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Dally Messenger III

Dally Messenger III (born 1938) is a civil celebrant, author, publisher, commentator, and a founder and chronicler of the civil celebrant movement which originated in Australia.[1][2][3][4] He is the grandson of the Rugby Union and Rugby League footballer Dally Messenger, aka Herbert Henry "Dally" Messenger,[5] whose nickname "Dally" has become his grandson's given name.

Antecedents and family background[edit]

Dally Messenger III (Dally Raymond Messenger) shares with his grandfather, the rugby player, some ancestors who were notable rowers and boat-builders. Dally Messenger III is the great-great-grandson of Thames boat-builder James Arthur Messenger, who was a Queen's Waterman, barge master to Queen Victoria, and sculling champion of the world from 1854 to 1857.

He is also the great grandson of Charles Amos Messenger, the sculling champion of Victoria (ca. 1875), 1881 Rowing Champion of New Zealand, and 1887 contender for the sculling championship of the world.[6] Charles Amos also established the first boatshed on Sydney Harbour at Balmain, from where it was later transferred (by flotation) to Double Bay, NSW.

Biographical summary[edit]

According to a 1972 feature article on him in Woman's Day magazine,[7] and an article in 2011 in the Docklands News[8] (Melbourne),[9] which are on his own personal website[10] and information provided in the semi-autobiographical book,Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement,[11] Dally Messenger III was born in Sydney in February 1938, the son of Dally Messenger Junior and Dorothy née Davidson. He was raised in Sydney, but spent most of his school years in Katoomba in the Blue Mountains where he attended St Bernard’s College. Thereafter he returned to Sydney and spent his last year of secondary schooling at Marist Brothers, Parramatta, then worked for several years in banking and wholesale before entering a seminary to study for the Catholic priesthood at St Columba’s College, Springwood, NSW (and later St Patricks’s College, Manly).

Reform and change in the Catholic Church[edit]

The historian Christopher Geraghty relates that Messenger had a reputation in the seminary for diplomatically challenging authority.[12]

Messenger gained his Sacrae Theologiae Baccalaureus (STB) in 1964, teaching qualifications in 1965, and was ordained a priest in 1966.

Historians Michael Parer and Tony Peterson record that Messenger was an activist and significant analyst of the changes in this post Vatican II time of turmoil in the Catholic Church.[13] Parer and Peterson also describe Messenger’s disillusionment with the conservatism of church leaders and with the lack of Christian values, such as compassion, kindness, respect and tolerance, in the seminary, and in the organisational structure of the church. He was dispirited by what he perceived as errors in church teaching and practice, such as the role of church authority and the prohibition on all methods of birth control. He could not understand the resistance to what he considered to be the Vatican Council's clearly agreed reforms. He took a strong stand in rejecting celibacy of the clergy as contrary to the church's own teachings on human rights.[14][15] Messenger left the priesthood after only a year.

Referring to Messenger and others, church historian Edmund Campion records the "great wastage of talent" which occurred at this time in the Catholic Church.[16]

The New Earth Credit Union[edit]

Campion further describes how Messenger set up the New Earth Credit Union to assist former clergy with low interest loans. At the time loans to former clergy were generally unavailable because they usually had no assets and no credit record. Severance payments and superannuation were unheard of.[17]

After leaving the priesthood Messenger moved to Melbourne, where he taught at the Presbyterian Haileybury College for six years (1969-1975). During this period he married and became the father of three daughters. In 1976 he gained a post-graduate diploma in Librarianship (teacher-librarian) from Melbourne State College (now part of Melbourne University).

Dance Australia Magazine[edit]

Messenger was also the founding editor and publisher of Dance Australia Magazine,[18] which he established in 1980.

His work on creating this magazine was recognised by two national arts awards. The first was an award for "Services to Dance" in the inaugural National Dance Awards,[19] presented at the Sydney Opera House in May 1997. The website citation reads as follows:

"Dally had the vision and determination to publish the first dance magazine in Australia. In 1980 he began producing Dance Australia, which is still providing quality news, advice, reviews and advertising for the dance industry."[20]

Tributes to Messenger's achievement were subsequently published in Dance Australia by Keith Bain, Noel Pelly, Vicki Fairfax, Alan Brissenden and Pamela Ruskin.[21] Vicki Fairfax wrote in this edition,

"What a debt we owe him and what an enormous hole there would be in our history were it not for the magazine he set up, against all the odds."

