Xaviera de Vries
15 June 1943
|Known for||The Happy Hooker: My Own Story|
|Spouse(s)||Frank Applebaum (m. ?)|
Philip de Haan (m. 2007)
Hollander was born Xaviera "Vera" de Vries in Surabaya, Japanese-occupied Dutch East Indies, which later became part of present-day Indonesia, to a Dutch Jewish physician father and a mother of French and German descent. She spent the first years of her life in a Japanese-run internment camp.
In her early 20s, she left Amsterdam for Johannesburg, where her stepsister lived. There she met and became engaged to John Weber, an American economist. When the engagement was broken off, she left South Africa for New York City.
In 1968 she resigned from her job as a secretary in the Dutch consulate in Manhattan to become a call girl, making $1,000 a night ($7400 today). A year later, she opened her own brothel, the Vertical Whorehouse, and soon became New York City's leading madam. In 1971, she was arrested for prostitution by New York Police and forced to leave the United States.
In 1971, Hollander published a memoir, The Happy Hooker: My Own Story. Robin Moore, who took Hollander's dictation of the book's contents, came up with the title, while Yvonne Dunleavy either transcribed the book or ghostwrote it. Hollander later wrote a number of other books and produced plays in Amsterdam. Her second book, Child No More, is the story of losing her mother. For 35 years, she wrote an advice column for Penthouse magazine, entitled "Call Me Madam."
In the early 1970s, she recorded a primarily spoken-word album titled Xaviera! for the Canadian GRT Records label (GRT 9230-1033), on which she discussed her philosophy regarding sex and prostitution, sang a cover version of the Beatles' song "Michelle", and recorded several simulated sexual encounters, including an example of phone sex, a threesome and a celebrity encounter with guest "vocal" by Ronnie Hawkins. Xaviera's Game, an erotic board game, was released in 1974 by Reiss Games, Inc. In 1975, she starred in the semi-autobiographical film My Pleasure is My Business. Beginning in 2005, she operated Xaviera's Happy House, a bed and breakfast within her Amsterdam home.
For several years in the 1970s, Hollander lived in Toronto, where she married Frank Applebaum, a Canadian antique dealer, and was a regular fixture in the downtown scene. She mentions a lover named John Drummond, with whom she partnered for many years, co-authoring two books, including Let's Get Moving (1988) about their life together: "I went there with, what for years had been the love of my life, John Drummond, a wild Scottish intellectual who, at times, liked his whiskey, beer and wines too much. We had great sex, often up to 3 times a day—all that and he was about 17 years older than me". During a 2018 interview, she revealed a darker side in the relationship with a man she called "the love of my life!": "The love of my life 25 years ago, John Drummond, a brilliant and boisterous Scotsman with a 'Thatcheresque' accent had, especially under the influence of a few scotches, beers, or wine, become quite destructive towards me. He is the only one who managed to deprive me of my self-esteem or identity, temporarily. He used to say that a British man’s way of saying 'I love you' is to put his woman down." Drummond is listed as one of her husbands. Hollander claimed to have "turned gay" around 1997, establishing a long-term relationship with a Dutch poet called Dia. In January 2007, she married a Dutch man, Philip de Haan, in Amsterdam.
Films and other works
Hollander has been depicted in film five times:
- The Life and Times of Xaviera Hollander, an X-rated film released in 1974, portrayed by Samantha McLaren
- The Best Part of a Man, released in 1975, portrayed by Artistae Stiftung
- The Happy Hooker, released in 1975, portrayed by Lynn Redgrave
- The Happy Hooker Goes to Washington, released in 1977, portrayed by Joey Heatherton
- The Happy Hooker Goes Hollywood, released in 1980, portrayed by Martine Beswick
Hollander appears in at least two films:
- My Pleasure Is My Business, released in 1975 and directed by Al Waxman, as Gabrielle
- Xaviera Hollander, the Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary, a documentary released in 2008 and directed, jointly produced, photographed and edited by Robert Dunlap, and she made additional writing contributions to the script
- Robin Moore; Yvonne Dunleavy; Xaviera de Vries Hollander (1971). The Happy Hooker: My Own Story. Sphere Books. ISBN 978-0-900735-13-4.
