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Weddings in the United States share many similarities and differences with each other, and to other wedding ceremonies in other parts of the world. There are many traditions and customs, most of which are based on a wide array of factors such as religion, culture, and social norms. It is becoming more common for the media to influence weddings in the United States, due to an increase in reality television shows and movies dealing with wedding themes.

History

In ancient times, weddings were based out of commodity, rather than desire or love. In fact, the word "wedding" implies the security the groom's family provides to the family of the bride when the couple marries[1]. Additionally, brides were chosen based on their economic worth. The wedding had little to do with love This trend lasted until the 19th Century, when couples started to marry for love[2].

During the 19th Century in America, weddings were usually small family gatherings at the home of either the parents of the bride or the parents of the groom. The ceremonies were intimate and not elaborate. The announcement of the newly married couple took place at their church on the Sunday following the wedding. Weddings did not become elaborate until the 1820s and 1830s, when upper class couples would have wedding ceremonies similar to what is common today. Brides usually wore the best dress she owned, so her dress was not always white, as white dresses were impractical to own. Not until the middle of the 1800s did brides start buying a dress made specifically for her wedding day. At the same time, couples began to hire professionals to prepare floral arrangements and wedding cakes, rather than making them at home[2].

Cultural Traditions

The saying, "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpense inside your shoe," dates back to the Victorian era and requires the bride to accessorize her wedding attire in certain ways to promote good luck in her new marriage[3]. Many brides in the U.S. do this for fun. The "old" is supposed to represent the past, particularly the bond between the bride and her family[3]. The bride might choose to wear a piece of jewelry from one of her elders, or another accessory given to her from an older relative. The "new" represents the couple getting married and their future together. Usually, the bride's wedding gown or wedding ring is used as a new item[3]. "Something borrowed" is something that is taken from the families and meant to be returned. By borrowing something, the bride is continuing the link between herself and her family to maintain loyalty and future comfort[3]. The borrowed item must come from a happily married woman in order to pass on marital happiness onto the new couple[3]. "Something blue" represents the bride's virginity. Easy ways to incorporate the color blue is for the bride to wear blue flowers in her hair or a blue garter[4]. The silver sixpense is meant to be tucked into the bride's shoe and is supposed to bring the new couple wealth in money and love in their new life together[4].

White bridal dresses.

Throwing rice.

Sharing the first piece of wedding cake.

Ceremonial kiss.

Having a best man and bridal party.

Many brides have bridal showers before their wedding, during which she recieves gifts from the guests. The bridal shower is usually thrown by the bride's chosen maid of honor and is humorous in nature[5].

Bachelor party.

"Giving away" the bride.

Bouquet toss to the single women at the wedding. The bouquet is supposed to be good luck to the woman who catches is because it predicts that she will be the next one to get married.

Throwing the garter to the single men at the wedding.

Carrying the bride across the threshold.

The bride wears a veil.

After the wedding reception, the newlyweds usually leave for their honeymoon, a trip to the destination of their choice. During this trip, which lasts anywhere from a few days to a few weeks, the couple consummates their marriage.[5]

American Traditions

Weddings in the United States are the most varied and flexible in the world. There are not many wedding traditions that are unique to the United States because most are derived from other cultures. Most of these customs stem from Europe. In fact it is considered an American tradition to follow the traditions of one's culture or religion[6]. Some wedding traditions though are very popular in the United States.

It is customary to give newlyweds gifts for their new home together at the wedding reception. To prevent duplicate gifts and having to return gifts that are not liked, most couples "register" at department stores. Couples pick out items they would like to receive as gifts, and their friends and family can choose to buy one of those items[6].

Additionally American weddings are usually elaborate and involve intensive planning[6].

Religious Traditions

Jewish

In a Jewish wedding both the bride and the groom are walked down the aisle by both of their parents, which is different from other religions[7].

Jewish couples are married under the chupah, which resembles a decorated tent like structure. This symbolizes that the bride and groom are coming together and creating a new home. This religious tradition comes from the Biblical wedding of Abraham and Sarah[7].

The ketubah is a Jewish wedding contract. The rabbi reads it under the chupah after the ring ceremony. Many couples frame their ketubah and display it in their home. Traditionally, the ketubah was written in Aramaic, but today many Jews use Hebrew instead. Like most married couples have documents to show they are married. The rabbi reads this contract under the chupah after the ring exchange. In the past this document was written in Aramaic, now many Jews use Hebrew instead[7].

Hindu

Hindu weddings have some unique traditions as well. These range from the exchanging of garlands (Jaimala), which represents the acknowledgement of acceptance and respect, to the lighting of a sacred fire (Havan), which represents the commitment the couple has to each other. Other unusual traditions include taking seven steps together as a married couple, wearing Henna on the hands and feet, and the groom putting a dot of red powder on his bride’s forehead[8].