The second award was an Australian Dance Award for "Outstanding Achievement in Dance Education" awarded in 2008 and presented on June 15 at the Arts Centre in Melbourne.[22] ed Messenger records the early struggles to establish Dance Australia in the article "A Pioneer’s Reminiscence"[23] he wrote for the 25th anniversary edition.

Dance Australia is currently published (2014) by Yaffa Publishing of Sydney which purchased the magazine ca.1990.

Pioneer of civil celebrancy[edit]

Dally Messenger III is most noted for his long involvement in the civil celebrant program, first in Australia and then in other English-speaking countries. In the 1960s Messenger was the first person ever to apply to become a Civil Marriage Celebrant under the provisions of the new Commonwealth Marriage Act of Australia (1961).

In the 1970s he was one of a group of marriage-reformers who helped persuade the reforming Attorney-General Lionel Murphy to introduce civil marriage celebrants in Australia.[24] Murphy's reforms have since served as a model to other English-speaking countries,[25] though in none of them has civil celebrancy, to date, become as firmly established as in Australia. In Australia by 2015, 74.9% of couples chose civil celebrants. The use of registry office marriages in some states has also been greatly reduced or has disappeared altogether, as in the Australian Capital Territory.[26]

Ray Dahlitz, author of the Secular Who’s Who, describes Messenger as a humanist, educationalist,and defender of cultural rights, and records that he was appointed first secretary of the Association of Civil Marriage Celebrants of Australia (ACMCA).[27]

A great number of sources are available during his forty years of involvement to describe his celebrancy career, his public statements and his ideals.[28][29][30][31] He was appointed a Civil Marriage Celebrant by Attorney-General Lionel Murphy in 1974. They both shared a revulsion at the way secular people were humiliated at the Registry Office civil marriage "ceremony". At Murphy’s suggestion, Messenger became committed to near full-time work as a celebrant. In this profession he sought to progress Murphy’s vision.[32]

Campion describes how Messenger became national media spokesperson for the main body of civil celebrants.[33] He is variously described as the "Don of Celebrancy", the "Doyen of Celebrancy", "Pioneer Celebrant" and similar.[34][35]

He was the inaugural president of the original Funeral Celebrants Association of Australia.[36] He was a founder, and is now a Life Member of the Australian Federation of Civil Celebrants Inc. The citation for Life Membership acknowledges Messenger as one who "has passionately advocated freedom of choice, standards of service, proper selection and training, and artistic content of ceremonies in response to community need", and as "the founder and inaugural President of the original Funeral Celebrants Association of Australia which established a unique professionalism in non-religious and personally prepared funeral ceremonies."[37]

Messenger's concern for personalized civil funerals led him into a long conflict with Australian funeral directors. Funeral directors often arrange a celebrant for their clients, but may propose low or very low fees either because they regard the celebrant's contribution as unimportant or because they see fees paid to celebrants as being in competition with the fees they might command for their own role in the funeral ceremony.[38] Messenger argued that this was a conflict of interest, and that funeral directors must allow celebrants to receive fees that would enable them to perform to a proper professional standard.[39] In particular, he believed the celebrant's role must include creating, or overseeing the creation of, a well-researched "eulogy"[40] which should involve an appropriate yet reasonably candid account of the main events, concerns, and achievements, of the deceased person's life. This account should reflect, and where necessary should combine and reconcile, the memories of a number of the deceased's close relatives or friends. Messenger saw this as skilled and patient work, and the eulogy as "without question . . . the most important part of the ceremony."[41]

However his attempts to persuade celebrants to refuse inadequate fees were brought to the attention of the Australian Consumer and Competition Commission (ACCC). It prosecuted him for breaching Victorian consumer law by attempting to fix the fees which civil celebrants charged for providing funeral services. Messenger complained that it was impossible for him as a private citizen to afford the legal costs required to contest the ACCC's arguments in this complex area of the law.[42] In 2007, Dally Messenger and the ACCC reached a plea bargain whereby he pleaded guilty to attempting to induce persons to contravene section 45(2)(a)(ii) of the Competition Code of Victoria, and was penalised $46,000 plus his own legal costs of $20,000.[43][44] This verdict led to protests by several prominent people[45] who claimed the ACCC had sided with the exploiters rather than the customers. Messenger and his supporters continue to argue that the public in Australia is ill-served by a system that allows funeral directors so much control over the conditions and remuneration of celebrants.

