Sex Object: A Memoir
|Subject||Sexism, gender, sexuality|
|June 1, 2016|
Sex Object: A Memoir is a 2016 memoir and the sixth book written by Jessica Valenti. Valenti shares personal stories since her childhood about being treated as a sex object and her daily encounters with sexism, painting an image of an adult whose identity has been entirely shaped by these experiences. According to Valenti, most women face a similar reality of being shaped by—and making everyday decisions to minimize—sexual assault and aggressions. Valenti works professionally as a feminist writer, known for her reactions and opinions about current events, advocating for actions women can take to counter sexism. She used Sex Object: A Memoir as a platform to focus on sharing experiences with readers, helping them understand how prevalent they are for young girls and women, shedding light on the sheer size of this cultural problem.
"People say, 'Oh you’re too ugly to call yourself a sex object' — as if calling yourself an object is a compliment, which completely misses the point. But I decided that I can’t let harassers determine the content of the book. At the end of the day, this is a book about objectification and dehumanization. So that was the most accurate term."
The 224-page book is divided in 21 chapters chronicling Valenti's encounters with street harassment and other forms of sexual assault, sexism, and treatment from sexual partners. Valenti promotes the belief that men can start mitigating women's daily experience of sexism by listening to women and believing their experiences.
Reviewing the book in The New Republic, Rafia Zakaria described the book's strength in Valenti's reappraisal of her own experience with objectification, including her prior blindness to the phenomenon; Zakaria compared Valenti's critical reassessment of her own experiences to Adrienne Rich's observation that for women "'revision—the act of looking back, of seeing with fresh eyes, of entering an old text from a new critical direction is more than an act of cultural history; It is an act of survival.' Sex Object is such an act of revision."
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