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'''Covert incest''' (also known as '''emotional incest''') is a style of parenting in which a parent looks to their child for the emotional support that would be normally provided by another adult.<ref name="Johnson">{{cite web|last1=Johnson|first1=R. Skip|title= Was Part of Your Childhood Deprived by Emotional Incest? |publisher=[[BPDFamily.com]]|url=http://bpdfamily.com/content/was-part-your-childhood-deprived-emotional-incest|accessdate=June 10, 2014}}</ref> The effects of covert incest on a child when they become adults are thought to mimic actual incest, although to a lesser degree.<ref name=herman125>{{cite book|title=Father-daughter incest |last= Herman |first= JL |author2=Hirschman L |year=2000 |publisher=[[Harvard University Press]] | url = |isbn= 0-674-00270-9 |quote=|page=125}}</ref> This term describes interactions between a parent and child that are exclusive of sexual abuse.<ref name="Johnson"/> The term has been criticized for broadening the definition of "incest" to an excessive degree, inflating the prevalence of child abuse,<ref name = Pendergrast/><ref name = Bjorklund/><ref name = Kaminer/> and for being over-used and unsubstantiated.<ref name = "Ross">{{cite web | last = Weisberg-Ross | first = Roni | title = Covert/Emotional Incest - How Real Is It? | url = http://placeholder.com/?Covert/Emotional-Incest---How-Real-Is-It?&id=6789184 | accessdate = 2017-06-05 | date = 2012-01-01 | publisher = Ezine }}</ref>
'''Covert incest''' (also known as '''emotional incest''') is a style of parenting in which a parent looks to their child for the emotional support that would be normally provided by another adult.<ref name="Johnson">{{cite web|last1=Johnson|first1=R. Skip|title= Was Part of Your Childhood Deprived by Emotional Incest? |publisher=[[BPDFamily.com]]|url=http://bpdfamily.com/content/was-part-your-childhood-deprived-emotional-incest|accessdate=June 10, 2014}}</ref> The effects of covert incest on a child when they become adults are thought to mimic actual incest, although to a lesser degree.<ref name=herman125>{{cite book|title=Father-daughter incest |last= Herman |first= JL |author2=Hirschman L |year=2000 |publisher=[[Harvard University Press]] | url = |isbn= 0-674-00270-9 |quote=|page=125}}</ref> This term describes interactions between a parent and child that are exclusive of sexual abuse.<ref name="Johnson"/> The term has been criticized for broadening the definition of "incest" to an excessive degree, inflating the prevalence of child abuse,<ref name = Pendergrast/><ref name = Bjorklund/><ref name = Kaminer/> and for being over-used and unsubstantiated.<ref name = "Ross">{{cite web | last = Weisberg-Ross | first = Roni | title = Covert/Emotional Incest - How Real Is It? | url = ezinearticles.com/?Covert/Emotional-Incest---How-Real-Is-It?&id=6789184 | accessdate = 2017-06-05 | date = 2012-01-01 | publisher = Ezine }}</ref>


==Concept==
==Concept==

Revision as of 15:29, 6 June 2017

Covert incest (also known as emotional incest) is a style of parenting in which a parent looks to their child for the emotional support that would be normally provided by another adult.[1] The effects of covert incest on a child when they become adults are thought to mimic actual incest, although to a lesser degree.[2] This term describes interactions between a parent and child that are exclusive of sexual abuse.[1] The term has been criticized for broadening the definition of "incest" to an excessive degree, inflating the prevalence of child abuse,[3][4][5] and for being over-used and unsubstantiated.[6]

Concept

Covert incest was defined in the 1980s[7] as an emotionally abusive[8] relationship between a parental figure and child that does not involve incest or sexual intercourse, though it involves similar interpersonal dynamics as a relationship between sexual partners.[7][9][10] Defining such relationships as "incest" has lead to criticism of the concept for dramatically loosening the definition of incest, making child abuse seem more prevalent than it actually is.[3][4][5]