Messenger was also an early and long-term supporter of same-sex marriages,[46] which were finally legalised in Australia in December 2017. By 1979,[47] he offered Commitment ceremonies for same-sex couples; and also trained graduates of his ICC to use in their Monitum the words “Marriage, as most of us understand it in Australia, is the union of two persons",[48] until in 2003 the Attorney-General’s Department banned the use of “as most of us understand it" and insisted (until 2018) on “the union of a man and a woman”.[49]

Messenger was made a Life Member of the Celebrants and Celebrations Network (CCN) on May 8, 2014 in recognition of his services to celebrants. The citation with this Life Membership calls Messenger "The Don of Celebrancy" and refers to "his unique contribution to the development of civil celebrancy in the Western World."[50]

Civil celebrancy in New Zealand[edit]

In the 1990s Dally Messenger was active in spreading the civil celebrancy movement to New Zealand and the UK, countries where it was less well established. He was invited to New Zealand as guest keynote speaker at three annual conventions in the 1990s and in 2000. These were in Christchurch, organised by celebrant Frank Crean on June 27, 1998; in Hamilton, organised by celebrant Yvonne Foreman on July 23, 1999; and in Auckland, organised by celebrant Sherryl Wilson on July 27, 2001.

Celebrant Yvonne Werner records that the New Zealand government recommended Dally Messenger's book, Ceremonies for Today, as a basic text for all their celebrants.[51]

Civil celebrancy in the UK[edit]

Celebrant Yvonne Werner also records, "During this same period (the late 1990s) Dally followed up an invitation by Roberto Pravisani and Carol Pool who had established a small group of celebrants in England. He gave a number of lectures and teaching sessions in the UK before returning to Australia."[52]

The Scottish author and celebrant Neil Dorward, acknowledges Messenger’s contribution to funeral celebrancy in the UK and refers to him as "the father of civil celebrancy".[53]

Civil celebrancy in the US[edit]

In 2000-2002, supported by Gaile and Pat Sarma, Messenger was the key training instructor in establishing civil celebrancy in the US. He gave the launching address to the newly formed Celebrant USA Foundation in New Jersey on June 5, 2002 at the Montclair Library. For two months prior to this, Messenger lived in Montclair, New Jersey, training the first civil celebrants, five of whom, at that stage, had graduated with diplomas from the International College of Celebrancy,[54] including the newly appointed director, Charlotte Eulette.[55]

International College of Celebrancy[edit]

In 1995 he established the International College of Celebrancy,[56] and has since been active in endeavouring to achieve "best practice" in civil celebrancy.

In later decades Messenger has often been a critic of bureaucrats in the Australian Attorney-General's department who tried to reduce the training requirements for persons appointed as celebrants, or who wished to train them primarily as marriage-orientated paralegals rather than as skilled in creatively combining the evocative use of language, symbolism, poetry, history, storytelling, music and ritual into powerful ceremony.[57][58]

Messenger now lives in Melbourne with his wife since 2005, Remi Barclay Messenger.née Barclay, a.k.a. Bosseau.[59]

Books by Dally Messenger III[edit]

Ceremonies for Today (1979)[edit]

Ceremonies for Today, 1979.[60]

This is a book of model civil celebrant ceremonies, mainly weddings, funerals and namings, together with a collection of quotations and poetry suitable for readings, plus sample vows and other components. It was designed to provide celebrants and their clients with resources from which clients could compose their own personal secular ceremonies.

The book's stated aim was to suggest poetry, music and other artistic components which would lift civil celebrant ceremonies to a level of substance, beauty and meaning that was not generally a part of civil weddings and funerals in the Western world at that time. Messenger sought to help celebrants and their clients find classic poems of quality which could be appreciated by guests when first heard in a ceremony. The book contains poetry and prose from distinguished writers and poets including William Shakespeare, Christopher Marlowe, D.H. Lawrence, Rabindranath Tagore, and Percy Bysse Shelley.[61]

James A. Murray criticised Messenger’s ceremonies as "a phenomenon without historical or cultural roots".[62] On the other hand, commentator Dick Gross credits Messenger as recognising the importance of traditional cultural and religious frameworks in composing his "top-selling compendium of civil ceremonies".[63]

Ceremonies and Celebrations (2003)[edit]

Ceremonies and Celebrations, 2003.[64]

This is a heavily revised and expanded fifth edition of Ceremonies for Today (1979). This edition expands the range of civil ceremonies to include ceremonies for most of the major milestones of a human life. It is widely acknowledged as the basic text for civil celebrants.[65][66]

So Mum and Dad have Separated (1981)[edit]

So Mum and Dad have Separated, 1981.

