Lavender marriage is the popular term used to describe a male-female marriage in which one or both of the partners was homosexual–or possibly bisexual. The more general term is mixed-orientation marriage, which is in turn a specialized instance of a marriage of convenience, in which the marriage is formed for some reason other than the romantic attachment assumed to be the basis of modern marriages, for legal reasons involving inheritance or immigration, for example.
The partners in a lavender marriage were concealing the fact that the sexual orientation of at least one of them was not primarily heterosexual. The term lavender marriage dates from the late twentieth century and is used almost exclusively to characterize certain marriages of public celebrities in the first half of the twentieth century, primarily before World War II, when public attitudes toward homosexuality made it impossible to pursue a public career, notably in the Hollywood film industry, while acknowledging one's homosexuality. One of the earliest uses of the phrase appeared in the British press in 1995.
With the inclusion of morality clauses in the contracts of Hollywood actors in the 1920s, some closeted stars to contracted into marriages of convenience to protect their public reputations and preserve their careers. A noteworthy exception that demonstrated the precarious position of the public homosexual was that of William Haines, who brought his career to a sudden end at the age of 35. He refused to end his relationship with his male partner Jimmy Shields and enter into a marriage at the direction of his studio employer Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer. The term lavender marriage has been used to characterize these couples/individuals:
- The 1923 marriage of Rudolph Valentino with lesbian costume and set designer Natacha Rambova, disguising her relationship with Alla Nazimova.
- The English broadcaster and journalist Nancy Spain considered entering a lavender marriage to disguise her relationship with Joan Werner Laurie, a magazine and book editor.
- The marriage of Robert Taylor and Barbara Stanwyck possibly disguised her bisexuality and has been characterized as lavender for that reason, but it was prompted by the need to protect both their reputations after a Photoplay magazine article reported they had been living together for years while unmarried.
- Actor Rock Hudson, troubled by rumors that Confidential magazine was planning to expose his homosexuality, married Phyllis Gates, a young woman employed by his agent, in 1955.
- The term has been applied to the marriage of Tyrone Power and French actress Annabella in 1939, though both appear to have in fact been heterosexual.
- American theater actress and producer Katharine Cornell married theater director Guthrie McClintic in 1921. She only appeared in productions he directed and they lived together in their Manhattan townhouse until his death in 1961.
- Boston marriage
- Hollywood marriage
- Mariage blanc, an asexual marriage undertaken for the protection of one party
- Sham marriage
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