Covert incest is described as occurring when a parent is unable or unwilling to maintain a relationship with another adult and forces the emotional role of a spouse onto their child instead.[8] The child's needs are ignored and instead the relationship exists solely to meet the needs of the parent[1][3] and the adult may not be aware of the issues created by their actions.[11]

The effects of covert incest are thought to mimic actual incest though to a lesser degree,[2] and Kenneth Adams, who originated the concept, describes the victims as having anger or guilt towards parents and issues with self-esteem, addiction and sexual and emotional intimacy.[12] Psychotherapist Roni Weisberg-Ross has noted that the term may not be particularly useful, since it can lead to attributing nearly any possible dysfunctional relationship or problem, becoming "a catchall, watered down diagnosis." Ross also criticizes the term for its emphasis on children meeting parents' "unmet needs", noting that children often meet the emotional or other needs of parents, with relationship boundaries frequently blurring and no definition of when this leads to permanent damage or harm.[6]

Jungian analyst and author Marion Woodman describes covert incest as "unboundaried bonding" in which the parent or parents use the child as a mirror to support their needs, rather than mirroring the child in support of the child's emotional development.[13]

Alcoholism and other substance addictions are also associated with the occurrence of covert incest.[14][15]

See also

References

  1. ^ a b c Johnson, R. Skip. "Was Part of Your Childhood Deprived by Emotional Incest?". BPDFamily.com. Retrieved June 10, 2014.
  2. ^ a b Herman, JL; Hirschman L (2000). Father-daughter incest. Harvard University Press. p. 125. ISBN 0-674-00270-9.
  3. ^ a b c Pendergrast, Mark (1996). Victims of memory: sex abuse accusations and shattered lives. Hinesburg, Vt: Upper Access. ISBN 0-942679-18-0. Retrieved 2008-04-17.
  4. ^ a b Bjorklund, David F. (2000). False-memory creation in children and adults: theory, research, and implications. Hillsdale, N.J: L. Erlbaum. ISBN 0-8058-3169-X.
  5. ^ a b Kaminer, Wendy (1993). I'm dysfunctional, you're dysfunctional: the recovery movement and other self-help fashions. New York: Vintage Books. p. 27. ISBN 0-679-74585-8.
  6. ^ a b Weisberg-Ross, Roni (2012-01-01). [ezinearticles.com/?Covert/Emotional-Incest---How-Real-Is-It?&id=6789184 "Covert/Emotional Incest - How Real Is It?"]. Ezine. Retrieved 2017-06-05. {{cite web}}: Check |url= value (help)
  7. ^ a b Jacobson M (2001). "Child sexual abuse and the multidisciplinary team approach: contradictions in practice". Childhood. 8 (2): 231. doi:10.1177/0907568201008002006.
  8. ^ a b Friel DL & Friel JC (1988). Adult children: the secrets of dysfunctional families. Deerfield Beach, Fla: Health Communications. ISBN 0-932194-53-2.
  9. ^ Love PG (1991). The Emotional Incest Syndrome : What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life. London: Bantam. ISBN 0-553-35275-X.
  10. ^ Woititz, JG (1993). The Intimacy Struggle. HCI. p. 61. ISBN 1-55874-277-8.
  11. ^ Gartner RB (1999). Betrayed as boys: psychodynamic treatment of sexually abused men. New York: Guilford Press. ISBN 1-57230-644-0. Retrieved 2008-04-17.
  12. ^ Adams K (1991). Silently Seduced : When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest. HCI. ISBN 1-55874-131-3. Retrieved 2008-04-14.
  13. ^ Woodman, Marion (1993). Conscious Femininity: Interviews with Marion Woodman. Inner City Books. p. 139. ISBN 0-919123-59-7.
  14. ^ Potter-Efron, RT; Potter-Efron PS (1990). Aggression, Family Violence, and Chemical Dependency. Haworth Press. pp. 133–135. ISBN 0-86656-964-2.
  15. ^ Barnard, CP (1990). Families With an Alcoholic Member: The Invisible Patient. Human Sciences Press. p. 139. ISBN 0-89885-479-2.
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