This is a book written to assist children of separated parents.[67] It was widely discussed at the time and was recommended to divorcing couples with children by the Family Court of Australia.[68] It was described by reviewers as "easy to read and practical", "positive, reassuring", "in depth and mature" and "very comforting information during the trauma of a parental divorce".[69][70][71]

Being a Chum was Fun (1979)[edit]

Being a Chum was Fun: The Story of Nicky and Nancy Lee, 1979.[72]

This is a history of pre-war and postwar Melbourne radio and of the famed children's program The Chums of Chatterbox Corner. It chronicles the careers of Kathleen Lindgren (Nancy Lee), Nicky Whitta and Graham Kennedy. Graeme Blundell, who wrote the story of Australian and TV broadcaster Graham Kennedy, refers to Lee and Messenger's book as "priceless".[73]

The Master (1982)[edit]

The Master: the Story of H.H. "Dally" Messenger and the Beginning of Australian Rugby League 1982, 1982.[74]

The author claims this was the first published monograph history of the beginnings of Rugby League in Australia.

The Master (2007)[edit]

The Master: The Life and Times of Dally Messenger, Australia's First Sporting Superstar, 2007.[75]

This book was co-authored with Sean Fagan. It is a revised and re-written version of The Master (1982).

Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness (2012)[edit]

Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, 2007.[76]

As the title implies, this is a semi-autobiographical account of the history of civil celebrancy in Australia since its establishment in 1973 until the turn of the century in 2000. It describes the role of the reform-minded Attorney-General Lionel Murphy who provided the legal framework that inaugurated independent civil celebrancy and helped it progress much faster in Australia than in other English-speaking countries. It praises Murphy for his awareness that the celebrants' grasp of poetry, music, symbolism, storytelling, choreography and ceremony-continuity was more important than legalities.

References[edit]