Moore took Hollander's dictation, and Dunleavy transcribed the results.
- Letters to the Happy Hooker. New York: Warner Paperback Library. 1973. ISBN 978-0-446-78277-7.
- Xaviera!: Her Continuing Adventures. New York: Warner Paperback Library. 1973.
- Xaviera Goes Wild. New York: Warner Paperback Library. 1974.
- Xaviera on the Best Part of a Man. New York: New American Library. 1975.
- Marilyn Chambers (1976). Xaviera Meets Marilyn Chambers. New York: Warner Paperback Library.
- Xaviera's Supersex: Her Personal Techniques for Total Lovemaking. New York: New American Library. 1976.
- Xaviera's Fantastic Sex. New York: New American Library. 1978. ISBN 978-0-451-15104-9.
- Xaviera's Magic Mushrooms. Sevenoaks, Kent: New English Library. 1981. ISBN 978-0-450-05064-0.
- The Inner Circle. London: Granada. 1983.
- Fiesta of the Flesh. London: Panther. 1984. ISBN 978-0-586-06195-4.
- The Best of Xaviera. Sydney: Horwitz Grahame. 1985. ISBN 978-0-7255-1841-7.
- Knights in the Garden of Spain. London: Grafton. 1988. ISBN 978-0-586-07432-9.
- Child No More: A Memoir. New York: ReganBooks. 2002. ISBN 978-0-06-001417-9.
- The Happy Hooker's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex: 69 Orgasmic Ways to Pleasure a Woman. New York: Skyhorse Pub. 2008. ISBN 978-1-60239-240-3.
- Hollander, Xaviera (1983). Lucinda, My Lovely. Henley-on-Thames. ISBN 978-0-85628-118-1.
- Hollander, Xaviera (1984). Lucinda: Hot Nights on Xanthos. Henley-on-Thames. ISBN 978-0-85628-129-7.
(Originally published 1983)
- Erotic Enterprises Inc. Henley-on-Thames: Ellis. 1985. ISBN 978-0-85628-142-6.
- Co-written with John Drummond: Happily Hooked. Panther. 1985. ISBN 0-586-06399-4.
- The Erotic Adventures of Sandra. 1986.
- The Golden Phallus of Osiris Trilogy:
- Co-written with John Drummond: Let's Get Moving. Grafton. 1988. ISBN 0-586-07431-7.
- Lucinda and Other Lovelies. Ellis. 1990. ISBN 978-0-85628-198-3.
Collects Lucinda, My Lovely; Lucinda: Hot Nights on Xanthos; and Erotic Enterprises Inc.
- Ross, Deborah (8 December 2012). "Xaviera Hollander: Is the Happy Hooker still happy after all these years?". The Independent. Retrieved 29 July 2013.
- Che, Cathay (20 August 2002). "The Happy Hooker gets the girl". The Advocate: 80–3.
- Hollander, Xaviera (1971). The Happy Hooker: My Own Story. Sphere Books. ISBN 978-0-06-001416-2.
- Woodson, Bert (18 April 2014). "Interview: Xaviera Hollander, the Happy Hooker". Feminine Collective. Retrieved 14 December 2020.
- "5 Police Corruption Scandals that Rocked New York City". New York Post. 28 December 2015. Retrieved 11 September 2017.
- "Notorious New York City brothels: 'Manhattan Madam' Kristin Davis supplied hookers for clients including Eliot Spitzer". New York Daily News. 6 March 2012. Retrieved 10 December 2018.
- John Cassidy, "The hell-raiser", Sydney Morning Herald, 9 December 2000, Good Weekend, p. 80
- "Xaviera Hollander's 'Happy House Bed&Breakfast'". xavierahollander.com. Retrieved 10 December 2018.
- Faber, Judy (2 January 2007). "Happy Hooker Gets Hitched". www.cbsnews.com. Retrieved 10 December 2018.
- "Happy Hooker Musical". www.xavierahollander.com. Retrieved 10 December 2018.
- "Documentary,The Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary". www.xavierahollander.com. Retrieved 10 December 2018.