Blind date

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A blind date is a social engagement between two persons who have not previously met, usually arranged by a mutual acquaintance.[1]

Structure[edit]

A blind date is arranged for by a mutual acquaintance of both participants, whether that person be a friend of both persons or a family member of one. The two persons who take part in the blind date have never met or seen each other, thus the name blind date. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the person who arranges the date to ensure that they are a good match. Sometimes one person is more interested in the match than the other, which may make it more difficult on the person arranging the date to judge whether the date will be successful.[2]

The date is usually two hours or less, as it is just a first date and is really meant to introduce the two people more than it is meant to create a marriage.[3] Furthermore, due to the unfamiliarity of the two people the date is shorter than most because they are in the beginning stages of a relationship. The date is also very adventurous in the way that neither party knows what to expect and whether or not they will hit it off. The location of the date is also affected by the spontaneity in that it is often a neutral and public place so that both parties feel comfortable.

Trends[edit]

Online dating[edit]

Main article: Online dating service

Family and grade school have been declining in their influence over the dating market for the past 60 years. In the past 15 years, the rise of the Internet has also displaced the neighborhood, the workplace, and the circle of friends as sources of dating partners.[4] As of May 2013, it was estimated that 11% of adult Americans had used online dating websites or mobile dating applications, and 59% of American Internet users agreed that online dating was a good way to meet people.[5] China's largest online dating site reported over 100 million users in September 2013.[6] However, for couples that have been together for more than a year, the choice of venue (online vs. real life) had little influence on relationship success.[4]

Online dating services do the same thing that friends used to do - ask questions in the form of a survey in order to get to know the user better as a person and to understand what they are looking for in a relationship.[7] Then the online service will find matching users based on various algorithms. The users are enabled to communicate with each other, often after they sign up for the service at a cost.

Online dating has seen much success in recent years. “17% of couples married in the last 3 years, or 1 in 6, met each other on an online dating site” and “1 out of 5 single people have dated someone they met on an online dating site”.[8] This is according to a study done by Match.com in an effort to determine how much impact their services are having on the way relationships develop today.

Finally, there are thousands of online dating websites, however, eHarmony has the most participants with 20 million profiles and Match.com has the second most profiles with 15 million.[9]

In popular culture[edit]

Shown in entertainment[edit]

Television[edit]

  • Parental Control - An MTV reality show where parents pick two dates for their son or daughter. The parents ask the candidates a series of questions in order to pick the best two. After each of the dates the son or daughter chooses whether they would like to stay with their current significant other or if they would like to start a new relationship with one of the blind dates.[10]
  • Blind Date - An American dating game show that aired in syndication from September 1999 to September 2006. Hosted by Roger Lodge, the series was distributed by Universal Worldwide Television. It was later distributed by NBCUniversal. One couple who met on Blind Date in 2005/2006 is still together. @RealityTVCouple Reality TV Legend Steven C. Barber appeared on Blind Date for a fourth time with TV News Anchor Tamara Henry and the couple went on to appear in more than 20 reality TV shows, secretly living out their entire romantic life on reality TV. Their reality TV wedding is now planned for 2015. RealityTVCouple.com
  • The Choice - an American television show where male celebrities sit with their backs facing a stage. The female contestants then have a specific amount of time on stage to win the affection of the male celebrities. If the men are interested, they turn their chairs. At the end of each show, the men choose a woman to go on a date with.[11]
  • The Dating Game - A game show created by Chuck Barris where a single woman would sit on one side of a wall and three bachelors would sit on the other side. Each male participant would answer questions from the woman and at the end of the show, she would choose a candidate to go on a blind date with. This game even prompted its own board game line. [12]
  • The Bachelor - An American television show which started in 2002 where a single man goes on blind dates with 25 women who wish to become his wife. The women live together in one household and are competing in an elimination game for a rose, an invitation from the bachelor to stay another week. This show has prompted other spin-off shows like The Bachelorette and Bachelor Pad.[13]
  • Seinfeld- In the episode "The Fix-Up", George says that he would never sink to fix-ups, saying that a fix-up is one step away from prostitution or personal ads (However, in The Race he replies to a personal ad in the Daily Worker). Jerry and Elaine set George up with Elaine's friend Cynthia."[citation needed]

