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That's Not What I MEANT! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships
AuthorDeborah Tannen
LanguageEnglish
Subjectrelationships
Genrenon-fiction
PublisherBallantine Books
Publication date
March 12, 1987
Published in English
March 12, 1987
Pages224
ISBN978-0-345-34090-0

That's Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships is Deborah Tannen's first book presenting, for a general audience, her linguistic approach to explaining how ways of speaking affect relationships. Predating by four years her phenomenally bestselling book about gender differences in ways of speaking, You Just Don't Understand, this short book approaches communication and miscommunication from a linguistic point of view rather than a psychological one, emphasizing differences between the genders. This book lays out the linguistic devices and rituals that constitute "conversational style," such as indirectness, pacing and pausing, humor, overlap and interruption, and shows their effects when styles differ.

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