who receives from God a glimpse of hell and a glimpse of heaven." ~ Dawn Eden
A scene in the 2013 thriller The East, draws strong comparisons to the allegory of the long spoons when protagonist Sarah is depicted as selfish for neglecting to feed her adjacent diner, whilst in a straight jacket.
- Jewish folklore
- World peace
- Towards a Global Ethic: An Initial Declaration
- The Golden Rule
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