Broken heart
A broken heart (or heartbreak) is a common metaphor used to describe the intense i [[psycholog ical pain|emotional pain]] or suffering one feels after losing a loved one, through death, divorce, moving, being dumped, or other means. It is an extremely old and widespread metaphor that dates back to at least the time of the Ramayana where it was commonly used.[1]
Heartbreak is usually associated with losing a spouse or loved one, though losing a parent, child, pet, or close friend can also "break one's heart". The phrase refers to the physical pain one may feel in the chest as a result of the loss. Although the heart obviously is not harmed by the feeling, there is a condition (appropriately known as Broken Heart Syndrome) where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue.".[citation needed]
Philosophical views
For many people having a broken heart is something that may not be recognized at first, as it takes time for an emotional or physical loss to be fully acknowledged. As Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson states:
Human beings are not always aware of what they are feeling. Like animals, they may not be able to put their feelings into words. This does not mean they have no feelings. Sigmund Freud once speculated that a man could be in love with a woman for six years and not know it until many years later. Such a man, with all the goodwill in the world, could not have verbalized what he did not know. He had the feelings, but he did not know about them. It may sound like a paradox — paradoxical because when we think of a feeling, we think of something that we are consciously aware of feeling. As Freud put it in his 1915 article The Unconscious: "It is surely of the essence of an emotion that we should be aware of it.' Yet it is beyond question that we can 'have' feelings that we do not know about."[2]
In classical references
- This biblical reference highlights the issues of pain surrounding a broken heart:
- Psalm 69:20 Insults have broken my heart and left me weak, I looked for sympathy but there was none; I found no one to comfort me.
In this Psalm, King David says that insults that have broken his heart, not loss or pain. It is also popular belief that rejection, major or minor, can break an individual's heart. This heartbreak can be greatly increased if rejected by a loved one or someone whom you respect.
In many legends and fictional tales, characters die after suffering a devastating loss (see above - King Lear). But even in reality people die from what appears to be a broken heart. Broken heart syndrome is commonly blamed for the death of a person whose spouse is already deceased, but the cause is not always so clear-cut. The condition can be triggered by sudden emotional stress caused by a traumatic breakup, the death of a loved one, or even the shock of a surprise party.[3] Broken Heart syndrome is clinically different from a heart attack because the patients have few risk factors for heart disease and were previously healthy prior to the heart muscles weakening. The recovery rates for those suffering from "broken heart syndrome" are faster than those who had heart attacks and complete recovery to the heart was achieved within two weeks.[4]
Symptoms
The symptoms of a "broken heart" can manifest themselves through psychological pain but for many the effect is physical. Although the experience is regarded commonly as indescribable, the following is a list of common symptoms that occur:
- A perceived tightness of the chest, similar to an anxiety attack
- Stomach ache and/or loss of appetite
- Partial or complete insomnia
- Anger
- Shock
- Nostalgia
- Apathy (loss of interest)
- Feelings of loneliness
- Feelings of hopelessness and despair
- Loss of self-respect and/or self-esteem
- Medical or psychological illness (for example depression)
- Suicidal thoughts (in extreme cases)
- Nausea
- Denial
- Fatigue
- The thousand-yard stare
- Constant or frequent crying
- A feeling of complete emptiness
See also
- Anger
- Stress cardiomyopathy
- Heart
- Heart (symbol)
- Emptiness
- Limerence
- Love
- Loneliness
- Grief
- Suffering
- Physical pain
- Psychological pain
- Interpersonal relationship
- Intimate relationship
- Depression
References
- ^ Book 4 of 6, page 105.
- ^ Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson, General McCarthy: When Elephants Weep: The Emotional Lives of Animals ISBN 0-385-31428-0
- ^ "Study Suggests You Can Die of a Broken Heart". Washington Post. February 10 2005. Retrieved 2006-09-23.
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