Movies[edit]

Theatre[edit]

International blind dating[edit]

Korea[edit]

Korean blind dating customs are preferred rather than other dating techniques. There are two kinds of blind dates in Korea: “mee-ting” and “sogeting”.[16] Mee-ting blind dates are group dates with no prior expectations of commitment, and are often used by university students. A sogeting date usually includes less alcohol than a mee-ting date. It is also engaged in by people who are “single and looking”.[16]

Popular Chinese practice[edit]

Parents find their children blind dates in parks. “Spouse-hunting fairs in big city parks organized by parents eager to see their children tie the knot have made parks in China a haven for relationship hunters and their parents” .[17] Zhongshan Park has been the location for six years where parents go to seek partners for their children. This process begins by the parents sitting on a bench with their child’s credentials, such as photos and academic or career information. After information has been exchanged and the parents like what they see, questions are asked about anything ranging from their child’s zodiac sign to their place of residence. If everything runs smoothly during the second step, contact information is exchanged. This process altogether can be very stressful for the parents and the child because they are not always in agreement. This makes it even more difficult for a partner to be found. Li, a middle-aged man who has experienced blind dating says he has met women “who have no intention of finding a boyfriend. Meeting me is merely to indulge their parents”.[18]

See also[edit]

References[edit]

  1. ^ http://www.thefreedictionary.com/blind+date
  2. ^ "Light My Route of Blind Dating". MetaFilter. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  3. ^ Molloy, Angela. "5 Rules for Great Blind Dates". TheStreet. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  4. ^ a b Rosenfeld, Michael J.; Reuben J. Thomas (2012). "Searching for a Mate: The Rise of the Internet as a Social Intermediary". American Sociological Review. 77 4: 523–547. Retrieved 6 December 2013. 
  5. ^ "Online Dating & Relationships". Pew Research Center. October 21, 2013. 
  6. ^ "Gong Haiyan: China's number one matchmaker". BBC News. 10 September 2013. Retrieved 6 December 2013. 
  7. ^ Discovery Channel. "How do online dating sites match people up?". Discovery Communications. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  8. ^ (2010). Match.com and Chadwick Martin Bailey 2009 - 2010 Studies: Recent Trends: Online Dating Retrieved from http://cp.match.com/cppp/media/CMB_Study.pdf
  9. ^ "Online Dating Statistics: How Many People Date Online?". OnlineDatingdvd. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  10. ^ http://www.mtv.com/shows/parental_control/series.jhtml
  11. ^ Levin, Gary (2 May 2012). "Fox's celeb 'blind'-date spin on 'The Voice': 'The Choice'". USA Today. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  12. ^ http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058795/plotsummary
  13. ^ http://abc.go.com/shows/the-bachelor/about-the-show
  14. ^ http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092666/
  15. ^ Shenton, Mark. "Playbill - Blind Date". Retrieved 23 May 2013. 
  16. ^ a b Kim, Violet. "Korea: The land of freaky, funny love". CNN. Retrieved 19 November 2012. 
  17. ^ LI, L. (2010). "Truly Blind Dating".. Beijing Review, 53(26), 24. Retrieved from http://ehis.ebscohost.com/eds/detail?sid=d1c944ff-46ac-41a3-b74f-7879dbe4ec49%40sessionmgr113&vid=1&hid=103&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWRzLWxpdmU%3d#db=a9h&AN=51907167
  18. ^ LI, L. (2010). "Truly Blind Dating".  . Beijing Review, 53(26), 24. Retrieved from http://ehis.ebscohost.com/eds/detail?sid=d1c944ff-46ac-41a3-b74f-7879dbe4ec49%40sessionmgr113&vid=1&hid=103&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWRzLWxpdmU%3d#db=a9h&AN=51907167