  1. ^ Birbeck, Matt, ‘’New York Times’’, “Ceremonies for Any Occasion; an Idea from Australia Takes Root in Montclair”, August 1, 2004, Section 14
  2. ^ Williams Daniel, TIME Magazine (Asia), “Funerals are Us”, September 6, 2004 pp56ff
  3. ^ Lohrey, Amanda, The Monthly (Australia), "A Proper Wedding", August 2009 pp38-44
  4. ^ Power,Julie, Sydney Morning Herald, “Murphy’s law: US couples can now choose how to wed”, Feb 2, 2014, and see http://m.smh.com.au/national/thanks-to-lionel-murphy-us-couples-can-now-choose-how-to-marry-20140221-337be.html?rand=1393030367546
  5. ^ See Cuneen, Chris in http://adb.anu.edu.au/biography/messenger-herbert-henry-dally-7562
  6. ^ Fagan, Sean and Messenger, Dally; The Master, Hachette Livre, Sydney 2007 ISBN 978 0 7336 2200 7 pp.5ff.
  7. ^ Franks, Sandra, Woman's Day, "Dally Messenger: Colleagues call him the lawyer", August 21, 1972 pp44-7 and p73
  8. ^ Docklands News
  9. ^ Docklands News (Melbourne), “Docklands is just great for Dally”, Issue 69, September–October 2011 p22
  10. ^ Dally Messenger's personal website
  11. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3.
  12. ^ Geraghty, Chistopher, Cassocks in the Wilderness: remembering the Seminary at Springwood, Spectrum Publications Pty Ltd, Melbourne, 2001. pp.142-144
  13. ^ Parer, Michael S. and Peterson Tony, Prophets and Losses in the Priesthood, Alella books, Sydney 1970 ISBN 978-0-9599879-2-8 p33, p83, and p124
  14. ^ Pope John XXIII, Pacem in Terris, (Papal Encyclical - pericopes 9 and 15) — http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/john_xxiii/encyclicals/documents/hf_j-xxiii_enc_11041963_pacem_en.html . Messenger’s argument was that, as the right to marry was inalienable (”nullo modo emancipari possit”) (15), the law that forbade clergy in the Latin rite to marry was invalid (9).
  15. ^ Parer, Michael S. and Peterson Tony, Prophets and Losses in the Priesthood, Alella books, Sydney 1970 ISBN 978-0-9599879-2-8 p33, p83, and p124
  16. ^ Campion, Edmund, Australian Catholics, Penguin Books, Sydney, 1988. ISBN 0014 0108 44 pp229-230
  17. ^ Campion, Edmund, Australian Catholics, Penguin Books, Sydney, 1988. ISBN 0014 0108 44 pp229-230
  18. ^ Dance Australia Magazine
  19. ^ National Dance Awards
  20. ^ http://www.australiandanceawards.net.au/award-winners/services-to-dance/dally-messenger
  21. ^ Dance Australia, "Tribute to Founder-Editor", Yaffa Publishing, August–September 1997)
  22. ^ Herald-Sun (Melbourne), "True Blue Hugh", June 16, 2008.
  23. ^ "A Pioneer’s Reminiscence"
  24. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3. pp.52-59. See also Origin of civil celebrancy in Australia
  25. ^ Kohn, Rachael, The Spirit of Things, The Story of Civil Celebrants, ABC, Radio National Broadcast - http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/spiritofthings/the-story-of-civil-celebrants/9259174 -
  26. ^ http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/abs@.nsf/mf/3310.0
  27. ^ Dahlitz, Ray, Secular Who’s Who, University of Melbourne, 1991 ISBN 0646 17950 0 pp 161
  28. ^ An early example is the Dandenong Journal, "And now, funerals to order", Oct 27, 1975, but see the other sources referenced
  29. ^ e.g. The Examiner (Melbourne), "Farewell to Dandenong’s Favourite Son", October 1991
  30. ^ e.g. Gilchrist, Michelle, The Australian. "Coalition alters celebrant wedding vows", September 5, 2001
  31. ^ e.g. Fannin, Penny, The Age (Melbourne). "Civil Celebrants: Keeping the civility in our celebrants", March 11, 1999
  32. ^ Lohrey, Amanda, The Monthly (Australia), "A Proper Wedding", August 2009 pp38-44
  33. ^ Campion, Edmund, Australian Catholics, Penguin Books, Sydney, 1988. ISBN 0014 0108 44 pp229-230
  34. ^ WWilliams Daniel, TIME Magazine (Asia), “Funerals are Us”, September 6, 2004 pp56ff
  35. ^ Werner, Yvonne, "Dally Messenger III - Pioneer of Civil Celebrancy” in http://www.celebrancy.com/html/dally_messenger.html - retrieved on September 4, 2014
  36. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3. p.159. See also Origin of civil celebrancy in Australia.
  37. ^ quoted in http://dallymessenger.com/afcc-life-member/
  38. ^ See Messenger's Notes for Funeral Celebrants and also the section on Setting Standards and prices in the Wikipedia page on Funeral Celebrant.
  39. ^ See Best Practice Funerals Conference (2005), Keynote Address by Dally Messenger III: Lesson 5A.
  40. ^ See Rick Barclay, Presentation of Life Membership of the AFCC to Dally Messenger -- 1966: (Messenger suggested ) "that even the lowliest among us were entitled to a eulogy, an honour usually reserved only for the level of Prime Minister".