Christian

Christian weddings have many traditions that are commonly associated with weddings in general. This includes the white wedding dress, which represents joy, not purity. The most important traditions for Christian weddings are the blessing and exchange of wedding bands and the bride and groom each offering his or her own wedding vows[9].

Societal Influences

Types of Weddings Ceremonies

Traditional/Formal

Traditional, formal, religious weddings are the most common type of wedding in the United States. Many couples opt to marry in the church of their faith, as it is common for couples to share the same religion. Whether the couple is Catholic, Jewish, Hindu, or any other religion, it is common practice to get married in the church of that faith. However, many couples today do not share the same faith. These inter-faith couples can also have a traditional wedding ceremony[10]. Religious officials have become increasingly cooperative with marrying couples that are not of the same faith.

It is common for traditional or formal weddings to follow certain norms. These common practices include designer dresses, groomsmen wearing tuxedos, elaborate invitations, beautiful flowers, limousine service, and fine dining and live music at a reception that follows the ceremony[10].

Destination

Destination weddings are becoming increasingly popular in the United States. Destination weddings, or "wedding aways" and "weddingmoons", allow the couple to completely design their wedding ceremony to fit the location. From beach weddings to weddings in Las Vegas or New York City, many Americans are choosing to marry at a location far from home. The options for destinations are limitless[11].

Examples of creative locations for wedding include nature parks, aquariums, baseball stadiums, golf courses, zoos, and theme parks. Receptions can also be held at creative, nontraditional locations such as on a boat, in a mansion or castle, historical monument, winery, or museum[11].

Destination weddings have several advantages. From getting to spend an extended time with family, to an easy transition to a honeymoon, destination weddings are very appealing. Additionally, while destination weddings can be very expensive, they are on average less expensive than weddings at home[11].

Military

A couple whose groom is enlisted in the Armed Forces, may have a military wedding in which the groom wears his uniform. A military wedding is considered a formal wedding and guests should dress formally. Oftentimes, the groom's guests will also be in the armed forces and will wear their uniforms as well[12].

The ushers who are in the armed forces traditionally form an "arch of steel" with their swords or sabers. However, only active duty servicemen participate, as they can only carry their sword or saber if they are active duty. The arch is usually formed at the conclusion of the ceremony, and the head usher signals the formation by yelling "center face." After the bride and groom pass through the arch, the ushers return to their bridesmaids to exit with them. Civilian ushers may or may not stand at the arch, a decision usually made by the bride and groom[12].

Elopement

To marry by elopement means that the wedding ceremony is done in secret, usually with just witnesses. Even though eloping seems simple, the marriage's secrecy can complicate family relationships[13].

Couples in the United States choose to elope for many varying reasons. 46% of couples eloping do so because of parental opposition to the marriage, 20% of couples elope to avoid attention, 12% because of financial reasons, 8% due to an unexpected pregnancy, and 14% for other reasons[14].

References

  1. ^ "The History of the Weddings", 2006-09-05. Retrieved on 2009-07-25.
  2. ^ a b "Here Comes The Bride: A History of the American Wedding", 2008-05-08. Retrieved on 2009-07-25.
  3. ^ a b c d e http://www.somethingoldsomethingnew.co.uk/
  4. ^ a b Cite error: The named reference gagirl was invoked but never defined (see the help page).
  5. ^ a b http://www.worldweddingtraditions.com/locations/north_american_traditions/united_states_traditions.html
  6. ^ a b c "United States Wedding Traditions", 2004. Retrieved on 2009-07-17.
  7. ^ a b c "Guide to the Jewish Wedding", 2001-06-30. Retrieved on 2009-07-10.
  8. ^ "Hindu Traditions", 2009. Retrieved on 2009-07-10.
  9. ^ " Christian Wedding", 2009. Retrieved on 2009-07-10.
  10. ^ a b "The Four Most Popular Types of Wedding Ceremony", 2009-07-10. Retrieved on 2009-07-10.
  11. ^ a b c "Destination Weddings 101". Retrieved on 2009-07-15.
  12. ^ a b http://life.familyeducation.com/weddings/cultural-experiences/49073.html. "Types of Weddings", Retrieved on 2009-07-10.
  13. ^ "Elope wedding". Groomgroove. Retrieved 2009-07-10. {{cite web}}: Cite has empty unknown parameter: |coauthors= (help)
  14. ^ Popenoe, Paul. "A Study of 738 Elopements". American Sociological Review. 3 (1): 47–53. {{cite journal}}: |access-date= requires |url= (help); Cite has empty unknown parameter: |coauthors= (help)
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