Rabbi Manis Friedman in 2009
Menachem Manis HaKohen Friedman
1946 (age 73–74)
|Occupation||Rabbi, Dean of Bais Chana Women International|
|Known for||Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?|
Manis Friedman (full name: Menachem Manis HaKohen Friedman, Hebrew: מנחם מניס הכהן פרידמן; born 1946) is a Chabad Lubavitch Hassid, Shliach, rabbi, author, social philosopher and public speaker. He is also the dean of the Bais Chana Institute of Jewish Studies. Friedman authored Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?, which was published in 1990 and is currently in its fourth printing. He is featured in the documentary films: The Lost Key (2014), The Jewish Journey: America (2015), and “Patterns of Evidences” (2017).
Born in Prague, Czechoslovakia in 1946, Friedman immigrated with his family to the United States in 1951. He received his rabbinic ordination at the Rabbinical College of Canada in 1969.
In 1971, inspired by the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Friedman cofounded the Bais Chana Women International, an Institute for Jewish Studies in Minnesota for women with little or no formal Jewish education. He has served as the school's dean since its inception. From 1984-1990, he served as the simultaneous translator for a series of televised talks by the Lubavitcher Rebbe. Friedman briefly served as senior translator for Jewish Educational Media, Inc.
Friedman has lectured in cities throughout the US, as well as London, Hong Kong, Cape Town, and Johannesburg in South Africa, Melbourne and Sydney in Australia, and a number of South and Central American cities. In the wake of the natural disasters in 2004 and 2005, Friedman authored a practical guide to help rescue and relief workers properly understand and deal with the needs of Jewish survivors.
Though not extensively published in book form, Friedman's teachings have been cited by many authors writing on various secular issues as well as on exclusively Jewish topics.
Friedman has been quoted in:
- Shmuley Boteach, The Private Adam (2005) and Dating Secrets of the Ten Commandments (2001)
- Barbara Becker Holstein, Enchanted Self: A Positive Therapy (1997)
- Angela Payne, Living Every Single Moment: Embrace Your Purpose Now (2004)
- Sylvia Barack Fishman, A Breath of Life: Feminism in the American Jewish Community (1995)
In their autobiographies, Playing with Fire: One Woman's Remarkable Odyssey by Tova Mordechai (1991) and Shanda: The Making and Breaking of a Self-Loathing Jew by Neal Karlen (2004), the authors ascribe Friedman a role in their increasing religiosity.
Views on love, marriage and femininity
Two types of love
According to Friedman, the love between spouses must overcome the differences between the two parties, generating greater intensity in the relationship. By contrast the love between other family members are predicated upon the commonness the two parties share. Friedman further states that husband and wife, male and female, in essence always remain strangers; for this reason the acquired love in the relationship is never entirely consistent.
On fidelity in marriage, Friedman is quoted stating "If you help yourself to the benefits of being married when you are single, you're likely to help yourself to the benefits of being single when you're married."
Sociologist Lynn Davidman interviewed a number of students studying under Friedman in 1983. She quotes Friedman saying that a woman "violates herself" if she were to refrain from having children and that birth control is a "violent violation of a woman's being". Friedman insisted that the teenage angst experienced by girls stems from the fact that they are already biologically and psychologically ready for marriage but their urges are held back; he believes that girls should optimally get married at the age of fourteen. According to Davidman, Friedman's position on femininity differed entirely from the values of his students.
On the Israeli-Arab conflict
Friedman has claimed that the moral way to fight a war is to "Destroy their holy sites. Kill men, women and children (and cattle)," and that if Israel followed this wisdom from the Bible, there would be "no civilian casualties, no children in the line of fire, no false sense of righteousness, in fact, no war." After receiving criticism Friedman clarified that "any neighbor of the Jewish people should be treated, as the Torah commands us, with respect and compassion." Friedman later clarified that when he was quoting from the Torah he was not advocating to actually kill anyone, rather if Israel would threaten to do this things, it would scare its enemies and prevent war.
On victims of pedophilia
Friedman was quoted that survivors of child sexual abuse are not as deeply damaged as some claim and should learn to overcome their traumatic experiences. Friedman's comments were received poorly by advocates who saw his statements as trivialising the experiences of the victims. Rabbi Friedman subsequently issued an apology for the offensive remarks.
On victims of the holocaust
According to the Australian Jewish News, Rabbi Friedman, in a speech in the 1980s, framed the holocaust as part of a divine plan. Friedman reportedly stated “Who in fact died and who remained alive had nothing to do with the Nazis,” and “not a single Jewish child died because of the Nazis … they died in their relationship with God.” According to the paper, Friedman's statements were not well received by local holocaust survivors.
On wayward children
In a widely shared video clip Friedman stated that the reason children rebel is because their parents talked during sexual intercourse, when the child was conceived. "The reason your child is absolutely impossible and has to be on drugs... you talked during the act. I can see it!".
- Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Reclaiming Modesty, Intimacy and Sexuality
- The Relief and Rescue Workers Guide to Judaism - a Rescue Workers Handbook
- The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality & Marriage
- Bais Chana. 2005-2010. ""Archived copy". Archived from the original on 2010-05-04. Retrieved 2010-05-26.CS1 maint: archived copy as title (link)
- Vintage Satellite Footage
- "Find-A-Kohen Listing". kehuna.org. 2013. Retrieved 5 August 2015.
- IPC Media. 1996-2010. ""Avraham Fried Biography". Archived from the original on July 2, 2010. Retrieved May 26, 2010.
- Lyman, Bari. Meet to Marry: A Dating Revelation for the Marriage-Minded Archived 2014-05-23 at the Wayback Machine. Health Communications, Inc. 2011. Accessed May 23, 2014.
- Fishman, Sylvia Barack. A Breath of Life: Feminism in the American Jewish Community Archived 2014-05-23 at the Wayback Machine. UPNE. 1995. Accessed May 23, 2014.
- Davidman, Lynn (1993). Tradition in a Rootless World. San Francisco, CA: University of California Press. ISBN 0-520-07545-5.:162–166
- Chabad rabbi: Jews should kill Arab men, women and children during war - Israel News | Haaretz Daily Newspaper
- Call for apology as Rabbi Manis Friedman likens child abuse to diarrhoea | The Australian
- Rabbi Manis Friedman | Sex Abuse | SBS World News
- AM - Shock at Rabbi trivializing child sexual molestation 01/02/2013
- Chabad rabbi sorry for ‘inappropriate’ remark on molestation | JTA - Jewish & Israel News
- Jewish journal.
- Survivors’ outrage over US rabbi | The Australian Jewish News
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