  41. ^ Ceremonies and Celebrations, 4th edition, 1999, p. 160; cf. Messenger's Notes for the International College of Celebrancy on "Funerals--Best Practice".
  42. ^ Troeth, Senator Judith, speech in Hansard, "Dally Messenger", Adjournment Debate in the Senate (Australian Federal Parliament) June 24, 2008, 11 pm
  43. ^ Australian Competition and Consumer Commission v Dally M Publishing and Research Pty Ltd [2007] FCA 1220
  44. ^ Troeth, Senator Judith, Hansard, "Dally Messenger", Adjournment Debate in the Senate (Australian Federal Parliament) June 24, 2008, 11 pm
  45. ^ See: Durie, John, Chanticleer, Australian Financial Review, March 30, 2007, p92; Rayner, Moira, "The Business of Death", in New Matilda, August 29, 2007; Carbone, Suzanne and Money, Lawrence, The Age (Melbourne), May 18, 2007; and Rocchiccioli, Roland, Melbourne Weekly, August 9, 2008
  46. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3. pp.143ff
  47. ^ oMessenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3. pp.143ff
  48. ^ Messenger, Dally, Ceremonies for Today, Brian Zouch Publications, Armadale-Melbourne, 1979, ISBN 0 908036 01 9 p26
  49. ^ See for instance the Attorney-General's Department's 2014 edition of Guidelines on the Marriage Act 1961 for Marriage Celebrants p. 75: "do not replace ‘man’ and ‘woman’ with ‘people’ or ‘persons’. This could signify the marriage of two people of the same sex . . ."
  50. ^ See http://www.celebrants.org.au/about-us/2136-ccn-inc-life-members
  51. ^ WWerner, Yvonne, "Dally Messenger III - Pioneer of Civil Celebrancy” in http://www.celebrancy.com/html/dally_messenger.html - retrieved on September 4, 2014
  52. ^ http://www.celebrancy.com/html/dally_messenger.html
  53. ^ Dorward, Neil, The Guide to a Dead Brilliant Funeral Speech, Ecademy Press, Cornwall UK, 2009 ISBN 978-1-905823-56-7 pp56ff and pp5-6
  54. ^ See http://iccdiplomas.com/ and see http://collegeofcelebrancy.com
  55. ^ Montclair Times, "Celebrant USA Foundation Launched in Montclair", Montclair, NJ, USA June 7, 2002.
  56. ^ International College of Celebrancy
  57. ^ http://iccdiplomas.com/2014/01/29/celebrants-what-is-and-what-ought-to-be/ - retrieved Sept 4, 2014
  58. ^ http://dallymessenger.com/about/chronology - retrieved Sept 4, 2014
  59. ^ Remi Messenger's website
  60. ^ Messenger, Dally; Ceremonies for Today, Zouch, Melbourne, 1979. ISBN 0 908036 01 9 & ISBN 978 0 7336 2317 2.
  61. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3. p.196ff.
  62. ^ Murray, James S., The Australian, "Celebrants, in whatever form, reap the dubious benefits of secular land", January 24, 1985 p.5
  63. ^ Gross, Dick, Godless Gospel: A Modern Guide to Meaning and Morality, Pluto Press , Sydney, 1999, ISBN 1 86403 059 3, pp57-8
  64. ^ Messenger, Dally; ‘’Ceremonies & Celebrations’’, Hachette-Livre, Sydney, 2003. ISBN 978 0 7336 2317 2. Also published as an eBook, ISBN 978 0 7336 2884 9.
  65. ^ Young, Barry H., The Funeral Celebrant’s Handbook, Jojo Publishing, Melbourne, 2008, ISBN 9780980321616, pp190-192
  66. ^ Van Gramberg, Ruth,The Practical Handbook for Celebrants to Welcome, Celebrate and Farewell, Longueville Books, Sydney, 2011, ISBN 9780987066084 especially pp.v-v1
  67. ^ Messenger, Dally, So Mum and Dad have Separated, Listen & Learn, Melbourne, 1981 1980 ISBN 0 9596 13625. Also published as an eBook, ISBN 978-0-992-5343-1-8.
  68. ^ Family Court of Australia
  69. ^ Bolton, Carol, Australian Book Review, March 1982
  70. ^ Wilkins, Sally, The Age (Melbourne), September 27, 1980
  71. ^ Vamos, Eileen, Waverley Gazette, "Book helps ease the pain", September 21, 1994
  72. ^ Lee, Nancy assisted by Messenger, Dally; Being a Chum was Fun... Listen & Learn Melbourne, Victoria Australia, 1979 ISBN 0 9596136 1 7. Also published as an eBook, ISBN 978-0-9925343-0-1.
  73. ^ Blundell, Graham, King, the Life and Comedy of Graham Kennedy, Macmillan, Sydney, 2003 ISBN 1 4050 3566 8 p.462
  74. ^ Messenger, Dally, The Master... , Angus & Robertson, Sydney 1982, ISBN 0 207 14731 0
  75. ^ Fagan, Sean and Messenger, Dally. The Master: The life and Times of Dally Messenger, Australia's First Sporting Superstar, Hachette Livre, Sydney 2007 ISBN 978 0 7336 2200 7. Also published as an eBook, ISBN 978 0 7336 2899 3.
  76. ^ Messenger, Dally, Murphy's Law and the Pursuit of Happiness: A History of the Civil Celebrant Movement, Spectrum Publications, Melbourne, 2012 ISBN 978-0-86786-169-3.